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So my husband works shifts and this week it is his early shift - he is gone from the house by 5am. I came down this morning to find he had left his iPhone on the worktop. As I was making breakfast for DC's I pressed the home button on his phone to check the time and saw an unread message from my best friend of 27 years saying "is she in bed yet?".

Now, it's my birthday next week so I thought they were arranging some special surprise for me. So left it as that. Dropped the kids off at school but something was niggling at me, I just had this feeling in my gut. His iPhone has got a passcode which I don't know. On my third attempt, by pure and utter luck, I managed to guess it right and get into his phone. What I have seen has made me sick to my stomach. My "friend" has been sending my husband dirty naked pics of herself - full on legs spread and sex toys involved. There are no replies or conversation from him but then I guess these can be deleted??? I noticed he's saved the pictures to his camera roll also - presumably for quick access. I have no idea if they have met - I can't think straight at the moment it feels like everything is in slow motion

My husband NEVER leaves his phone at home so I suspect this was a mistake. I've currently packed all his bags and I am just about to post the pictures of my "friend" on Facebook with a tag saying "you are welcome to him"

I don't know what to do

Just remember that the actions you take now will have a lasting impact over the coming weeks and months. There are lots of children involved.

This is hideous but you need to keep some sort of focus.

Oh god, that's so horrible for you!

Echoing other statements on here, but don't post anything on Facebook. You'll end up looking like the bad guy and can get in serious trouble.

I would text them both, tell them plainly that you know. Then text your husband and let him know his bags will be waiting for him outside your front door but there's no way he's ever coming back inside.

Then call a real friend, invite them over and let it all out

Your husband and your friend of 27 years standing!

That's really despicable.

I just want to hurt them the way they have me

Don't post the pictures online!

But good on you for having his bags packed and ready to go and clearing the account. Angry momentum is useful!

So sorry his has happened Op, they've both utterly vile creatures

Defiantly don't go to her house or post anything online then, think of her children their about to have their world ripped apart just as you are at the moment. Inform her dp about what you've found then leave it at that.

You'll be glad you did a few months down the line.

Do you have her husbands emails address/phone number? I'd be tempted to send them to him telling him you found them on your husbands phone.

You can use an app called Annotate to scribble out the pornographic bits if you really feel you must show anyone except your solicitor an example of the pics. But really, the best chance for you and the kids is to try to sort things out amicably between the two of you. Her message certainly looks like a response to something encouraging he's said to her. You may not want to be married to him but you can speak civilly to him to sort out your separation.

pink. Understandable, but maintaining the moral high ground will make you feel better in the long term.

Ignore my spelling. I'm having trouble typing on my bloody phone!

Op remain as calm as you possibly can at the moment.

I'm sorry that's awful.
As others have said don't get yourself into trouble with the law but definitely get copies saved to a device you own so you can use them as evidence in divorce etc.

Get on to a solicitor as soon as you can, that way you'll get some advice and control.

We'll be here if you need us ok.

have you backed up the phone?
does he have a laptop/ tablet/ computer?

Please dont post them on FB. You dont want to get done because of those two gutter cunts.

Send the pics to your phone and then send them back to her from your number simply saying 'what the actual fuck??'

No matter how much you are hurting stop and think for a moment

There are 5 innocent children involved in this

Do you really want to ruin their lives?

Kick him out, let the husband know discreetly and let him deal with it in his end

Punish them. Not the kids. Not the innocent husband

I know you do but be careful not to hurt innocents on the way- they will be victims too.

I just want to hurt them the way they have me

I understand completely OP, but they'll get what's coming to them once their friends and family find out what they've done.

Getting revenge won't actually make you feel any better, trust me

Ok right, I've just been through his emails and the dipshit has forgotten to delete his replies on this one. He has been replying to her constant stream of naked pics saying that they should stop but he's finding it so hard to when she keeps "handing it to him on a plate" - I can't really work out whether it's just her sending him these dirty pics or whether they've met

Revenge porn is illegal for a reason, there is a case at the moment. The woman just killed herself.

I appreciate the op is angry (if this is real) but the rest of you advocating it have got nothing to do with it so please stop advocating abusing women.

This is awful I'm so sorry. YANBU at all, I'd use a spoon as advocated in Robin Hood.
Have you contacted her?

I completely understand you want to hurt them in the way that you have hurt them. Just remember though, she will loose her husband and anger her children, which I imagine will be very painful for her. They will both have to explain themselves to their friends and family. That will hurt them and you will be an innocent party.

Don't let them convince you that you are somehow responsible fir this, you are not. They are shits.

And yes this is a parenting site why would you punish the children?

it's understandable you want to hurt them both. But don't let them drag you down to their pathetic level.

Find a good solicitor, get advice etc. You need to try to think with your head to sort all the practical stuff out.

You shouldn't post the pics public ally as they are revenge porn, but there is no reason not to post one back to your friend from your own account to inform her that you know about them... You are only returning one to sender there.