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To have had a little snigger, even though it's really not funny

225 replies

potentialqualms · 12/10/2016 19:13

Friend of a friend type situation. He told his long-term live in girlfriend it was over 5 weeks ago. She didn't take it well and they haven't yet sorted out who's going to move out etc (I've no idea of any details of their relationship or if she's entitled to feel wronged etc)

Anyway, he's been excited to have qualified for the World Championships in a fairly obscure sport and arrived at the airport for his flight this morning. At check-in, he discovered the photo page from his passport is missing!

It's not funny. It's terrible. But I will admit my first reaction was a little snigger at the genius!

What's made you laugh when it really shouldn't have?

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deydododatdodontdeydo · 13/10/2016 09:49

Didn't snigger, but I will do if I hear she is arrested, charged and sued for damages.

Roussette · 13/10/2016 09:58

To all the people saying it depends on what he did....how does that even matter?

But it does matter doesn't it? Maybe he was just in a relationship that wasn't working, he was a decent guy and he wanted to finish it and she went nuclear.

Roussette · 13/10/2016 10:00

Grin I doubt the bloke cut the page out of his own passport thereby denying him the chance to compete in something he'd worked for.

BowieFan · 13/10/2016 10:29

This is hilarious.

It's petty, but hilarious.

It's not quite as petty as the woman I know who went to the trouble of buying lots of facebook ads and specifically targeting them at her ex, with adverts for things like dildos and BDSM gear. It made him paranoid for a while, thinking somebody was looking at his browsing history!

Natsku · 13/10/2016 10:33

Have to admit I sniggered even though its a horrible thing to do to someone and I hope she gets some consequence for that but the first reaction was a snigger.

I almost had something as bad happen because of my ex - I was taking DD out of the country because of a family crisis, got to border control to find out he had called them up the evening before and put a block on her passport. I had the last laugh because border control let us go through in the end anyway but such a horrid thing to do to someone. He nicked my British passport too, the cunt.

SoupDragon · 13/10/2016 12:24

It's petty, but hilarious.

How the hell is it petty? There is nothing "petty" about it!

Sallystyle · 13/10/2016 12:39

I don't care if he cheated on her or whatever.

It's a pathetic thing to do. What happened to self-respect and having the high ground?

Not trying to do a thread about a thread, just an observation and a realisation that feminism, to some women, is all about the women at any cost to men and regardless of how vile a woman can be. Pretty shit for those of us who have sons though, I would have thought?

Yep.

And it is complete bullshit that people would respond the same way if it was a man who ruined a woman's passport. There would be hardly any sniggering.

Temporaryname137 · 13/10/2016 12:41

I'd be wondering what else she'd done!

dovesong · 13/10/2016 12:46

Good lord. That's awful but made me snigger despite myself.

I liked that story on Reddit that recently made the rounds - a guy cheated on his girlfriend. She knew he watched Game Of Thrones the night after it was broadcast thanks to work hours, so she texted him spoilers to ruin it for him every week. He blocked her number so she did it via Facebook, he blocked that account and she made another one etc. Genius.

LyingWitchInTheWardrobe2726 · 13/10/2016 13:38

Perhaps he will have his 'revenge' if he reports this to the police and she ends up with a criminal record?

I'm sure all the sniggering will stop then, yes?

Some of the posters here are beyond ridiculous and must be horrendously needy in real life.

QueenofallIsee · 13/10/2016 13:51

I have told this one before but I laughed when DD (aged about 12 then) got a biro stuck in her train track braces. School had to call me to take her to the dentist and when I saw her sat in the foyer with one biro hanging over her lips like a walrus tusk, I fel about laughing. Bad mother maybe, but I laughed anyway

Dieu · 13/10/2016 13:54

Beyond awful. People just make themselves look like fannies when they do stuff like this. Unless he cheated of course.
Of course, there would be an outcry if it was a man who did this to a woman.

littleprincesssara · 13/10/2016 13:58

I honestly don't see how anyone can find this amusing.

Childish and not clever in the slightest.

