A minor celeb came on to me inappropriately should I report?

[Iggypoppie]

Got a bit of a dilemma.

After watching the jammy Saville doc last week I remembered that earlier this year a current v minor TV presenter several times touched my leg at a charity dinner. It was in a busy room and I was too shocked/confused to ask him to stop! I had only just met him and was three months pregnant so wasn't flirting and I believe his behaviour was sleazy if not predatory.

This person has already been reprimanded for inappropriate behaviour at work in the past so I believe he has form.

My question is, should I tell his employer even though he wasn't attending in a work capacity? Or should I just email him and say that I am on to him?

I don't want a fuss by the way and it was possible that he was just being "friendly" but it occurred to me that Saville got away so long because of women minimising incidents like this one.

Posters have been asking you to drop it for ages.

But now you want it dropped so everyone has to drop it?

Ok fine.

Regard it dropped.

and OP has been very cool and calm about this. she deserves a medal

Drop it

Instantly i was askimg for advice on here .i didn't realise mumsnet wasnt a free for anyone to discuss

Drop i

apologies for being new and ignorant and not knowing how mumsnet works. let us just forget this thread

Drop

thanks for the flowers, people who gave them. didn't notice them earlier

Dro

how do i send them back? it was Hex who sent them to me and one other? i want to give her some too?

instantly and just

Enough.

You're both reported.

Dr

i didn't realise mumsnet wasnt a free for anyone to discuss

Of course anyone can discuss. Just make sure you read the OP and are posting on the right thread. If the right thread doesn't exist then start one. You will get support.

Just - In a few posts you have said you have D.I.D, PTSD, an eating disorder and suspect you have an ASC. You've also said a few things that a lot of people will find upsetting.

It's clear that you're in distress and aren't well. I think you should try to not post because you're just going to become more upset. And I think MN should step in if you're not able to do that to be honest.

Justagirl, this is not your thread. If you were abused that is shocking, the op was not abused as you were. It is nothing to do with being a celebrity or not but havering some common sense in what is deemed use and what is not.

What are you doing instant?

instantly stop biting, just report and move on.

Me? Dropping it.

The thread is fucked anyway.

Er...no...you should have told him to sod off. Just because he's a celeb doesn't mean he didn't get the wrong end of the stick. Ross Kemp chatted me up once and then nicked all the cigs I'd bought for an evening out.

The wrong end of what stick?! The OP was repeatedly touched on the leg by a stranger. How exactly could it have been seen as acceptable?

i did read the OP. in my culture, that would be considered abuse but perhaps in US it is different? i am assuming you are in the US

Chatting up is quite different from touching a leg under a table.
Chatting up is meant to establish if the person is interested, whereas touching the leg removes the consent from the equation, leaving the woman to fight it off. Not at all the same.

Evening folks. This thread seems to have shot off at rather a tangent and we can't help but feel a little sorry for the OP. Could we ask everyone to return to answering only the original post and hopefully we can get the thread back on track? It would be an enormous shame for her and a little unfair if it turned into a bunfight and had to be deleted.

yes, i wondered that Lweji. i am English originally and have moved back there recently and i was under the impression that under British law unwanted contact could be sexual harassment

perhaps in US it is different? i am assuming you are in the US

No, this is a UK website and most of us are in the UK. Not all, obviously.