To cut my husband's ****edited by MNHQ**** with blunt scissors?

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So my husband works shifts and this week it is his early shift - he is gone from the house by 5am. I came down this morning to find he had left his iPhone on the worktop. As I was making breakfast for DC's I pressed the home button on his phone to check the time and saw an unread message from my best friend of 27 years saying "is she in bed yet?".

Now, it's my birthday next week so I thought they were arranging some special surprise for me. So left it as that. Dropped the kids off at school but something was niggling at me, I just had this feeling in my gut. His iPhone has got a passcode which I don't know. On my third attempt, by pure and utter luck, I managed to guess it right and get into his phone. What I have seen has made me sick to my stomach. My "friend" has been sending my husband dirty naked pics of herself - full on legs spread and sex toys involved. There are no replies or conversation from him but then I guess these can be deleted??? I noticed he's saved the pictures to his camera roll also - presumably for quick access. I have no idea if they have met - I can't think straight at the moment it feels like everything is in slow motion

My husband NEVER leaves his phone at home so I suspect this was a mistake. I've currently packed all his bags and I am just about to post the pictures of my "friend" on Facebook with a tag saying "you are welcome to him"

I don't know what to do

Wow. So sorry this has happened to you.

I've never heard that expression and it doesn't excuse it

Funny how there aren't equivalent insults for men who have lots of sex. I'd be equally offensive about a man deliberately going after married women and breaking up families.

We're not defending her honour. We're protesting the use of misogynistic language that affects all women.

Deep slow breaths when you're in shock. Count in and count out

I think anyone trying to explain to aye what the actual issue with their language is is wasting their time. They won't understand.

I'd like to agree with you Derek but I think his initial response 'sorry', is very telling. What has he got to apologise for, unless he's also involved, or encouraging it?

Would those accuse a wife of a man sending pics of him fucking a flesh light to married women blame her and say she gets off on it. If she said she knew and was just ignoring it to protect her kids?

No you wouldn't. Simply because she's a woman

Oh get off your fucking high horses, you're using a horrible situation to get your point across because to you that's all that matters!

There isn't an equivalent insult, ayeok.

No one is defending HER honour. We are asking you not to use misogynistic language. The two are not linked in any way.

Funny how there aren't equivalent insults for men who have lots of sex. I'd be equally offensive about a man deliberately going after married women and breaking up families.

Go for it. Use an equivalent term or phrase for a man who did what this woman did?

Aoibhe he said sorry coz he knew what she was doing but didn't want to fuck up his kids. The mother doesn't give a fuck but least he does!

So sorry for this shit op

So you've never heard "a cock like a burst ball"?

There are no words or phrases I'm aware of which hatefully castigate men for breaking up other mens families.

I think you might be right Jen.

Ayeok, using that logic, we could say you are using a horrible situation to espouse woman-hating bull.

OP, I know you are probably getting worried now, I take it he's not the sort to hurt himself? Can you contact the OW husband and get him to find out if she has a number for him, or at least find out how she has contacted him, that way you can get a hold of him.

I'm hiding this thread now, I'm fucking sick of the man hating, "feminist" brigade telling folk on here what is and isn't right. You know feminism wants equal rights eh, not for all men to be labelled bastards? You're all the same ones that sympathise with a woman who hits/cheats on her partner because he must have deserved it while screaming LTB at every woman who is mildly pissed off with her OH. You're double standards are far far more sickening and damaging to women than any vile comment I could come up with and that's saying something.

Wow your 'friend' really has serious issues! So sorry OP your husband is a complete cockwomble to do this, they'd both have nothing more to do with me flatter this :(

Oh op I'm so sorry.

Do you think the coward is waiting until the kids are home in the hope you won't then go ballistic at him?

Pair of shits the both of them. I feel sorry for ow dh too. He must be in a shit place and have such low self esteem to put up with it.

Outraged harpies.

When I found out my ex was screwing around with a woman who knew we had a young son with ASD, I called her every misogynistic name under the sun. I won't list them, but if you can think of one, I probably uttered it. To the extent that my mum (my fiercest defender) actually called me out on it.

They are not words I use in daily life. I never use them. But in the first few days after finding out, I used them a lot. And it felt good. It felt cathartic.

I'd love to meet a woman who has just discovered her partner's affair and doesn't use a single misogynistic term. I will polish her halo for her.

'Harpies', witchy?