To make DS go to this party?

[Rollergirl1]

DS (8) received an invitation from a boy in his class for his birthday. He doesn't play with the boy at all.

Just to give some background the boy has quite significant behavioural problems and I think he has a statement. He has anger issues and can get quite aggressive and disruptive in class (throwing chairs around and lashing out) and there have also been cases of him biting and punching other children in the class. But DS says he has been a lot better lately. There was also another boy in the class who was very very disruptive and he was excluded about a year ago.

Anyway, it is a laser quest party and DS really likes this activity. I asked DS if he wanted to go when we first got the invitation and he said that he wanted to see who else from his class was going. He kept forgetting to ask other people though and in the end he said yes he wanted to go so I replied to the mum saying yes.

Since then he has found out that not really anyone else from his class is going but the boy that was excluded is. Now DS doesn't want to go. I am telling him that he has to as we replied to say we were and it is not fair to back out at the last minute. Also I feel a bit sorry for the boy if not many people are going (although I don't actually know who has been invited).

DS is really dreading going now and I feel bad making him but think that if we let him back out now it is not giving a good message.

WWYD?

Wow! Can't believe how many people are saying it's ok to force a young boy to go and spend time with people on his own, he's frightened of. Of course god shouldn't be forced to go. You would be sending a message that his fears and opinions don't matter.

Read the whole thread Some days. You might learn something. Oh, and have a

Damn you special needs parents for wanting to give your child a nice party like all his other friends, how selfish of you! Big eye roll.

My friends ds 9 who sounds very similar to this boy, is in a PRU, at first he was lasting out and violent, then after a little bit, he no longer and is fantastic tgere with no incidences. Makes me wonder how this boys school is managing him, or not, or wether he is in the right setting. somedays RTFT please!!!!

This is a little boy, not a horrid monster to be feared. Run run for your lives type thing.

I agre midsummer it's often the parents, fears, ignorance, lack of understanding, as demonstrated by some on here. Parents can sit down with their child and talk to them about why they feel that way, and explain about the disability and how it affects their peer, why he reacts that way. Come up with a compromise, not all or nothing!

Yay! I'm glad this worked out so well. Really glad I came back to check as well.

Good result for ALL, and as a PP said, OP, you might never know how much it meant to hosts family.

Nicknameused. Gosh thank you! Entitled to my own opinion. That's what forums are for. There you go, you've learnt something (hopefully). Just because someone doesn't agree with someone else, doesn't mean they're wrong. Here you go

Yes glad you came back to update.. Hope some people can learn something from this.

I find it odd the people would thing the parents of the party boy would put him in a situation where he would be overwhelmed or unable to cope.

Glad all boys had a good time.