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So my husband works shifts and this week it is his early shift - he is gone from the house by 5am. I came down this morning to find he had left his iPhone on the worktop. As I was making breakfast for DC's I pressed the home button on his phone to check the time and saw an unread message from my best friend of 27 years saying "is she in bed yet?".

Now, it's my birthday next week so I thought they were arranging some special surprise for me. So left it as that. Dropped the kids off at school but something was niggling at me, I just had this feeling in my gut. His iPhone has got a passcode which I don't know. On my third attempt, by pure and utter luck, I managed to guess it right and get into his phone. What I have seen has made me sick to my stomach. My "friend" has been sending my husband dirty naked pics of herself - full on legs spread and sex toys involved. There are no replies or conversation from him but then I guess these can be deleted??? I noticed he's saved the pictures to his camera roll also - presumably for quick access. I have no idea if they have met - I can't think straight at the moment it feels like everything is in slow motion

My husband NEVER leaves his phone at home so I suspect this was a mistake. I've currently packed all his bags and I am just about to post the pictures of my "friend" on Facebook with a tag saying "you are welcome to him"

I don't know what to do

I'm so sorry OP, really hope he turns up soon, utterly cowardly of him to leave you to deal with finding out and avoid coming home to face the music. Another one here, holding your hand and sending you love and strength

witchywoohoo where did I tell you to start a new thread? Now you're just making stuff up! Frankly, if this woman is putting it about with so many different men she's probably got a fanny like a burst couch! It's got fuck all to do with child bearing and everything to do with the fact she's deliberately going after married men with families. Forgive me if I don't consider her worthy of giving a shit about. I'll save my concern for OP, who has had the rug pulled out from under her in the cruellest of ways, through absolutely no fault of her own.

Hi OP - I hate to say this, but have you thought about the possibility that your so-called friend's husband is actually a willing chuckhold, and that the three of them have been engaging in sexual acts together?! I know it sounds extreme but it could be that he's just made up that bollocks about it "just being texts" to throw you off the scent as he doesn't want to mess up their "arrangement" or what not.

As unlikely as it sounds, these things do happen and I would just be very wary to trust someone who didn't inform me that my own husband and friend were betraying me until I found out myself... 😔 Then again, you met him yourself, so will have a better idea than me of whether he was being truthful or not.

I'm so sorry for what these arseholes have put you through OP. 💐 She's a bitch and he's a cowardly little worm - can't even come home and face the music! Hope you've got support...x

So sorry op

Have a proper look through his phone to see what else you might find.

Deleted dodgy apps? Deleted messages? Saved passwords?

*cuckhold ooops

Having a second phone that your wife doesn't know about is so shady.

It could be that she contacted him another way and he just doesn't get a lot of messages, especially if he doesn't really have friends?

If DH had my phone for the day it wouldn't get any messages unless I was lucky as it's mainly DH and occasionally my mum that message.

Have you thought about talking to her to get that out the way as you know she's home? If you do maybe put something done where do you know if he has been whilst you e been out?

Like another poster mentioned, I too find it hard to believe that her dh puts up with this and excuses it with 'low self esteem'
My guess would be that he gets off on it too. That's not really relevant to you OP, I know.

I suspect your dh is driving around in a panic, thinking up as many shit excuses as he can... No doubt he will say she has been hounding him with these messages, he hasn't been responding, maybe he did once or twice because he was bored, or lonely. He will probably even turn it around on you.

If he has another phone, say a cheap pay as you go burner phone, it makes you wonder why ex friend was sending photos by a means where they could easily be found

She obviously likes playing with fire, but apart from that, it shows her total contempt for you OP.

What an awful situation.

if this woman is putting it about with so many different men she's probably got a fanny like a burst couch!

This would also apply to women in LTRs then surely? You are implying lots of sex = damaged vagina yes?

And internet history!

Don't let his disappearing act distract you from the actual issue OP. It's so cowardly of him that he is making things far worse if that's possible

Yep her DH has to be on it. Has to be, he has a penis after all and can't just be ignoring the fact his wife's a cunt for the sake of his children

No he must be getting off on this.

FFS.. sometimes guys, the woman is a fuck up all on her own I know. Shocking isn't that men can be innocent victims too.

DerekSprechenZeDick JenLindleyShitMom I've seen you on other threads, away you go because I'm not biting to your shite.

ayeok you didn't but plenty have.

Frankly, if this woman is putting it about with so many different men she's probably got a fanny like a burst couch!

This is utterly vile ayeok. The kind of shite that men have levelled at women for years. And not only is it vile...it's inaccurate and there is also nothing that OP has said that has suggested that the "friend" has had sex with anyone apart from a toy! You are whipping yourself up into a bit of a frenzy on behalf of someone you don't know. If that makes you a better person than me then so be it.

Yes, not sure why the DH is being given such a difficult time. It's irrelevant. He's been taken for a complete mug. More fool him and all that, but he's hardly the one to blame here.

The friend's husband has to decide what he wants to do about his own situation. Totally his call and separate from the OP's issues.

It was a genuine question. Assume your response means you can't answer it.

if this woman is putting it about with so many different men she's probably got a fanny like a burst couch!

This is fucking horrible. Can we stop it with the misogynistic language. It's not funny, it's not clever, and it's derogatory to all women - not just the OP's ex-friend.

Funny how there aren't equivalent insults for men who have lots of sex.

Yes, as a pp said it's the kind of ridiculous "logic" MRAs employ. It's always sad to see women internalise misogyny.

It's not that him being a man automatically = perv Dereck. It's just that his excuse is quite thin and it makes me wonder... There's no doubt that the husband and the best friend of three decades are the main wronguns here (even if friends hubby IS involved) - the lack of loyalty from them is awful.

My view may also be coloured by the fact that I recently had a brief FWB relationship with a guy who used to be active on a swinging website. The stories he used to tell me about his "adventures" with other couples was an eye opener, for sure. More common than we think apparently...

It's an expression for someone who can't keep their knickers on. Fuck me, you're all whipping yourselves into a frenzy defending the honour (????) of a cunt who went after her best mates husband. I couldn't give a shiny shite if you think I'm vile.