To have said out loud that the doll was hideous

[Thornyrose7]

My in laws went to visit an elderly distant relative and since then, they have been hinting that they have a really special item to pass onto my DD, like some sort of heirloom, but they didn't say what it was.
We went to visit them and as I entered the living room, there was what I can only describe as a terrifying girl doll sat on the sofa next to my father in law.
It had blue lips and ash/ blonde grey hair and looked like a corpse doll. I was horrified and said the first thing that came out of my mouth ' how hideous'.
Well, as you can guess, this was supposed to be the special ' heirloom gift. My MIL acted as though I had insulted one of her friends and said ' oh poor little girl, well, I think she's lovely'. My Dd was a bit perplexed and didn't seem to know whether to side with me or her Gran. Apparently it is an expensive American Doll.But the colours have faded over time giving it its deathly pallor. In my opinion absolutely horrific. We left it there.
DH thinks that I was a bit mean and blunt.

'Personally I think being offended by someone not reacting how you think they should when faced with a surprise like that a bit pathetic too.'

But the doll wasn't for the OP. Even though it sounds as though she made it all about herself and how she felt about it.

*years ago

I think if you're going to give a gift to a child it's only polite to run it past the parents first! Or my nieces and nephews would all have drum kits.........

I realise it wasn't for the OP, but it was still something that, ultimately, the OP would be responsible for

FurryLittleTwerp Did they have those creepy paintings of crying children in every room as well?

Responsible for a doll?

Responsible for it being looked after properly and not damaged or broken. It's an heirloom, and given the song and dance the GPs made about it I would guess there would be hell to pay if it got broken.

The doll was being given to the child and would have been hers to look after. I really don't see what a massive burden it would have been on the OP. Still, any excuse for bad manners!

Do you really think if it was left for the child to look after and it got broken, the GPs would shrug their shoulders and say "oh well, children do break things"?

Well we'll never know as the OP rather rudely told them they wouldn't be taking the doll. But that's okay because apparently the in-laws were being much more offensive by offering it in the first place...........

Yup.

Honestly, the bizarre justifications for the OP's having acted like a twat. More bemusing than any ugly doll.

We will have to agree to disagree I think. You think it's rude to react suddenly without thought to a surprise, I think it's rude to put someone in that position.

Or my nieces and nephews would all have drum kits.

I gave a child a drum kit once. Is that not the done thing? It was a kiddie one and his dad was in a band.

It wasn't haunted or anything though.

Is that not the done thing?

Apparently not. My DM begged me not to. Killjoy.

Jelly - I can't remember noticing the walls trying to watch for creepy dolls sneaking up on me but I do remember a lot of unnecessary frilly stuff everywhere!

Perhaps the responses about the OP not graciously accepting the gifted doll might be from the doll...

I don't reckon haunted dolls can type.

But I'm happy to be proved wrong.

Impolite springs to mind. You should have accepted it graciously as it was well intended. I bet if you find out it's worth a few bob, you'll like it a lot more!

Gladys I love the wording in that advert!

Anyone else remembers that scene from Seinfeld when George finds out Susan's stupid doll collection was worth $2.6 million?

An heirloom, OP? Hm....

Creepy doll from Seinfeld

Who knows KingJoffrey...Chuckie was a dab-hand at wielding a knife, with his little doll fingers!

Sometimes u just can't help what I feel. End of the day it's only a doll MIL needs to wind her neck in & get over it

I mean what u feel. Grrr auto correct :)

You were rude and unreasonable. That said, next time, take the doll home, lock it in a chest, and then have it guarded by a priest. :D

Nah. You weren't BU. Maybe a little impolite but sometimes you just can't help it when words tumble out .

Dolls are fucking horrible, scary things and I don't blame you not liking what sounds like a huge monstrosity.

It really pisses me off when people want to pass down certain 'family heirlooms' that are actually a bunch of crap.

Unless they're worth something.

Then you graciously accept, hide it away and pull it out just before they visit.

Then you sell the ugly bastard thing on ASAP after they die.

Sounds like you may need a special lead lined, inescapable doll box just in case the sodding thing haunts your house...

i would probably have just mumbled "thank you" and then got home and binned it or sold it....most likely, if it was a really creepy looking doll i would have chucked it in a deep fast flowing river or sea then made a quick getaway....some dolls really are freaky...those waxy looking ones with no colour in their faces give me the creeps