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[Pinkbabe1]

So my husband works shifts and this week it is his early shift - he is gone from the house by 5am. I came down this morning to find he had left his iPhone on the worktop. As I was making breakfast for DC's I pressed the home button on his phone to check the time and saw an unread message from my best friend of 27 years saying "is she in bed yet?".

Now, it's my birthday next week so I thought they were arranging some special surprise for me. So left it as that. Dropped the kids off at school but something was niggling at me, I just had this feeling in my gut. His iPhone has got a passcode which I don't know. On my third attempt, by pure and utter luck, I managed to guess it right and get into his phone. What I have seen has made me sick to my stomach. My "friend" has been sending my husband dirty naked pics of herself - full on legs spread and sex toys involved. There are no replies or conversation from him but then I guess these can be deleted??? I noticed he's saved the pictures to his camera roll also - presumably for quick access. I have no idea if they have met - I can't think straight at the moment it feels like everything is in slow motion

My husband NEVER leaves his phone at home so I suspect this was a mistake. I've currently packed all his bags and I am just about to post the pictures of my "friend" on Facebook with a tag saying "you are welcome to him"

I don't know what to do

Pics sent on whatsapp save to the camera roll. OP are you ok?

I agree with nilbyname, this really does not sound like normal, healthy behaviour of your friend. Even if she is unwell I think it is very difficult to excuse it. So sorry you're going through this.

I am so sorry this has happened to you Pink..

I've been there (though, no children) and it is awful, and even if there has been no physical contact between him and her, it really doesn't matter.

I have had relationships with people that were never physical-contact, but were intensely intimate (cyber based) and incredibly personal (not in my case, cheating on anyone though) and you really DONT need physical contact for this to be the same level of betrayal and cheating as actually going out and fucking someone.

If he does reappear, please, do not let him try to play it down because of a lack of actual physical contact between them, as I am sure he will..

No advice to give, OP - I just hope you're OK.

On the subject of language, I did a degree in education 20 years ago, which included a module on Women's Studies. I decided then and there that I would never use a word to describe a woman that didn't have a male equivalent.

So she hasn't apologised and he's not yet had the guts to come home and face the music? They deserve each other!

I cannot believe that anyone could their BF like that. She's either suddenly become mentally unstable, or she's always been a fake twat who never really cared about you. I am so sorry that you are going through this, and that your shit excuse of a husband hasn't even had the balls to come home and face you yet. I really wish I could reach through the screen and give you a big hug OP

Have you tried Find iPhone?
He might have been stupid enough to link another phone to the account.

That was meant to say "could treat their best friend like that"

Hope you're ok op. Despite everything, I'm figuring not hearing from your husband for hours on end must be worrying, amongst the anger. How awful for him not to face up to his mistake and you.

What a pack of cunts they all are 😧😧

I wouldn't escalate it by telling everyone etc. I could not bear to take a starring role in this grubby production. She'd get nothing but radio silence from me.
I feel sorry for her husband...he must feel wretched. God only knows how low his self esteem is to be putting up with that, or how desperate his situation.

As for your dh...he'll blame her. And maybe it is her. But by keeping the photos and communicating with her at all, he's complicit in the whole sorry mess. What a stupid man.

I can't believe he hasn't come home! Are the kids not asking where he is? I'm sure despite what he's done it worried.

for you OP

I agree with red. From your first post I was in awe of you and how together and strong you are. I'm truly sorry this is happening to you but honestly you are an inspiration. You are amazing and neither of them deserve you and your awesomeness

if he had a plausible explanation, even that he foolishly accepted the photos without reciprocating he would have rushed home to save the marriage..his running away speaks volumes.

you are handling this with such dignity, you are doing so well keeping it together, try and stay strong x

Christ. Been following this from the start. Can't believe he's not home. Where is he, eh?

OP I am so sorry but you know what my dear this smacks of her manipulation almost as if she has groomed you both , that may sound fanciful but tbh she sounds like a narc and they are so dangerous . If I were you I would try to listen to your dh and try to see this for what it is ...you have both been used and abused imho . I hope your dh is ok and comes home soon. I think you need a lot of answers and I wonder if you should contact her husband again for some clarification on this bc you will only get nastiness and hate from her which will make you feel so low . I am so sorry I hope you and your dh can move on from this perhaps after some councelling .Part of me would not want to let her win. What an awful woman she will get her come uppance though of that you can be guarranteed .

I really hope you're OK, I know most of us are keen for another instalment and gob smacked at what's happened but this is your life. I hope you have support in your life to get through this

As we are assuming he has a second phone have you tried sending a Facebook message to him? I'm sure he would have that downloaded on it even though I doubt he will reply it would change to read so you know whatever he is doing his ok! Just for your own peace of mind! You don't deserve the worry on top of everything else

Gosh, your ex friend really takes cold betrayal to a whole new level. Your H is clearly spineless as well as a cheat. So sorry you're going through this.

I can't believe he hasn't come home, what a coward. I'd be chucking his things out on to the street and getting the locks changed.

The fact he hasn't comes home shows he has no desire to fix things.

I hope you're ok OP, what an awful shock for you. I hope they both get what they deserve!

Wow! Your "friend" sounds like a bitch and your dh a stupid fool! I hope he turns up soon!

I wonder if the husband has finally shown up since no recent activity!

thinking of you Pink. Hope you don't have to wait too long to confront your husband.