Not to want my daughter's initials to be 'S.H.A.G'

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I'm not a troll, I promise. I just signed up today as I need some help. My husband is completely settled on the name Sophie for our baby. Our 2 middle names, Harriet and Anya are our parents middle names which we have to use as it's family tradition. However in the order that we thought of, it would spell SHA and our surname begins with a G Would our daughter be teased or would it be ok?

Don't worry about it. I never use my middle initial on anything you only need to put it on her passport . I lumbered my DD with the initials ET or worse ECT (as in electro convulsive therapy) but I am hoping it will be old knowledge and kids won't make the connection

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OP, you say you signed up to MN today, to ask us if you should or shouldn't give your daughter names for which the initials would give her the monogram of SHAG.

And you're claiming you're not a troll. Riiiiiiiiiight.

Definitely swap them! Our son is called H.A. M..... At the time I thought this would not be a problem but the more I think about it, the more it makes me nervous that one day he will hate his name because of it :-(. (If anyone can reassure me, please do...)
But whilst HAM is bad :-(, SHAG is absolutely awful. Please don't listen to your husband!

My 15 year old gets jip for having SEN as initials so SHAG would def cause probs

Of course it's a silly idea. Use your power of veto.

People do notice initials, my ex's spelled out BJS so you can imagine the fun he had at high school....

• Thought I should clarify, The 'fun' I meant was teasing/piss-taking not Bj related fun (as far as I'm aware) haha

Sophie Anya Harriet flows better anyway...

I remember doing a whole week of lessons in school that focused on our initials. We all had to draw them and decorate them and they were stuck on the classroom wall for the whole school year. Imagine SHAG being displayed on her classroom wall, it would be mortifying! Just change them around

Deffo swap the two middle names round. Put your foot down, of course she will be teased. People pick up on anything they can to tease people x

One of my old clients had a network naming convention where they tookthe first 2 letters of the first name (XX) and then as many letters of the surname as they could (YYYYYY).

The IT Help Desk had a call complaining about it every morning - from Anthony Alcock ....

Change your husband ! Ridiculous to let your child have these initials .

I used to go out with a man who called himself by his initials. It was Rat...

I nearly called my daughter ZIT but changed the middle name.

I used to work with someone called A. Pratt

You don't even sound like you're particularly sold on 'Sophie' tbh. She's your dd too, and there are thousands of baby names. If you don't like it, go back to the drawing board.

But yes at the very least swap the middle names. Unless your DH is insanely controlling it really shouldn't be a problem!

The 'handle' of my uni email address used my full initials... Should your daughter encounter a similar process it could be embarrassing for her.

It's been said hundreds of times already, but change the middle names around.

Just joining the lawyer comments
My (big central Lobdon) firm uses 3 initials for everyone. If your 3 are already being used or if you don't have a middle name then X is used as the middle letter.
Whether or not 4 initials are used, or 3, is a bit irrelevant though, because full initials are frequently used for other purposes: eg Affidavit/statement exhibits are always labelled with full initials and referred to as "SHAG 1", "SHAG 2" etc, documents frequently have to be initialled and so on.
This surely can't be exclusive to law.

As other PPs point out, many businesses use initials for email addresses
However, surely all DD has to do is not use the 2nd/3rd initial and just be SHG or SAG?

That said, children do discuss their initials and middle names so it definitely is something to avoid because it WILL be discovered and she will be teased (or taunted).

There's only ever room for two names on official forms, passports etc. Is Harriet his family name by any chance? So he gets first and second name dibs...

People WILL notice. You're in the same class/school for a lot of years. I can remember the middle names of half the kids in my class even now. There wasn't anything as bad as that, but I do remember Lesley Ann who became known as Lesbian - and she was in the year below me but her name made her notorious.

People will notice.

And lets hope your daughter never ends up in a school where she will need her initials on her sports kit. Imagine having SHAG plastered on the back of your sports t shirt.

My son needs his initials on his left thigh of his track suit bottoms, and the left chest of his shirt, as well as on the back of his team jumper. Even "AS" is bad enough, he insists on including his middle initial as AES is better. The chap in the kit shop said he had a girl in the day before who was in hysterics as her initials were COW, so she ended up just doing CW on hers.

Initials matter.

Put your foot down, someone will notice!

Sophie Anya Harriet is just as nice.

Sorry, have to disagree with you Tread, I have two middle names and both are on my passport.

I too had to have my initials on my sports kit...

Your husband is incredibly irresponsible and yes people would notice

I'm sure J is a particularly common middle initial because it generally doesn't occur in the middle of words (obv should be avoided after B).