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To cut my husband's ****edited by MNHQ**** with blunt scissors?

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Pinkbabe1 · 28/09/2016 13:11

So my husband works shifts and this week it is his early shift - he is gone from the house by 5am. I came down this morning to find he had left his iPhone on the worktop. As I was making breakfast for DC's I pressed the home button on his phone to check the time and saw an unread message from my best friend of 27 years saying "is she in bed yet?".

Now, it's my birthday next week so I thought they were arranging some special surprise for me. So left it as that. Dropped the kids off at school but something was niggling at me, I just had this feeling in my gut. His iPhone has got a passcode which I don't know. On my third attempt, by pure and utter luck, I managed to guess it right and get into his phone. What I have seen has made me sick to my stomach. My "friend" has been sending my husband dirty naked pics of herself - full on legs spread and sex toys involved. There are no replies or conversation from him but then I guess these can be deleted??? I noticed he's saved the pictures to his camera roll also - presumably for quick access. I have no idea if they have met - I can't think straight at the moment it feels like everything is in slow motion

My husband NEVER leaves his phone at home so I suspect this was a mistake. I've currently packed all his bags and I am just about to post the pictures of my "friend" on Facebook with a tag saying "you are welcome to him"

I don't know what to do

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BoopTheSnoot · 28/09/2016 14:54

Wow. I'm so sorry OP
She sounds horrific, truly awful. And your DH has showed his true colours as well Sad

blushrush · 28/09/2016 14:54

Oh wow, forget what I said then.

I understand protecting his children, but still...

JenLindleyShitMom · 28/09/2016 14:54

This Won't be the only things. Check phone for hidden tinder app, POF, adult work. There'll be more i guarantee.

youngestisapsycho · 28/09/2016 14:55

Yes, ask him to call you to confirm its really him replying on FB.

BillSykesDog · 28/09/2016 14:55

I don't think he knows. It might be more that he knows what she's like because she's done similar before.

Do you know if she's cheated on her husband before OP? I suspect she probably has because it just seems so practiced.

HeyNannyNanny · 28/09/2016 14:55

Filthy pigs, both of them.
I feel sorry for her husband too; I get the impression he knew she did it but wasn't aware it was with your husband, OP.
How helpless he must feel.

OP, you're dealing with this so well. Stay strong

BillSykesDog · 28/09/2016 14:55

Do you know his facebook password? Can you change it so he can't delete anything?

PeppaAteMySoul · 28/09/2016 14:56

I would if possible speak to him on the phone. Ask on Facebook if he could call you as its been such a terrible shock. It very well could still be her trying to cover her miserable arse

justilou · 28/09/2016 14:56

I don't get why the other woman would admit to doing this to other men? I think it's the husband who is probably very relieved that someone else knows what's going on.

justilou · 28/09/2016 14:56

Definitely change passwords on everything!!!

HeyNannyNanny · 28/09/2016 14:56

Do you have access to support IRL OP? Local friends or family?

2anddone · 28/09/2016 14:57

Sorry to hear this OP hope you can get some support in rl as well as on here. Do you have a friend or family member who could stay tonight? What time is your ds due home?

justilou · 28/09/2016 14:57

If she contacted him before he got home, do you think he has another phone stashed somewhere?

Parisgellar · 28/09/2016 14:57

Really weird reaction from the friend's dh. Friend and your dh are deplorable. Flowers

PollyPerky · 28/09/2016 14:57

Although this is awful, if she sends these pics to loads of men, it may be that your DH has not had an affair, but simply received the photos. That doesn't excuse him not telling you are not deleting them but it does change the focus a little bit.

I'd stop playing MI5 over who is using whose FB account or whatever, sit tight and wait for him to come back.

He will have to, and the less he knows about what you have been doing the less he can concoct a story.

seminakedinsomebodyelsesroom · 28/09/2016 14:58

If she contacted him before he got home, do you think he has another phone stashed somewhere?

That was exactly my thought.

Agree with asking her H to call you to check it's really him on FB.

KayTee87 · 28/09/2016 14:58

Op I'm so sorry this has happened to you Flowers
Try to see a friend tonight, have a drink and a rant about the pair of scumbags

Unicorntrainer · 28/09/2016 14:58

Maybe he has another phone? Hand holding x

user1474781546 · 28/09/2016 14:59

I am so sorry OP.

KayTee87 · 28/09/2016 14:59

If he had a secret phone surely the dirty pics would be on that one... Unless he's not very bright.

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Pinkbabe1 · 28/09/2016 14:59

I have "friends" but they are more acquaintances - not people who I would trust. She was my very best friend, my only friend really

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Chinnygirl · 28/09/2016 14:59

I'm so sorry for you OP. You really have been mistreated by those two twats. Wine

DoloresVanCartier · 28/09/2016 14:59

If she's been in contact it does sound like another phone, although if that's the case why wouldn't she have just Sen the pics to the secret phone? OP your quiet (obviously but you know what I mean) does that mean the asshat has returned?

WaitrosePigeon · 28/09/2016 15:00

I am very sorry to hear this.

KayTee87 · 28/09/2016 15:00

Aw pink that must make it feel much worse. Well we can all keep you company WineCake

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