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To have had a little snigger, even though it's really not funny

225 replies

potentialqualms · 12/10/2016 19:13

Friend of a friend type situation. He told his long-term live in girlfriend it was over 5 weeks ago. She didn't take it well and they haven't yet sorted out who's going to move out etc (I've no idea of any details of their relationship or if she's entitled to feel wronged etc)

Anyway, he's been excited to have qualified for the World Championships in a fairly obscure sport and arrived at the airport for his flight this morning. At check-in, he discovered the photo page from his passport is missing!

It's not funny. It's terrible. But I will admit my first reaction was a little snigger at the genius!

What's made you laugh when it really shouldn't have?

OP posts:
Sallystyle · 13/10/2016 08:12

What is genius about it?

Ruining someone's passport is hardly genius.

Relationships end. However, I don't get revenge, it just makes people look pathetic.

EllenDegenerate · 13/10/2016 08:13

I think context needs to be considered here.

People aren't laughing because it's a feasible option, they are laughing because whilst the behaviour is certainly reprehensible this in no way precludes its sheer ingenuity.

We are at liberty to appreciate that which is not acceptable behaviour if such behaviour has other merits.

Black humour innit Grin

EllenDegenerate · 13/10/2016 08:14

Oh and I hope she gets handed over to the plod too.

Just makes the whole thing more interesting.

OnionKnight · 13/10/2016 08:19

It's a pretty shit thing to do and I hope that there are consequences for her because it's criminal damage, it's not a crime to dump someone for fucks sake.

flippinada · 13/10/2016 08:25

In the absence of any evidence that he treated her badly, this isn't funny at all. It's a bloody awful, vindictive and nasty thing to do.

gingerboy1912 · 13/10/2016 08:30

Not sure how I feel tbh if he was an absolute bastard then yes it's funny if he felt the relationship had run its course and tried to finish it in a mature and thoughtful way then no it's a horrid thing to do to someone. It all depends on him afaic. What's he like op?

MilkandAssal · 13/10/2016 08:32

Bah ha ha ha!

AnchorDownDeepBreath · 13/10/2016 08:35

I know my passport details off by heart, and anyone likely to book me flights (DP, work) have them recorded, so it's not unbelievable that he wouldn't have checked the photo page is still in situ.

Peanutandphoenix · 13/10/2016 08:40

Haha pure evil genius I love it. I did kind of the same thing to a fella when I broke up with them turned out he was married so I spent 3 weeks plotting my revenge I made the fucking idiot meet me at the airport he didn't take it too well when he found out that I never had any intentions of getting on the flight and that I was still at home at my mums house lol true story never ever piss me off. I also sell things that fellas leave at mine when we break up I'm an evil bitch I know.

Babblehag · 13/10/2016 08:42

A young couple I once knew were splitting up, he'd found someone else and left her heartbroken and with an 18 month old. He also wouldn't move out and kept inviting new gf into their home every time wife went out. Wife took it upon herself to put pepper in every pair of his boxers, and he thought he'd caught a nasty std.

BipBippadotta · 13/10/2016 08:50

I know someone who pissed in the OW's perfume, when she went to pick up the last of her stuff from the flat she used to share with her cheating ex. Horrified admiration is exactly what I felt.

With the passport situation I can't snigger because it makes me so anxious for him (nothing in the world worse than missing an event you're expected at), and for her when he comes home full of rage. It makes me feel guilty and anxious and frightened all at once just thinking about it!

Floggingmolly · 13/10/2016 08:54

And still the sniggering continues... Hmm. This thread is completely sickening, tbh. The notion that a compos mentis adult deciding a relationship has run it's course deserves to be "punished" is straight from the 50's. Confused
Has she issued a breach of promise action against him as well?? A man doing this would have them screaming for his balls for earrings, not calling him a genius.
And Anyfucker, if you're still reading; you have gone through the floor in my estimation for your response, not that that'll keep you awake at night.

LyingWitchInTheWardrobe2726 · 13/10/2016 08:59

I suspect OP knows the bare bones of why the relationship ended but isn't saying because she wants a long thread and possibly a bit of a ruck between the two factions of posters either saying the woman's behaviour was disgusting - or that his was.

