To cut my husband's ****edited by MNHQ**** with blunt scissors?

[Pinkbabe1]

So my husband works shifts and this week it is his early shift - he is gone from the house by 5am. I came down this morning to find he had left his iPhone on the worktop. As I was making breakfast for DC's I pressed the home button on his phone to check the time and saw an unread message from my best friend of 27 years saying "is she in bed yet?".

Now, it's my birthday next week so I thought they were arranging some special surprise for me. So left it as that. Dropped the kids off at school but something was niggling at me, I just had this feeling in my gut. His iPhone has got a passcode which I don't know. On my third attempt, by pure and utter luck, I managed to guess it right and get into his phone. What I have seen has made me sick to my stomach. My "friend" has been sending my husband dirty naked pics of herself - full on legs spread and sex toys involved. There are no replies or conversation from him but then I guess these can be deleted??? I noticed he's saved the pictures to his camera roll also - presumably for quick access. I have no idea if they have met - I can't think straight at the moment it feels like everything is in slow motion

My husband NEVER leaves his phone at home so I suspect this was a mistake. I've currently packed all his bags and I am just about to post the pictures of my "friend" on Facebook with a tag saying "you are welcome to him"

I don't know what to do

ItShouldHaveBeenJess the MN outraged "feminists" have been polishing theirs for years

aye you haven't a clue you really don't. Good decision to hide the thread.

Going back to the matter in hand. I sometimes don't get any phone calls or text messages in a day. Doesn't mean I have another phone, I don't. Might mean I haven't got any friends!

I think OP needs to speak to her DH. He may be 'reasonably' innocent in all of this. Though obviously he should have said as soon as he got a picture from the OP's best mate of 27 years. It's so very odd. Not sure what I would think if happening to me. I am a bit worried that OP's husband hasn't come home. He may be very stupid, but he really might not have done anything as bad as it appears.

witchywoohoo no misogynistic language wasn't it? Fuck do you call the word harpy then? Outraged hypocrites more like!

The OP said that he had replied via email to the OW. He might have deleted the texts but the OP found the emails. He is not innocent.

Why would you be worried that he hasn't come home? He's a grown up! Most likely he's currently a scaredy cat grown up.

I'd love to meet a woman who has just discovered her partner's affair and doesn't use a single misogynistic term. I will polish her halo for her.

Except it's not the OP using them. (Which would be totally understandable and forgivable) It's strangers who know no-one involved and are just grabbing the chance to spew some of their favourite words "justifiably"

JenLindley away and take your indignation elsewhere. Your martyr/victim complex is ridiculous.

Itshould have been The OP hasn't been the one using misogynistic language - it's been other posters. If it had been the OP I'm sure she would have been given the benefit of the doubt - but there's not really an excuse for others.

witchywoohoo no misogynistic language wasn't it? Fuck do you call the word harpy then? Outraged hypocrites more like! grin

She was quoting someone else.

She was clearly quoting another poster, ayeok. Perhaps best hide the thread as you said, since you don't actually read or understand what people are saying?

Aye, ok then.

Oh, OP

Both of them are atrocious cunts.

slow clap 👏🏻 well done ladies in totally derailing op's thread.

Op, I wouldn't blame you if you never come back here, I hope you have some in rl to confide in

aye I think you should stop using words you don't understand.

I wish you lot would fuck off and take your arguments elsewhere. There's someone in genuine despair here, she doesn't need to read your debates.

I'm sorry OP, I shouldn't have got involved in derailing your thread.

So sorry OP

Has he turned up yet? It's probably quite easy for him to kill time out and about just now, perhaps he'll show up later and you can confront him then if you want to. Any more word from your "friend" or her husband? I wonder who else you know who's been on the receiving end of it.... Must make you look at everyone differently when something like this happens.

I hope that's addressed to ayeok, she's contributed to derailing it as much as anyone else.

I haven't seen any outrage coming from feminists on this thread. Some of the other posters though seem to be enjoying themselves and their co-opted fury a bit much.

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So sorry to read this.

What do you want to do next OP? Obviously you can't chop his TINY, pathetic, useless penis off and posting photos online could get you into trouble so those aside...

If you want to throw his stuff out and change the locks, do it. If you want to wait for him to show his sorry arse so you can blast him, I don't blame you.

This is a shitty thing that's happenned, don't do anything in haste. Are you kids going to come back tonight or can they stay with your mum? That might be best if he's going to turn up, but if he's not do you want to be on your own? Sometimes having the kids around keeps you sane.

There is no quick and easy way to get through this, but you will eventually. Really sorry this has happened to you

I'm so sorry you're in this mess Pink. Hope he comes home soon and you can sort it out, whatever may happen.

Hope people can lay off each other a bit here, this thread will get removed otherwise, and then OP won't have any support from us.

Really hope you are OP?

If the OP's husband was remotely innocent, or his defence is that he was being hounded and didn't know what to do, perhaps deleting the photos would have been a good place to start. Instead he chose to keep them on a password protected phone.

I agree with PPs, I can't begin to imagine how you take a selfie while using a sex toy. Maybe OW's DH takes the pics for her?

Hope your DH turns up soon OP, this must be making a hideous situation worse. 💐