And that's ignoring the fact she probably fucked things up for a bunch of completely uninvolved people.

High level sports are a massive deal, and even with solo sports there are coaches, funders, entire teams behind the athlete. All those people will have put their blood sweat and tears into this sportsman's career for years (not to mention their time and money), and this woman has completely screwed them over for some petty prank because she can't handle rejection.

Bubbinsmakesthree · 13/10/2016 14:30

High level sports are a massive deal, and even with solo sports there are coaches, funders, entire teams behind the athlete.

To be fair it could easily be an amateur event in a niche sport which has none of this. My DH is hoping to qualify for the GB team in a sport - I don't think he'd get anything except a GB t-shirt to wear! Nevertheless - it'd be a massive deal for DH and he'd be devastated if someone sabotaged him if he qualified.

I like the Game of Thrones spoilers - that's the kind of petty revenge I could get behind!

TaraCarter · 13/10/2016 14:50

I just feel sick for him. Totally and utterly sick.

This is so far over the line, you can't even see the line. Doing something like that is self-absorbed vindictiveness in the extreme. I've known men and women who would do things like this, and they are nasty small-minded me, me, me! people in all aspects of their lives.

VeryBitchyRestingFace · 13/10/2016 14:51

Fwiw I bet he did something to deserve it

Quite, Milkyface.

Just what virtually every bloke who's ever battered his partner to a pulp has said, in fact.

MidSqueak · 13/10/2016 15:01

So true VeryBitchy - this thread is an uncomfortable reminder of how far we still have to go to realise that equality is a two way street. All this congratulatory, get the bastard, he deserves it malice makes me despair.

RhodaBorrocks · 13/10/2016 15:08

I don't condone any revenge that's illegal. Prawns in the curtain rails is a good one though.

However I could be a little more sympathetic towards her reaction if he was being an arse. I had one XDP who told me he was going on an all expenses paid trip and lorded it over me. We were already in the last throes of our relationship. Just before he left on his trip he told me it had been extended to me and DS too but he didn't want to tell me and haha now I couldn't go because I didn't have a passport.

In the 2 weeks he was gone, I found me and DS a flat, packed up, moved out and left him the mouldy mattress he'd thrown in the back garden and never taken to the tip to sleep on. I also left him with the full rent and bills to pay singlehandedly because he'd been a total cocklodger.

The other time I never took any revenge, but karma did. My high-school boyfriend split up with me just before our A Levels because he thought he was vastly superior to me and was going to go to a Russell group university whilst I was no less intelligent but had opted to go to an ex poly and he couldn't be with a girl who would show him up like that.

You know what's coming don't you?

He failed nearly all his exams. He managed to get into an ex poly but dropped out after the first semester. Meanwhile I went on to get an undergrad, postgrad and multiple postgrad diplomas as well as turning down a place to study at Imperial College of Medicine. My family still sniggers over it.

gingerboy1912 · 13/10/2016 15:14

Op?

milkyface · 13/10/2016 15:16

Just what virtually every bloke who's ever battered his partner to a pulp has said, in fact.

Ah yes because I am condoning domestic abuse AngryBiscuit

OnionKnight · 13/10/2016 15:19

No but why are you betting that he did something to deserve it? Is it because he's a man and the women couldn't possibly have over reacted and done something stupid?

VeryBitchyRestingFace · 13/10/2016 15:20

Ah yes because I am condoning domestic abuse angrybiscuit

I didn't say you were. Try again. Once more, with feeling.

MidSqueak · 13/10/2016 15:34

And yes, LyingWitch, makes me fearful as the mother of a son.

milkyface · 13/10/2016 16:44

Well obviously yes she could be batshit .... I'm just speculating....

However on mn, than means I advocate domestic abuse. Hm.

I didn't say you were. Try again. Once more, with feeling

Wtaf are you trying to imply here?

I'm not commenting on this thread any more seeing as you all think I am some kind of domestic abuse sympathiser or something, which I clearly am not.

Mycraneisfixed · 13/10/2016 17:33

Terrible thing to do. But I confess I laughedGrin