to be annoyed that my MIL goes in my room?!

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Firstly, this isn't a MIL bashing thread, well, I don't mean to be! We do all tend to get on. They live far away, so she can stay for a while to spend time for GC. Thats all fine. However, when she is here she will go in our room and tidy up - basically go through the wash basket, put clothes away, take clothes out of the wardrobe to iron them (I rarely iron!). Once, she forgot to bring her face moisturiser, I was about to say 'borrow mine' but she said 'luckily I found yours in your bedside table'.....

DH doesn't really see it as a issue but I can't cope with it, just hate the thought of her going through my things and sorting stuff out. DH has said not to say anything as she can be 'sensitive' and is 'just trying to help'. I'd prefer her to spend the time playing with the kids, rather than going through my dirty washing!! AIBU?!

Im sort of glad to feel I'm not alone, left my pil babysitting to go to my dad's funeral some miles away.We came home & whole house was totally rearranged half my precious stuff was thrown out.The worse thing was had tiny patch in garden with my mum's ashes underneath with lavender bush I had planted on top.She said she had weeded garden but had dug up whole area....I was in bits and dh said nothing.This type of behaviour went on for 10 years till I told her to stop being childish and she stormed off in huff.She cut me off (bliss) but dh stood by me for 5 years then died...So to all people out there stand your ground now, be firm but be fair and kind.

I would judt say:

Sorry but it really makes me uncomfortable when you go through my stuff

Just SAY it

My mil has been doing this for years. It's so intrusive! She comes in and makes our bed, empties the wash basket (I'm on top of the washing), cleans non-stop (after I've cleaned the house from top to bottom for her arrival). I've come to realise it's her problem however I don't like being lectured that I'm letting standards slip. She said I only 'need to do housework for 2 hours a day to keep on top of it'. Who does that?!? I have to add she lives on her own and her house looks like a museum.

Thats awful Sasha .
My DH has no time for MIL so he's always been on my side.
We were NC for a few years but relented and let her come up to see the DDs. It was always a Saturday afternoon because I go out with my mum then. She was told to leave as soon as I came home.
We took baby DD around to her and FIL (another git) one day. I noticed her record player was really dusty so got a tissue out and gave it a wee clean 😇😀

They actually told us they felt offended by the mess (it's honestly not that bad) and that we should get cleaners in before Xmas

Did you just tell them they didn't need to come round any more if they were that offended?