Not to want my daughter's initials to be 'S.H.A.G'

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I'm not a troll, I promise. I just signed up today as I need some help. My husband is completely settled on the name Sophie for our baby. Our 2 middle names, Harriet and Anya are our parents middle names which we have to use as it's family tradition. However in the order that we thought of, it would spell SHA and our surname begins with a G Would our daughter be teased or would it be ok?

We went to a christening where a little boy had those initials. There was a lot of sniggering in the congregation, so people do notice, even if they only hear the names.

Reminds me of the story about the committee set up to rename Sheffield Poly that very nearly agreed on Sheffield Hallam Institute of Technology

My university's email addresses are [email protected] so she'd be [email protected] (I can't imagine anyone else would have inflicted that on their child & they'd ended up there, but for some reason nobody is allowed to be INITIALS1...). With your alumni email address you have the option of swapping to forename[.][email protected] but often people stick with their original from habit &/or nostalgia...

Even before that, of course, some schools still make you put initials on the outside of gym kit, don't they. My school expected full initials to be used to stop kit-sharing & reduce kit losses, so we all knew who the be-acronymed girls were. The COW
4 years above me was [in]famous...

Oh no, no, no - please don't do this to her!

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I work in a school definitely change they will notice. Kids in Yr 6 might notice never mind secondary. We added an extra name to one of my sons because of this type of thing and it wasn't as bad as that.

Lovely names.

I know you say you're not a troll but why would you even ask the question if it's ok or not for your DD's initials to spell out SHAG?? What the heck?! Do you think someone would come on here and say "Yes, it's ok to burden your DD with the initials SHAG?

Next up, your DH likes Sophie Louise Anya G--.

I used to have to use my middle initial at last work (teaching) due to someone already having my first/last initial.
Dh used his initials too and uses all three (law.)

I wouldn't do it.

TBH even swapping the two round I think it could be an issue at school, though less so.

SHAG
SAHG

My son loves the story about how we almost called him Peter - until we realised his initials would have spelled POO.

Another lawyer here known by initials. Only 3 generally but sometimes all of them (for people blessed with lots of names)

I have a friend whose initials were PTO. Whenever she signed off a document people turned over to look at the back. Everytime.

Even mixed up, SAHG isn't great. Honouring grandparents is a lovely thought but you need to honour your child first. There are lots of Sophie's around at the moment. Maybe change that if dropping one or most of the middle names is non negotiable. Dh can't have it all ways.

At work we sign full name the first time on the document and initial all subsequent entries.
I have always been careful about childrens initials after attending a school where we had to have our initials embroidered on the front of our PE tops. My family managed EAT and CAB which were joked about but SHAG would be mortifying.

I think even SAHG is a bit of a risk. Kids notice. Don't do it!

I went to school with a Brigitte Jane. Cue lots of sniggering once we were old enough to realise what her initials meant!

I got dd a monogrammed jacket for dd (8) which she loves from lands end. Couldn't see you getting one for yours.

Definite no from me! My DD's school requires they have initials on her sports kit. Kids will not miss that....probably even SAHG is asking for trouble. Sorry.....

Foot firmly down please! I think the SAHG would be fine because children don't really use initials, just first names.

Change the order of the middle names around, do not give her the initials SHAG. Your H does not have those initials anyway and children can be cruel. She could well be bullied mercilessly as a result of her having such initials.

Another name we quite like is Charlotte. I've just showed my husband this thread. I think he might reconsider! If we swapped the names round and used Charlotte then it would be Charlotte Anya Harriet. I think that's far enough off SHAG! Now I just have to make husband agree.... I know he likes Charlotte as he has told me before. Thanks for the feedback guys

My husband is completely settled on the name Sophie for our baby.

Names should be agreed between parents. If you don't want Sophie, the name goes off the table.

And yes, either ditch the tradition, or swap the names around. There are plenty of places that use initials, and it will definitely be noticed by the child's classmates as they get older. She will be teased and bullies will use this as a hook to be nasty.

Your husbands an idiot if he thinks it won't be a problem.

Don't do it! As a child my friend and I would always notice these things, her initials spelt out LAW which I always thought was cool as mine was a random jumble of letters that didn't spell anything.

Ditto to the person who mentioned Uni email addresses, I only started beginning of Oct and already people have nicknames based on their initials - for example one girl is now known as PAD.

Well, it has made me laugh out loud and I'm over 40, and I told my DH and he laughed out loud too. So yes,nth ewe daft kind of things make adults never mind kids laugh.

Fine, if you end up with silly initials by mistake without realising......but don't go into it knowingly.

I guess some people must have the initials F.U.C.K or worse! HYstercial!

My initials are GAL, I thought it was fantastic as a teenager but I think it looks a bit stupid at work, my email is like this: ##[email protected]. So I am basically referred to as girl which looks a bit immature imo but to be fair to my parents, this was in the days before slang like this.

And people do notice...

Totally unhelpful but Anya and Harriet are both far prettier than Sophie.

My initials used to be PMT and are now PMS....change it !