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What is the rudest thing a fellow parent has said to you?

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weresquirrel · 28/09/2016 21:41

Another parent whose child is in my child's class made a comment about my younger child being ugly Confused. It didn't register at first (I think I was in shock) and I only really took in her comment an hour or so after she had said it.

What is the rudest thing a fellow parent has said to you?

OP posts:
SnookieSnooks · 30/09/2016 19:50

"Your DC has ADHD and, believe me, I know." Said of DC1 at age 4, who was running around like a normal 4yo. DC1 is v v tall and people always assume much older.

missced · 30/09/2016 19:53

Lapharisienne yes that's what I think I did!

KingJoffreysRestingCuntface · 30/09/2016 19:54

I have ADHD.

Makes me laugh when I hear other parents discussing it as though it's a death sentence with a stricken look on their face.

It really isn't. It's just a thing.

Crasterwaves · 30/09/2016 19:54

Told me that dd's delayed speech was because I talked so much she couldn't get a word in edgeways Hmm

SpookyPotato · 30/09/2016 20:01

Can't believe some of these. I either have a really harsh resting bitch face or I'm more of a people avoider than I thought. Some people are arseholes Angry

Pollaidh · 30/09/2016 20:03

Someone told me my miscarriages were probably due to me having a career.

My HR manager spotted me in the street with my baby whilst on mat leave. She knew, from communications with work, that he was seriously ill and I'd had to apply for extra time off. She looked him over and said, in a tone that made clear she thought I was trying it on. "Well he looks absolutely fine to me."
If she hadn't been HR I'd have pointed out that she was somewhat less qualified to judge than the specialist paediatricians at the children's hospital. Fuck's sake, he'd had an operation and was in and out of hospital like a yoyo.

VanillaSugarandChristmasSpice · 30/09/2016 20:26

Fucking hell pollaid that's awful on both counts and on every level.

I've had 3 miscarriages and lost a twin in the womb, but I have 2 children and moved house each time I was pregnant, ie shifting/lifting furniture. People are awful Angry

VulvaInLaw · 30/09/2016 20:29

This week -'you look tired, haven't you got any make up on?!'

This was at 5pm and I was absolutely exhausted and so stressed, wanted to comment on her fake eyebrows but I refrained

dotdotdotmustdash · 30/09/2016 20:30

When I took ds in to work a few weeks after he was born, a colleague commented, "Isn't it odd how two ordinary looking people can have such beautiful children!""

We had this and I didn't mind at all, but it was said informally and with a wink. My children are far better looking than DH or I!

VulvaInLaw · 30/09/2016 20:32

A fellow parent ie MIL told me I miscarried because I wasn't religious enough. Told me how i would have been nearly due at that point etc. Didn't tell her then that I was pregnant again but realised at that point I would always hate her deep deep down Sad

user1471462150 · 30/09/2016 20:38

My son has adhd and we are awaiting asd assesment. He's 9.
Before the adhd diagnosis the senco at his school said " most parents seek a adhd diagnosis as an excuse for their bad behaviour....." so basically don't go down that route.

My delightful mother.." so he mite be autisitc? how do they get that then? Is it the way you have brought him up?

nicolachristine · 30/09/2016 20:43

Recently at the playground. I speak German to my son and another parent knelt down and told him he better learn English or he will have to leave.

jessicarabbit0411 · 30/09/2016 20:46

Ooh I have a couple....DS1 has ASD and I was delighted when he was making friends at primary school. He walked out the gates with one such friend. The other child's mum wrinkled her nose at me and said "bless x (her DS) he always has to befriend the oddballs in the class." Erm....thanks Hmm
I am also a widow, DH died when both my DCs were small. A few years after, I decided to date again and me and my new beau met in a local cafe and must have looked rather "cosy".
One of the mums I knew vaguely from the school gate (and presumably knew my circumstances) looked at us....and then said in theatrical terms "goodness me Jessica.....didnt you let the last one go cold first." Angry

Jonesey1972 · 30/09/2016 21:03

She sounds a bit autistic.

iMogster · 30/09/2016 21:07

Wow, your son has such beautiful eyes and amazing long eyelashes...such a waste on a boy.