Speculation is key, eh OP? Wink

Roussette · 13/10/2016 09:04

If all he did is finish with her, it is beyond the pale. Appalling. Dreadful. Are those on here cheering it doing so because it is a woman doing it to a man? I would love to see the responses if it was a man cutting out the photo page of a woman's passport. (as floggingmolly says)

It's even worse because it was his hobby and a championship he was entered into. If it had been work, not quite so bad really. I can't get over how vengeful and nasty it is and how surprised I am that posters think it's a hilarious thing to do.

abigamarone · 13/10/2016 09:06

Does anyone genuinely believe it to be ingenious?

And I'm a bit :-S at anyone laughing at their kids bring upset.
Turned into a bit of an odd thread really.

INeedNewShoes · 13/10/2016 09:13

I would say that he made a very wise decision breaking up with her.

She must be an utter bitch to have done that.

2kids2dogsnosense · 13/10/2016 09:17

Bitchyface
If she'd sprinkled seeds all over his carpets then watered them

That is INSPIRED! (rushes off to garden centre)

milkyface · 13/10/2016 09:21

We don't know anything about their relationship, so to call her evil or a bunny boiler or saying he's well rid isn't fair.

How do we know he hasn't done something equally as bad or worse to her?

As for reporting her to the police? Seriously? Could you really be arsed!

As for this...

We wouldn't laugh at a man with a crazy ex that came on here clearly looking for support. This is clearly an anecdotal story about a crazy ex with none of the parties involved on here feeling upset or looking for support

No maybe not laugh but you don't get much support on here if you post about your husband or partners crazy ex because 'you dont know what really happened you don't know what she's really like he's just telling you she's crazy'

Because the first wife/gf is always right on mn, and it's your dh/dp telling you lies obv.

KitKats28 · 13/10/2016 09:23

Floggingmolly I agree with every word of your post, not that anyone would give a shit about my opinion 😉

To all the people saying it depends on what he did....how does that even matter? It's no skin off your nose if he was a twat, and bunny boiling is bunny boiling however you look at it. If a man did this to a woman, the screams of righteous indignation would break the internet 😕

flippinada · 13/10/2016 09:29

I think LyingWitch has it.

milkyface · 13/10/2016 09:30

I just hate referring to anyone as a bunny boiler I think it's absolutely awful.

It's funny because if you get cheated on or whatever and your husband is a shit (which this man could well be we don't know) you get told to throw his stuff outside change the locks etc etc etc but cutting a page out of a passport is seemingly so much worse than being locked out of your own house and finding your stuff in the garden.

MN is backwards sometimes.

Fwiw I bet he did something to deserve it

OhNoNotMyBaby · 13/10/2016 09:31

I think it's terrible. A once-in-a-lifetime achievement and opportunity blown because of petty revenge. Not funny at all. Just crap.

MilkTwoSugarsThanks · 13/10/2016 09:41

Of course it might not have been the ex-girlfriend that did it. I think they'd struggle to prove without doubt that she did.

Could be the ultimate stitch-up and the guy did it himself!

Themoreitsnowstiddlypom · 13/10/2016 09:41

obviously we have no idea whats gone on between them, but even for speculation purposes if he has been a twat to her, she is now also a twat, nowt like trying to retain a bit of pride.
I can understand those who snigger, what goes around comes around and all that, but really? woudln't it have been even better to have waited and something happen that didn't actually have anything to do with her?
Sorry for being a kill joy but I've never had the energy for spitefullness i think I'd be to busy trying to pull myself together after being dumped.

LyingWitchInTheWardrobe2726 · 13/10/2016 09:43

My illusions are actually a bit shattered. There's another thread I'm on at the moment, with a distinctly feminist vibe and quite a few of the posters on that thread are on this one. They're so eloquent and considered on that one - and so blisteringly vapid and unjust on this one. Confused

Not trying to do a thread about a thread, just an observation and a realisation that feminism, to some women, is all about the women at any cost to men and regardless of how vile a woman can be. Pretty shit for those of us who have sons though, I would have thought?

Urgh. I'm off to do some work.

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