To cut my husband's ****edited by MNHQ**** with blunt scissors?

[Pinkbabe1]

So my husband works shifts and this week it is his early shift - he is gone from the house by 5am. I came down this morning to find he had left his iPhone on the worktop. As I was making breakfast for DC's I pressed the home button on his phone to check the time and saw an unread message from my best friend of 27 years saying "is she in bed yet?".

Now, it's my birthday next week so I thought they were arranging some special surprise for me. So left it as that. Dropped the kids off at school but something was niggling at me, I just had this feeling in my gut. His iPhone has got a passcode which I don't know. On my third attempt, by pure and utter luck, I managed to guess it right and get into his phone. What I have seen has made me sick to my stomach. My "friend" has been sending my husband dirty naked pics of herself - full on legs spread and sex toys involved. There are no replies or conversation from him but then I guess these can be deleted??? I noticed he's saved the pictures to his camera roll also - presumably for quick access. I have no idea if they have met - I can't think straight at the moment it feels like everything is in slow motion

My husband NEVER leaves his phone at home so I suspect this was a mistake. I've currently packed all his bags and I am just about to post the pictures of my "friend" on Facebook with a tag saying "you are welcome to him"

I don't know what to do

Right I rarely ever comment but this is what I would do,

Pack his things in bin bags, leave them outside the door so he knows what's coming, email everything to yourself, empty the joint bank account, start looking for divorce solicitors, snoop a little bit more, send a smiley face to that so called 'best mate' so she starts worrying, when he comes say nothing, give him his phone and say "didn't you see your stuff outside?", turn around and walk away. Then send a quick message to the other hubby and ask if he wants proof, he deserves to see the truth.

Wishing all the best for you x

My god OP, what a terrible shock for you, I'm so sorry for your troubles.

As everyone else has said, don't post photos online, don't go and see her- any action you take in anger today you are likes to regret.
(Except kicking him out, that is definitely the right action!)

You sound strong and practical though, well done for being so kick ass at such a hard time.x

I'm very sorry this has happened to you, but please do not go to her house.
You are the one that has been wronged. You have done nothing, keep it that way.
Seek legal advice soon.

'the rest of you advocating it have got nothing to do with it so please stop advocating abusing women.'

Have you actually read the thread? Every post I've read has said 'do not post the photos'.

And- if he's not the sharpest tool in the box like you said- is it possible he is a bit flattered but hasn't taken it further, he's just been a bit stupid by not deleting. All my iPhone message pics are saved straight to camera roll so he may not be doing it on purpose.

If he's not the sharpest tool in the box, are you sure he's deleted his replies rather than not replying at all? I'm not trying to say he's done nothing wrong but is there a chance that it's one sided? In which case he absolutely should have discussed it with you, was your radar up anyway, did you have suspicions?

Awful but OP...

not sure why you have emptied the joint account? You need to be careful of the law. It's 50% his so if you leave him with no money for day to day expenses,, any debt he adds up on credit etc will be your debt too as all assets are joint. I know it's a highly emotional time but for your sake you have to keep a cool head.

Same applies to locking him out- jointly owned house- you can't. The police could become involved and force you to open ip.

*in the way they have hurt you.

OP I'm so sorry. Agree with PPs though about not posting anything anywhere or showing anyone. Glad you have sorted out the money. Have it out with him when he gets home and strongly suggest he finds somewhere else to sleep tonight.

implant nobody on this thread has said op should publicly post the pictures, or involve or punish any children.

And you will hurt them - by chucking him out and by telling her husband.

If you post those photos online, you will only ultimately hurt yourself and it will allow them to make themselves out to be victims - don't give them that advantage in this. Retain the higher moral ground.

op you will never be sure if they have met unless either admit it which I doubt will happen. But even if they havent met, something else has been going on and your worth so much more than this.

Oh god it's like something out of a book or film....

So any cheating husbands about lately. Must be something in the water

Ah, I see now he has replied, I'm so sorry this is happening to you, make sure you have it all screenshotted and saved elsewhere before he gets home.

I'd text them to her husband and say "what the fuck, these were on my DHs phone." And let the shit hit the fan in her house too.

By the way, put the phone on silent or turn it off and hide it. That way you'll be able to see later if you can recover deleted texts.

Before you do, turn off the Find my iPhone function.

When does he get home?

I'm so sorry OP!! What a horrible slutbag this so-called "friend" is!!
I would be gutted too. YANBU at all to cut off his bits with a blunt and rusty pair of scissors!!!

Have you read it mitzy

I know that most aren't advocating it but some are. So 'the rest of you advocating'

Not 'all of you on this thread are advocating it'

Emptying the joint account is not retaining the high moral ground.

Take enough for your own needs but not more than 50%.

Who exactly is advocating it ???

Oh god op that's horrendous.

Ignore that I've seen the one post who's advocating it

She was your best friend?! That's horrendous.

I'd let her DH know ASAP.