Such a shame you have 2 boys as you'll have no one to take after you.

Aren't you sad you'll never be mother of the bride?

Aren't you worried you don't have a daughter to look after you when you're older?

Aren't you worried your boys will marry and move away and not keep in touch?

There are more but you get the idea.

missm0use · 30/09/2016 21:18

Not really rude about my DD but still pretty rude:

My (D)M when explaining to her how difficult my DD's birth was (DD's heart rate dropping from 140 to 25 during contractions and that we both nearly died due to me developing sepsis in labour which just so happened to be in the same hospital that my DF died 2 years before after developing sepsis post op!) cut me off mid-sentence with "well just have a section next time".

"She's not very bright - must be because you had an epidural"

DD WAS 16 hours old!!!!

"X is so excited to be a pops! He'll be much better at it"
DM talking about her DF on the two year anniversary of my DF's death!

gemma19846 · 30/09/2016 21:20

"Why is there a 6 year age gap? Do they not have the same dad?"

CombineBananaFister · 30/09/2016 21:34

Peering into Ds pram. Them: ' awww, bonny looking baby, what a shame'
me:'???'
Apparently, Ds being a ginger ninja is the shameful bit and enough to ruin all his cuteness Grin idiot

Aquahol1 · 30/09/2016 21:37

'Oh, my DD is always stuck in groups with your DS' says a mum I thought I liked in a fed up tone. I said 'Yes they are both really clever so are always in the top groups'. They are 6! Yes DS is a handful and is in trouble frequently mainly for chatting or boy scuffles but still I'm his mum don't say this to me! Her DD makes him little gifts throughout the week. DH said I should have responded with 'well.. DS is usually paired with one of the children that needs a bit of help as he's in the top 2%'.
Why can't everyone just be nice!

Kit30 · 30/09/2016 21:43

Suffering with pnd and introduced by self styled alpha mum to someone else as our 'care in the community' case

whirlygirly · 30/09/2016 21:50

Omg alma, that's horrific. I hope you and ds have got lovely friends around you now.

I know someone at work who drops snidey digs like this. Nobody is fooled and she is universally disliked. The irony is that these people are usually the least socially functional of anyone, either by being unbelievably crass and tactless or just unbelievably cuntish.

AMR123456 · 30/09/2016 21:53

My DD had really bad eczema when she was younger. She was under the hospital for it. When it flared up it was horrendous- we used to have to put triple layer bandages on. She used to get some funny stares. One day we were out shopping & her arms were bandaged.a woman in the queue behind us said in a stupid fake like sympathy voice "ahhhh is she a burns victim". How fecking rude!!

The2Ateam · 30/09/2016 22:01

My son is allergic to milk. Once a family member was at my parents when we were and I was saying how suseptable son was to chesty coughs. She said (referring to his allergy) "well what do you expect, he's obviously lacking in something." Angry

Horsepower9 · 30/09/2016 22:02

My mil who we hadn't seen for 12months came to stay for a holiday and told my 9year old DD that she was a fatty! And told her she took after me! DD was upset and still mentions it 😞😥 broke my heart. For the record she isn't fat at all she's an active 9 year old with loads of hobbies. Why are people so feckin thoughtless??

MsAdorabelleDearheartVonLipwig · 30/09/2016 22:10

One of my oldest and closest friends, who works at dd1's school, upon me telling her that I'd made a complaint about bullying, screeched at me 'she's lying! You don't know your own daughter!'

I didn't hear about it from my dd, her teacher told me.

Obviously she's not my friend anymore.

I miss our friendship, obviously she doesn't as she's never even apologised.

I'm still not sure why she said it. Clearly she's never had much of an opinion of her, despite knowing her since she was small.

Sad