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[Pinkbabe1]

So my husband works shifts and this week it is his early shift - he is gone from the house by 5am. I came down this morning to find he had left his iPhone on the worktop. As I was making breakfast for DC's I pressed the home button on his phone to check the time and saw an unread message from my best friend of 27 years saying "is she in bed yet?".

Now, it's my birthday next week so I thought they were arranging some special surprise for me. So left it as that. Dropped the kids off at school but something was niggling at me, I just had this feeling in my gut. His iPhone has got a passcode which I don't know. On my third attempt, by pure and utter luck, I managed to guess it right and get into his phone. What I have seen has made me sick to my stomach. My "friend" has been sending my husband dirty naked pics of herself - full on legs spread and sex toys involved. There are no replies or conversation from him but then I guess these can be deleted??? I noticed he's saved the pictures to his camera roll also - presumably for quick access. I have no idea if they have met - I can't think straight at the moment it feels like everything is in slow motion

My husband NEVER leaves his phone at home so I suspect this was a mistake. I've currently packed all his bags and I am just about to post the pictures of my "friend" on Facebook with a tag saying "you are welcome to him"

I don't know what to do

KatieScarlett you're absolutely right. The so-called friend is a pathetic waste of space.

Dear Pink, I am so sorry that you are having such a horrible time, but there are a lot of people on here that genuinely care about how you are doing.

I would have loved such amazing help, support & love when I went through a similar situation.

Sending you a huge hug filled with love to help you get through this

xxxx

I'm sorry but after that message from her I would make sure everyone knew about her tendency to overshare and her husband's tolerance of that.

Gloves would be well and truly off now.

What a horrible, horrible situation to be in, my heart goes out to you, OP. I imagine your DH is too scared to come home because even if he didn't sleep with your XBF, not telling you the minute she sent the first picture was stupid beyond belief. Part of me agrees with those who say kick him out immediately, but the other half thinks you should at least listen to what he has to say, in case it was her just sending pix and not a physical affair. It would take a Herculean effort on your part to forgive him and trust him again, but part of me thinks why give the bitch the satisfaction of you two splitting up if it was just her sending pix?

What a shitstorm. I hope your husband gets home soon so you can find out his version x

My good god, im so sorry you're in this completely shite situation.

I'm with Bop, shit would well and truly hit the fan after she said that!!

Have you tried his parents number, OP?

Hope you've managed to get something to eat and drink, and are ok considering.

Nothing to add, I'm just really sorry this is happening to you.

If you think he has another phone, chances are that when he first got it, he would have rung it from his own phone to check it was working etc. Go through his phone log and see if there is a random 07 number, possibly around the date on the email, try ringing it.

If being boring means not sending pics of your fanny to all and sundry for a cheap thrill then I'd take boring any day of the week thanks very much!

OP I'm so, so sorry. You deserve so much better than this

What a bloody bitch!

I have been following this all day, hope you are okay OP.

Even if the pictures do automatically send to his camera roll, he should have deleted them! When were they sent? Definitely send them to your email or something but screen shot it from his phone. Stack up evidence.

Bloody hell pink my heart really does go out to you. You didn't deserve any of this.

You are handling this remarkably well and I hope your prick of a husband will be home soon to provide some answers.

x

OP, can't stop thinking about you.
Hope he's home and I hope you're ok.

Wow i cannot believe her response! What a bitch!
I'm sorry op, double betrayal for you.
This woman clearly has no standards and you are better without her in your life.
I'm sorry your dh is too much of a coward to face you.
Do you think he could be at his parents just asking them not to say?
In the pub?

Fucking hell Pink, I'm so sorry love

I know AIBU has it's uses, but you might find that fewer posters try to derail your thread in relationships. And you'll get masses of support to top.

I'm thinking of you

Wonder if he's trying to scare you by his absence to make you panic about being without him on a more permanent basis? Cowardly manipulation if so.

Dear God, what an utter narc.

She's full of herself. Awful way to find out your best friend is a complete and utter oxygen-thief but at least you'll not waste another minute of your time on her.

Pack him a bloody bag.

I don't know about snapchat btw, but any pics i get from txts do not save to my phone unless i save them myself same with any social media.

What would motivate a married mother of 5 to send out home made porn to her friends husbands?
Chronic low self esteem?
Delusional appraisal of attractiveness?
Attention seeking any way she can get it?
I mean, really!
Pathetic and quite sad really.
Shame the OPs DP was flattered, what an idiot. Especially since they were taken for a mail shot apparently, he's not even THAT special.
Which makes them both pathetic.

Pink, what a terrible shock you've had, it can't be easy.
You're being very brave.
I hope he comes back soon, so you can confront him.
Your former friend is the lowest of the low.
I'm so sorry that this has happened to you 😨☹️

So sorry OP, you've been treated terribly and I am amazed at your composure. Keep strong and I hope he turns up soon so you can speak to him

Your "friend" sounds quite unwell and unhinged.

I'm not saying your husband is an innocent victim here, but this woman sounds bonkers.

Put her in the bonkers box and seal that shit up.

I hope your DH comes back soon. You deserve some answers