To cut my husband's ****edited by MNHQ**** with blunt scissors?

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So my husband works shifts and this week it is his early shift - he is gone from the house by 5am. I came down this morning to find he had left his iPhone on the worktop. As I was making breakfast for DC's I pressed the home button on his phone to check the time and saw an unread message from my best friend of 27 years saying "is she in bed yet?".

Now, it's my birthday next week so I thought they were arranging some special surprise for me. So left it as that. Dropped the kids off at school but something was niggling at me, I just had this feeling in my gut. His iPhone has got a passcode which I don't know. On my third attempt, by pure and utter luck, I managed to guess it right and get into his phone. What I have seen has made me sick to my stomach. My "friend" has been sending my husband dirty naked pics of herself - full on legs spread and sex toys involved. There are no replies or conversation from him but then I guess these can be deleted??? I noticed he's saved the pictures to his camera roll also - presumably for quick access. I have no idea if they have met - I can't think straight at the moment it feels like everything is in slow motion

My husband NEVER leaves his phone at home so I suspect this was a mistake. I've currently packed all his bags and I am just about to post the pictures of my "friend" on Facebook with a tag saying "you are welcome to him"

I don't know what to do

He's replied saying he has known for a while. He's said to take comfort in that fact that she hasn't only been doing this to my husband and that he turns a blind eye for the sake of their 5 children. I just feel like my life is a lie

It does sound like it might be her on his FB

When I said he might have known all along, I meant he could have suspected but chose to bury his head in the sand. He might even have been hoping it would be his DWs exit affair and save him the hassle of leaving her. Who knows. I don't think FB etc is the best or most sensible way to conduct these sort of conversations unless the people are 100% sure of all the facts.

Best bide your time OP and not give ammunition to the enemy.

So does he know that she's been sending photos to men or having an affair??

Oh wow OP I feel dreadful for you

Yes that must be incredibly comforting

Sorry. Crossed posts

Ah- x-d posts- so I was right. He knew.

It could very well be her on her husbands FB. I am sure if it is you can go speak to him directly anyway. One way or another he will find out.

Urgh.

Well, he's a coward then.

Don't worry about them op- your friendship is over

Your dh...what a twat...

It still might be her replying from her husbands account. To try and stop him finding out.

Yeah, she may well have hacked his Facebook. Seems more likely tbh.

Is there any way to contact the husband e.g. call his work and ask to speak to him?? (Or would that be weird?) and just make sure he knows?
If you're on your husband's phone and can log into his social media there's a good chance she can do the same with her husband. Plus you told her you knew first so she would then have tried to intercept if at all possible.

My husband still isn't home so I assume he knows. I guess her reply of "where did you those from" makes sense now that she's been doing it to multiple men

More fool her husband
Have you anyone in RL to support you OP?

Sorry, x-post OP.

I wonder why he didn't tell you. But I suppose he didn't want to ruin your life like she has his.

What a piece of dirt she is!

Ask him to ring you maybe? Just to clarify its definitely him.

What time are the kids home? Is there any way they can stay elsewhere tonight so you have some space to get used to this reality?

Good luck with everything, I really feel for you! What utter dicks.

She's trying to stop you actually telling him, I bet you.

Oh god OP, have you got any mates you can get over? If be with my friends in a shot if they were going through this.

Do you have kids?

She sounds so cheap and nasty.... how insulting! I hope there is someone around to give you a big hug!

I've called his work - he's left already

Jesus, is anyone near you a decent, honest person?

As for your cowardly husband, does he have whatsapp or facebook messenger? You can usually see when a person has last been 'active', if it's the last couple of hours you know he has access to messages.