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[Pinkbabe1]

So my husband works shifts and this week it is his early shift - he is gone from the house by 5am. I came down this morning to find he had left his iPhone on the worktop. As I was making breakfast for DC's I pressed the home button on his phone to check the time and saw an unread message from my best friend of 27 years saying "is she in bed yet?".

Now, it's my birthday next week so I thought they were arranging some special surprise for me. So left it as that. Dropped the kids off at school but something was niggling at me, I just had this feeling in my gut. His iPhone has got a passcode which I don't know. On my third attempt, by pure and utter luck, I managed to guess it right and get into his phone. What I have seen has made me sick to my stomach. My "friend" has been sending my husband dirty naked pics of herself - full on legs spread and sex toys involved. There are no replies or conversation from him but then I guess these can be deleted??? I noticed he's saved the pictures to his camera roll also - presumably for quick access. I have no idea if they have met - I can't think straight at the moment it feels like everything is in slow motion

My husband NEVER leaves his phone at home so I suspect this was a mistake. I've currently packed all his bags and I am just about to post the pictures of my "friend" on Facebook with a tag saying "you are welcome to him"

I don't know what to do

He gets home in about 10 mins

Yes, you can't take all the money in the joint account.

So sorry OP. This is awful. Not in a position to give advice as I'm a do now think later person, which wouldn't do you any favours. Make sure you get copies of his emails and messages etc. Sending you lots of hugs. Xx

So sorry, OP

Stay strong-try and stay calm if you can.

I'm so sorry your husband has done this to you.

Iam sure most of mumsnet will be on to tell you to take the high ground etc etc
But I would do the same as you and post all the pics to Facebook tagging them both with a comment of ' fuck you both

Then I would send the pictures to any porn sites I could find. I would phone his work tell him an emergency at home and come back to bin bags of his stuff outside and doors locked

That is what I would do but you need to do whatever will make things easier for you, if that means taking the high ground and being dignified then that's what you should do, if you will always wish you had revenge then go ahead, knock yourself out.

Lock the door leave his stuff outside, don't communicate today with him. You need time on your own to have a good think about what you want to happen and how to deal with things. You also need to get over the shock before making any decisions or saying or doing anything you might regret.

Well done for being strong. Your coping really well.

You don't need to see the deleted texts. Something has clearly gone on.

Taking 100% of the joint account might be fair if he has loads of money in other accounts - see what else you can find out.

Yes penile unlike you I have read the thread. And haven't seen anyone advocate that the OP post the photos online.

Sorry OP to hear what you are going through. Find out more info about what has been going on before you take any action. It could be her chasing him, and him flirting but nothing more. Which is still unacceptable but there might be scope for sorting it out with him once the dust settles. Seems like the betrayal could be more by her than him iyswim. Good luck

I've messaged her the pics from my phone. No message, just the pics. I know a lot of you think this will be wrong but I want her to know that I know. I've hid his phone

Kick the fucker out 😤😤

You need backups of ALL of this stuff OP. Do it now before your H gets home.

Don't post the pictures of her and make them victims in this. Maintain a dignified silence where she is concerned. Don't even acknowledge she exists anymore. Simply delete her from your life, no contact, no talking it out, nothing.

Deal with your Husband only. And even then don't be overly verbose. I find that being completely quiet gets people trying to fill the silence, and they usually do it with the truth if you are patient enough.

Meanwhile [choc] and remember, we are all listening here. If you need to rant, rant here, not at them.

Take the Moral High Ground

Start a twitter account from his phone. Post photos to twitter. Make a point of following her as well as other mutual acquaintances.
Lose phone and deny all knowled

Where the hell has anyone posted that Implant?

Report it if it exists as it's encouraging illegal action

What was that mitzy?

That's fine op, let her panic now..

Is there a way of telling her dh?

I have reported obviously

have you turned off his phone as well?

Have you checked all his his messaging accounts? FB? Messenger? Texts etc? They may be talking together in more than one place.

Okay fair enough, so one person said they'd post the photos. Shame you couldn't direct your comment at them specifically instead of saying 'the rest of you advocating it'. 'The rest of you' implies rather more than one person doesn't it?

Just message her to say that you will pass the message on.

Don't reply to anything she sends back.

It will help because you will get short term satisfaction from knowing that it will cause her so much worry. She will panic because she can't contact your husband because you have his phone. She will shit herself that you are going to tell her husband. She will spend the day feeling almost as bad as you are feeling right now, worrying about the effect this is all going to have on her children, and I don't blame you for wishing that on her. Then forget her.

Then phone a solicitor. Fuck being married to someone like that.

How awful, I'm so sorry. What a pair of utter shits.

what a pair of dicks. I hope you get this sorted and they get what is coming to them. Karma is a bitch