To not want MIL to kiss my baby on the lips?

[Firsttimer82]

To be clear I have no problem with parents who kiss their babies/children on the lips, but we never did it in my family. We cuddle, there is a lot of formal and informal forehead kissing that goes on and plenty of cheek kissing. I have DS who is our only child so far and apart from when he launches himself open mouthed onto my face at random like babies do I have not gone in for lip kissing. I hadn't really thought about it until this week.

MIL has been to stay and has repeatedly grabbed the baby and kissed him on the lips. AAAArrrrrgh!!!! Ds clearly doesn't like it and I said to dh in the spirit of you control your parents i'll control mine, to get her to stop. He said "I'll tell her if she does it again." She did it again and no word from dh. It was all I could do to not push her onto the floor Miranda style! AIBU? Its flared up my instincts!!! How do I stop her?

[whathavewedonenow99]

My mil insisted on doing this to my DS. I asked her not to and she told me she was this grandmother and would continue to do it. I realised then I should pick my battles. Went on for a while until he started to turn his head away. Now he won't even hug her which is a bit sad but as he's now a teenager he's taking no chances in case she goes in for the lips :)

[PickAChew]

YANBU. They have lovely soft cheeks and heads to nuzzle. No need to kiss on the lips.

I bloody hated it as a child.

[Wayfarersonbaby]

justgivemeamo you're welcome, I wish more people knew about it! The longer you can keep from transferring adult mouth bacteria to babies, the better the chances of preventing early tooth decay. There is lots about it all over the internet, eg.

www.aapd.org/assets/2/7/Education_-_Caries.pdf

www.parents.com/baby/health/baby-teeth/cavities/

US dentists are a bit more on the case about it than here in the UK.