Not to want my daughter's initials to be 'S.H.A.G'

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I'm not a troll, I promise. I just signed up today as I need some help. My husband is completely settled on the name Sophie for our baby. Our 2 middle names, Harriet and Anya are our parents middle names which we have to use as it's family tradition. However in the order that we thought of, it would spell SHA and our surname begins with a G Would our daughter be teased or would it be ok?

He's been horrible. He's not the one who will be teased. Swap them round or he loses a name choice. I have three children and we were careful that their three initials didn't spell anything with issues. Using full initials happens quite a lot in my family so it would be an issue I'd feel they spelt SHAG, PRAT, STI etc etc.

IT will definitely be noticed. Just change the middle names round. No biggie.

Yes, put your foot down!

Nobody uses their middle names as their initials especially if they are crap ones. Your daughters initials will be SG sounds absolutely fine.

I would make your dh read this thread! Just change the middle names around. Don't let her initials spell shag. Really, that would be cruel. My 6 year old is really proud of her middle name because it's the same name as her best friend. Kids love weighting their name out in full. It would get noticed from the word go.

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I don't think changing the middle names round will do it, people will still make the connection when they see SAHG. Go for Charlotte as a first name.

If your husband still doesn't see it, suggest he goes out and tries it out on some of his friends and family. I bet they'll all tell him he's insane.

My initials are KFS. So I spent my whole school career being known as Knife, fork and spoon. And other ruder ones.

Change it Op. Kids do notice.

Don't do it! Kids love to say their full names and your DD will be stuck with embarrassing initials forever

No way can your daughter be shag .... she will be teased at school by kids and forever more. Your dh is a twat.

We were going to call DD1 Bethany (back in the day when it was very popular) but our surname starts with an O. Although I really liked it, I knew I had to forego it because the potential for her to write her initials on artwork at school and the teacher to call out "Whose is this? Who is B.O? Who has B.O.?" was just too great.

We called her something different and I am 100% certain I made the right decision. Use Charlotte. Even SAHG is a taunt waiting to happen - look at FCUK.

I remember when the Beckhams had Brooklyn and they announced he was to be known as BJ (Joseph). Thankfully it seems someone had a word..

Imagine if she married a Turner and wanted to change her surname...

XDP has a G surname. When picking DS's name we had a competition to see who could come up with the most words spelled with initials (no more than 2 middle names allowed), the ruder the better!

So we had SHAG, SLAG, HAG, BAG, FAG, GAG etc.

We did pick a name based on what the initials spelled, but it has a story and is pretty cool. I won't say exactly what it spells as it will out me, but it involves fast cars. DS loves it and it's the only thing that is preventing him from taking my name.

Don't do this to your baby. This is something that will affect your child until she is old enough to change her name by deed poll after years of bullying which will affect her self esteem. Is your DH usually a cruel man or is he just a stubborn idiot who thinks he is always right?

Argh, no YANBU. This is about putting the child first, you're absolutely right!
There is no doubt that kids would latch on to that and not only would she be bullied as soon as they knew the word shag, it'd specifically encourage sexualised bullying! And its not like young women don't have enough of that crap to contend with. Show him this thread of women saying "please don't!!" and ask him to put her future safety and happiness first!

Just say no. Both parents choose the name. If one doesn't like it then it's a no.

Haha Worra that cracked me up

Definitely not to SHAG middle names are a bit irrelevant but they and the initial DO get used, certainly enough to notice that. And you'd be the one having to explain what a shag was when she comes and asks why people are laughing about it at school...

My initials now I'm married are SLY.

I'm an adult and can handle it if it was ever mentioned. A 5-16 year old? Maybe not so much.

CHAG still sounds a bit like shag but not too much. I think both names are pretty. So either CHAG or SAHG. Though like a OP said, it's an easy anagram to do.

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Absolutely change them around. I am a little bit nervous of giving our baby the initials TAG, SHAG would be a deal breaker. For what it's worth Sophia, Anya, Harriet G sounds better anyway. Good luck with your new baby.

My husband is completely settled on the name Sophie for our baby.

What about you? Do you even like Sophie? If you dont change the surname.

Lawyers tend to be known by their initials. This would be mortifying.

Bollocks. Never have I been known by my initials in a professional setting. We have fee earner codes but at one place it was first and last initial only. At another person it was first letter of first name and then first 2 letters of surname together. So Joe Bloggs would have had the fee earner code JBL.

God ..that should have said if your heart isnt set on Sophie, change that *name not surname.

I know an ARS. Think she quite likes it...

I know one who detests it.

Also definitely anya Harriet or you still get HAG.

I have to initial 100s of pages a year. Not cool!