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[Pinkbabe1]

So my husband works shifts and this week it is his early shift - he is gone from the house by 5am. I came down this morning to find he had left his iPhone on the worktop. As I was making breakfast for DC's I pressed the home button on his phone to check the time and saw an unread message from my best friend of 27 years saying "is she in bed yet?".

Now, it's my birthday next week so I thought they were arranging some special surprise for me. So left it as that. Dropped the kids off at school but something was niggling at me, I just had this feeling in my gut. His iPhone has got a passcode which I don't know. On my third attempt, by pure and utter luck, I managed to guess it right and get into his phone. What I have seen has made me sick to my stomach. My "friend" has been sending my husband dirty naked pics of herself - full on legs spread and sex toys involved. There are no replies or conversation from him but then I guess these can be deleted??? I noticed he's saved the pictures to his camera roll also - presumably for quick access. I have no idea if they have met - I can't think straight at the moment it feels like everything is in slow motion

My husband NEVER leaves his phone at home so I suspect this was a mistake. I've currently packed all his bags and I am just about to post the pictures of my "friend" on Facebook with a tag saying "you are welcome to him"

I don't know what to do

I literally have no idea where he could be. He has no bank cards on him, no phone, he's not at his parents, he has no siblings, he has no friends to speak of, he's not with her I'm at a loss

Oh OP! Horrible. Is the other husband certain she wouldn't cheat on him physically? Because it's very extreme reaction of your DH to go into hiding over receiving some photos.

To those using the horrible language, the ones it's aimed at can't see it you know!

I'm surprised you've not heard from herself, too. Husband and wife must have some really interesting conversations tonight.

I really feel for you OP, this is so awful.

I'm really shocked by the behaviour of your friend and her husband's passive acceptance of what she does and his seemingly blase attitude to the impact it has/will have on others.

Has he got any friends he might have gone to?

the friends husband seems a bit too cool about the intimate picture sharing

I suspect she does it because she likes the thrill of exhibitionism and her husband also gets off on his wife displaying herself to other men

I think the OP has become collateral damage in this little sex game thing that they have

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So Sorry Pink, I hope he comes home soon so that you can speak to him. Horrible situation for you.

I am glad you have confirmation directly from the husband.

Odd that she was teasing YOUR husband, knowing that he might make a move, and knowing she wouldn't go through with it. Fucking bitch.

I hope your coward of a husband turns up soon to face what he has done.

He could just be driving/walking around

Could he be hiding out at work OP? Getting whoever told you that he'd left to cover for him?

Even if it was one sided on this woman's part, he should have told you what was happening - 'your friend has sent me some explicit messages, what shall we do' type thing. The secrecy is betrayal enough. Hope you're ok OP stay strong

I think your ex friend's husband is deluding himself if he thinks she's never gone further than sending full on photos of herself using a sex toy to other men

Hope your husband turns up so you can get some answers

This is a very fast moving situation

How awful for you OP. Who needs enemies with friends like her!

He has to come home and face the music sometime.

I agree Dartmoor.

Hiding out somewhere, pink, shit-scared and not brave enough to face the show down. Utterly frustrating and infuriating on top of everything else. I can remember back to when I was in this situation horribly well. It's beyond cruel to let you wait, wonder and worry. Am so incredibly angry on your behalf.

Exactly Albatross OP's dh made the choice not to tell OP or block her friend's number, and friend's dh colluded with it too.

I can't quite believe someone could be so awful and this sort of thing goes on in life. Stay strong OP, you're better than him/her

Sounds like she's got some major issues and is doing this for thrills and a confidence boost. Her DH ignoring it won't help as it will validate her behaviour.

It seems very likely it's just pictures and he can't resist because she's forceful and he is an idiot.

No excuses for the behaviour from either of them but it looks like it was led by her. He will probably come back pitiful and apologetic later on.

Get your next step planned out for when he finally returns. He won't run to her, she's really not interested and he likely knows this. He probably thinks it's harmless in his own deluded way because "it's just pics" she just wants the thrill of married men wanting her.

So as well as everything else he's a coward. If he was innocent in this why would he be hiding?

The people preaching about misogynistic language against a marriage wrecking, disloyal, poisonous, selfish bitch clearly don't consider that kicking a woman when she's having the worst day of her life to be anything to worry about!

No one who has questioned the misogynistic language has kicked Pink while she is down. In fact many of us have offered her support - we can just do it without spewing woman-hating bile. And as for telling us to start a new thread that's not how challenging works. I don't hear someone say something racist and then wander off and find a new group of people to discuss it with - no I'll say something there and then to the person who used racist language.

If his phone's been at home all day, he must have loads of texts and probably some missed calls too.

Perhaps they might give you a clue as to his whereabouts?

Funnily enough, now some time has passed (the revelations happened in May) the thing that makes me most upset and angry is not even the cheating per se, but the fact he ran away that evening, leaving me confused, hysterical, utterly distraught and in charge of a four year old. I'll never forgive my ex for that. The waiting is unbearable.

His phone that I have here has had no messages or calls all day which makes me assume he has another phone