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To cut my husband's ****edited by MNHQ**** with blunt scissors?

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Pinkbabe1 · 28/09/2016 13:11

So my husband works shifts and this week it is his early shift - he is gone from the house by 5am. I came down this morning to find he had left his iPhone on the worktop. As I was making breakfast for DC's I pressed the home button on his phone to check the time and saw an unread message from my best friend of 27 years saying "is she in bed yet?".

Now, it's my birthday next week so I thought they were arranging some special surprise for me. So left it as that. Dropped the kids off at school but something was niggling at me, I just had this feeling in my gut. His iPhone has got a passcode which I don't know. On my third attempt, by pure and utter luck, I managed to guess it right and get into his phone. What I have seen has made me sick to my stomach. My "friend" has been sending my husband dirty naked pics of herself - full on legs spread and sex toys involved. There are no replies or conversation from him but then I guess these can be deleted??? I noticed he's saved the pictures to his camera roll also - presumably for quick access. I have no idea if they have met - I can't think straight at the moment it feels like everything is in slow motion

My husband NEVER leaves his phone at home so I suspect this was a mistake. I've currently packed all his bags and I am just about to post the pictures of my "friend" on Facebook with a tag saying "you are welcome to him"

I don't know what to do

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PollyPerky · 28/09/2016 15:13

okay okay- I only need one post telling me he replied!!!

Magpie18 · 28/09/2016 15:16

So very sorry Pink, how horrible! No words for what they are but I'd hold him down for you. I'm another one who looked at my DP's phone. You will get through this although your life will never be the same. I wish you all the support & help you need

Chinnygirl · 28/09/2016 15:16

She wasn't your friend OP. A friend wouldnt do this. Your acquintances are probably better people for you. They can become friends you know. So if you need to talk just try one of them

PurpleDaisies · 28/09/2016 15:16

Wow, what a horrible situation to be in.

I hope you can get this loser out of your life without too much trouble. What a tosser.

Realhousewivesofshit · 28/09/2016 15:16

Just caught up op. So very sorry this is happening to you. Horrific betrayal. Flowers

DigestiveMuncher · 28/09/2016 15:18

Even if he didn't/did reply to the post he has still kept the pictures of another whore woman on his phone. Any decent loyal Husband or partner would of deleted them & told wife/partner or even showed the pictures and told them so to show he was the guilty party in this & all would go on being fine in the relationship.

OP's husband has not done this. He has kept the images and not told OP about them which to anyone would send alarm bells ringing

I hope the bastard stops being/acting like a complete coward and get his arse home soon so you can actually have a discussion about it.
As for her and her husband well, what a strange arrangement that is if he is aware but doesn't say anything for the sake of the children. Surely it is causing great strain on him.. I suppose you never know what goes on in a persons head.

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SillySophDoph · 28/09/2016 15:19

Is there any other activity on her husbands Facebook to suggest it's likely him? Doubt she would risk logging onto his Facebook for too long though.

Let's assume it is him on Facebook - do some digging, does he know the full extent of it or if they have met up? Shouldn't make a difference but at least you have as much info behind you as possible before it all comes to heads.

MollyHopps · 28/09/2016 15:19

Perhaps he does already know that you have found out OP.

If he does he will be preparing his excuses. Don'e believe a word until things have settled down a bit. Get rid of him and give yourself time to clear your head.

At least he will also be prepared for his bags to be packed and to have to leave mind you.

SuperFlyHigh · 28/09/2016 15:21

silly question OP - but did you ever have any knowledge of your 'friend' messing around/affairs - even stuff that was said by her to you or about her etc?

I know it's a long shot but no idea whether you'd ignore that... if it were other people.

ShutTheFuckUpBarbara · 28/09/2016 15:22

I am Shock that her DP knew!

So sorry OP

NoFucksImAQueen · 28/09/2016 15:22

Oh god op my heart has sunk for you Sad
I'm so sorry your friend is an utter cunt and your husband deserves to have his penis hacked off with a rusty dinner knife

MotherKat · 28/09/2016 15:22

That's Fucking awful OP.
I hope you're OK.
Very glad to read you didn't choose to share the photos.
This is a massive breach of loyalty, I'm wondering if this "friend" may have been isolating you, is she very jealous of you?
If I got a call from an acquaintance saying this had happened I'd drop everything and be there for them, I'm sure any of your acquaintances will do the same.

honeysucklejasmine · 28/09/2016 15:23

Oh Op, how awful. I would just try to speak to her dh in person and just confirm he's been fb messaging you today. No need to say why in your question, if he says no you can tell him you think he's been hacked.

QOD · 28/09/2016 15:24

Oh man. What a pair of fuckers

FairyDogMother11 · 28/09/2016 15:26

I am very sorry this has happened to you. Chinny has good advice re. The friends, I'm sure they'd be there for you if you needed them. Please don't try to deal with this alone, you deserve support and help Flowers

blueturtle6 · 28/09/2016 15:26

Cryptic message, say that dress you were wearing is really flattering but in some recent pictures I've seen you could do with toning up, or maybe you should keep naked pictures for yourself and not send them to other peoples husbands

michy27 · 28/09/2016 15:26

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JenLindleyShitMom · 28/09/2016 15:29

Look no woman sends naked photos of herself to any man without absolutely knowing they will be well received. There will have been initial flirting to build up to this. These photos are far from the full story. Do not for one second believe him if he says "she just sent them out of the blue" it's bullshit.

yumamumma · 28/09/2016 15:31

Oh my goodness what a horrible story. Does your "friend" live near to you OP? Why would her husband turn a blind eye. How utterly bizarre....

BitOutOfPractice · 28/09/2016 15:32

God it gets worse. I hope he's home now. I hope you've had a chance to let him know just how you feel. I could cry for you op

PupPupBoogie · 28/09/2016 15:33

HOw despicable that the husband just ignored it and let her try to ruin other people's marriages :(

DerekSprechenZeDick · 28/09/2016 15:34

Grin yes it's always the mans fault even though it's the woman who's doing it. MN is ace at times

SarcasmMode · 28/09/2016 15:35

I hope he has the balls to admit it and not shirk his responsibilities but I doubt it - his type are always the victim.

ArchiesMamaBird · 28/09/2016 15:36

Oh fuck, this is horrible. Please stay strong OP, they're both bastards and I hope that in time you will move on from this. Surround yourself with good people and do anything that you can to get through this Flowers

CalmItKermitt · 28/09/2016 15:36

What a pair of arseholes!

I'd absolutely savage the pair of them.

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