I'm being very unreasonable but

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I'm on a Facebook mum's group and people KEEP misspelling "choking" as "chocking". WHY?!?! This spelling mistake doesn't even make sense.

You get a whole post spelled completely correctly and then - "chocking/chocked/chock"

It's giving me the rage.

MrsRyan

I'm actually also dyslexic but these things still give me the rage (unreasonably I said!!!)

I have to laugh at myself, it helps me . I'm sorry the thread upset you, it was not my intention.

Don't read the thread if it offends you. I'm sure there's plenty I do which pisses people off but I would avoid threads moaning about those things because people are entitled to moan and rant. Also no one is saying "god those dyslexic people get on my tits"

MrsRyan - but your dyslexia makes you conscious of your difficulties with language and you spend time to proof read and check, because you care. Dyslexia is not always the reason for poor spelling, and where there is the function to use spell check, there should be fewer instances.

My current annoyance is people writing turnt instead of turned..
and ongoing I hate ect when it should be etc

MrsRyan, I think we can all read. If you don't like what people say on these threads, don't read them.

I will point out to you, though, that the reason these things bother me is because I have OCD, and one of my obsessions since I was a very young child has been correct use of language, in myself and others. This is because I get very concerned that people will get mocked or be embarrassed if people notice, so I want to try to help people avoid this (although I know that people often misunderstand this, so I try not to correct people unless I know they would prefer this).

So, the next time you are having a self-righteous rant about this, bear in mind that your empathy might not be as well developed as you thought.

Actually I have another one - "his" instead of "he's" as in "his going to London"

And the other way round - "he's book", "he's family". It's even odder when it's used both correctly and incorrectly in the same sentence, e.g. "He's asked he's family". Surely people can see that the first he's is a completely different construction and word from the second?

Omg I've never seen "he's" used as in "he's family"

'Women' instead of 'woman'. Also the latest mumsnet trend of using 'mom' instead of 'mum'. Drives me crazy!!

I used to have a boyfriend who would text me "Hey sweaty I miss you"

I am assuming he meant sweetie. But I didn't give him the chance to correct himself as I was mildly offended

As someone who has a lot to do with dyslexia, I know that in the vast majority of cases these errors don't arise as a result of dyslexia, which tends to cause a rather different type of error in any event; there is simply no reason why dyslexia in itself should cause anyone to write could of instead of could have, for instance.

ijustdont, I think the 'mumsnet trend' of saying mom is actually people using their regionally appropriate version of the word. I believe it is particularly used in the West Midlands.

Now I get why autocorrect says chocking! I didn't realise that it was an actual word either, just assumed that I'd spelt choking wrong at some point and it was coming back to haunt me! I wonder if people assume it's correct because they don't realise that it's an entirely different word and it's not like English has sensible grammatical rules...

Chester draws anyone?
Pacifically instead of specifically.

That's interesting badtime, I didn't realise the spelling varied from region to region in the UK; assumed it was another example of creeping Americanisation.

Weary instead of wary drives me mad...I can understand it as a misspelling but I know some people who say it like that too...I'm sure I googled it once to see if I was missing something

Bedtime if you worry about people being mocked and embarrassed, but you know people don't like to be corrected, why do it? Your posts don't seem to be filled with genuine concern for others. Perhaps read what I have wrote and try and see how you can make someone else feel hurt and embarrassed rather than call them self-rightous and try and take that on board?

Thatwas no I don't take the time to check and proof read everything. Maybe something official. Facebook, texts, mumsnet- no way in hell am I spell checking and proof reading just so people don't get annoyed and mock me.

I only really know this because of MN!

I have also heard some Scots speakers (in Scotland and NI) say 'mom', but I don't know if that was more of an accent thing.

Zuleika I would love to know what it is you do in relation to dyslexia because from what you have wrote you honestly don't have a clue.

"Chester draws"

MrsRyan just hide the thread.

As a West Midlands person I grew up with 'Mom' as the common spelling (common as in most usual, not 'common' in the Hyacinth Bucket sense). I was quite shocked to be criticised in adulthood for using an American spelling.

Back to annoying examples, 'off of' drives me to murderous thoughts

chocking has been seen on MN as well as FB (and not just this thread). It annoys me a bit.

But as someone has already mentioned, the one that makes me bite my tongue in frustration every single time is "loose" instead of "lose". They're not pronounced the same, there is no basis whatsoever to use loose when you mean lose - and where do they think the word "lost" comes from?!

Angle instead of Angel always makes me cringe because of the sentences it always appears in like - 'RIP Nanna, my very own guardian angle in the sky, with all the other angles now nanna' ... it just never seems appropriate to correct them.

MrsRyan, can you point out where I did it on this thread?

Oh yeah, I did it to correct someone who was criticising people for their dialect usage. I will do that all day, and I'm proud of it.

My other posts were commenting on usage (expanding on someone else's post, lamenting the tautological use of 'year anniversary'), not correcting anyone.

Also, you seem not to have heard of OCD. It's Obsessive Compulsive Disorder. It means I have a psychiatic disorder which involves obsessive reactions to certain things and compulsions to do certain things; in this case I feel an overwhelming discomfort at seeing errors which I think will lead to embarrassment, and a compulsion (which I have largely learned to control) to try to help people avoid this.

I don't generally go onto general thread and say, 'It's not 'my husband didn't do anything for my 10-year anniversary', he didn't do anything for your 10th anniversary'. That would be cuntish, and different to commenting on linguistic annoyances on a thread about linguistic annoyances.

And you are self-righteous.

Argh, don't get me started, I'll be here all day!

• defiantly instead of definitely (unbelievable how many times I see that one, all from different people. It means something completely different!

• should of, could of, would of. HAVE!!! Not of. Grr.

• cum instead of come Please, stop it now.

• Are instead of our

It's all totally discusting and needs clamping down on spelling mistake intended before anyone shouts at me

I have a FB friend who uses the (non-) word 'barmee' constantly, instead of 'balmy'.

As in, 'What a barmee day!'

Don't understand how you could keep using a word that you've never actually seen in print?!

Proud of embarrassing people. Yes, and I'm the self-righteous one, ok then. Having OCD is not a free for all to not care about other people's feelings.
Why should I hide it? So you can all carry on laughing at people for their poor spelling and grammar,.when there is someone pointing out how hurtful it may be? Why not just stop and realise how shitty it comes across.