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To have said out loud that the doll was hideous

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Thornyrose7 · 27/09/2016 16:05

My in laws went to visit an elderly distant relative and since then, they have been hinting that they have a really special item to pass onto my DD, like some sort of heirloom, but they didn't say what it was.
We went to visit them and as I entered the living room, there was what I can only describe as a terrifying girl doll sat on the sofa next to my father in law.
It had blue lips and ash/ blonde grey hair and looked like a corpse doll. I was horrified and said the first thing that came out of my mouth ' how hideous'.
Well, as you can guess, this was supposed to be the special ' heirloom gift. My MIL acted as though I had insulted one of her friends and said ' oh poor little girl, well, I think she's lovely'. My Dd was a bit perplexed and didn't seem to know whether to side with me or her Gran. Apparently it is an expensive American Doll.But the colours have faded over time giving it its deathly pallor. In my opinion absolutely horrific. We left it there.
DH thinks that I was a bit mean and blunt.

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liz70 · 27/09/2016 16:53

"The proper thing to do is accept it graciously and then put it in the loft."

That's all very well, until you wake up one night 🌃 to find it staring at you from your dressing table…

Gileswithachainsaw · 27/09/2016 16:55

Never ever put Manners into a doll situation.

You never ever accept a doll

Ever

Oysterbabe · 27/09/2016 16:57

YANBU. It would have killed you in your sleep.

PersianCatLady · 27/09/2016 16:59

What you don't realise is that the doll was going to come to you complete with a doll's dowry of £1,000,000.

Seeing as you left the doll behind you forfeit the money.

2kids2dogsnosense · 27/09/2016 16:59

Zippy My uncle and one of his wives

Grin
OhNoNotMyBaby · 27/09/2016 16:59

OMG guys - you are creeping me out here. Stop with the pictures! I hate dolls - I really do. Always have. I find them seriously scary.

Yes OP, you were a tad on the blunt and rude side, but I would have done and said exactly the same. Grin Grin

WetsTheFinger · 27/09/2016 17:01

Ok so you were rude but at least you didn't let it in your house and suffer demonic possessions for the next 40 years. Pros and cons.

TotalConfucius · 27/09/2016 17:01

You've placed yourself in a terribly hideously precarious position.

Doll heard you. Doll did not like what you said. Doll will seek her vengeance. You shall be named beneficiary of a huge sum of money in distant relative's will. This shall be conditional upon you opening your home (not just your loft) to Doll and caring for her all your live-long life.

As Julia Roberts would say "Mistake. Big mistake."

BuntyFigglesworthSpiffington · 27/09/2016 17:01

Yeah, yeah dolls are creepy etc. etc.

But that poor elderly relative. She was probably excited about giving this doll to your daughter and you came out with a 'how hideous' comment.

No need to be such a cow.

Lorelei76 · 27/09/2016 17:01

oh poor you OP - I have only just cut myself off from that instant reaction coming out of my gob.

for some reason your description makes me think of those paintings in Friends - the ones Phoebe did with the half alive thing stuck to them?

abbsismyhero · 27/09/2016 17:02

I turned down a couple of toys off my daughters grew nan one was a teddy bear with huge pupil-less eyes which made her scream the other was the exorcist doll you wound it up and the head span around with a gruesome squeaking sound

I'm not sorry I did that some toys are nightmares

myownprivateidaho · 27/09/2016 17:02

Yeah you were terribly rude. Particularly bad to say this about a doll, which people get really emotionally attached to. I'm not surprised your mil took it as an insult to the donor who probably felt that it was really meaningful to pass on a beloved childhood toy to a child. And it's so shallow to teach your dd that something old and not to modern tastes isn't to be valued. A doll that is decades old is something that could be special to a child, even if it isn't something they play with every day.

Pineapplemilkshake · 27/09/2016 17:03

YABU and rude. It may have meant a lot to the elderly relative to pass the doll on to a little girl. Many older dolls are a little scary looking. I think on this occasion you should have accepted and put it in the attic.

AmeliaJack · 27/09/2016 17:05

GrinGrinGrin

If the doll makes its way out of the loft and into your dressing table/arm chair all bets are off and you are free to use any and all forms of self defence.

I can assure you that the 10 (yes 10!) hideously creepy knitted clowns which were boxed in our loft (marked Clowns!!) recently went to the charity shop after a decent period of time had passed without any head chopping off required.

They were so awful we didn't even show them to the children.

We wrote nice thank you letters for them though.

Gileswithachainsaw · 27/09/2016 17:07

Knitted clown dolls

Fuck

I'd have had a bonfire

Topseyt · 27/09/2016 17:07

You were very rude there and should apologise. It may have been a piece of family history and they wanted to pass it on to another generation. There might even have been a story of some sort attached to it.

Did you even check with your DD whether or not she would have liked it?

It may well have been hideous, but you don't just walk into someone's house and loudly label anything of theirs hideous.

That said though, I am liking some of the suggestions for what you could do with it.Grin

Batteriesallgone · 27/09/2016 17:07

Ok so you were rude but at least you didn't let it in your house and suffer demonic possessions for the next 40 years. Pros and cons.

Grin pissing myself laughing at this Grin

Lorelei76 · 27/09/2016 17:07

abbs "one was a teddy bear with huge pupil-less eyes"

I am scared just reading that!!

rhiaaaaaaaannon · 27/09/2016 17:08

I'm with you op, I don't care how much it's worth I would not have Creepy Death Doll in my house. Once they have you as their target they don't stop. You could put her in the bin and walk back in to find her sitting on your bed.

I would be questioning why your PIL are trying to kill you.

Lorelei76 · 27/09/2016 17:10

Rhiannon, I'm crying with laughter now!!! Grin

scampimom · 27/09/2016 17:10

When I was six I was given a large, quite light and long Christmas present. Peeled off the paper, clapped eyes on the CLOWN DOLL within, screamed and flung it across the room. Very much hurt the gifter's feelings, but in my defence, it was a doll and a clown. A clown doll. A dead-eyed clown doll with a mechanical laugh when you pulled a cord.

I need to see pictures of the doll in question to decide whether you were extremely rude, and should have accepted graciously and remembered your manners etc., or whether you didn't go far enough and should in fact have burned down the house with the thing inside. (ALthough then a burned, half-melted evil doll would then appear at your bedside at midnight)

AmeliaJack · 27/09/2016 17:11

Giles they were disturbing. The relatives who gifted them thought they were adorable and bought us a pair for 4 years running.

Gileswithachainsaw · 27/09/2016 17:12

Oh give over

Finding some cursed guatamalan worry doll that's been buried under the floor boards by others who were trying to escape it, does not a family history make...

ILostItInTheEarlyNineties · 27/09/2016 17:14

Can you ring and apologise about your 'hideous' comment, explaining you have an irrational fear of old dolls?

This will ensure you are not written out of the will restore harmony with the ILs.

Love the lamp idea Grin.

SaucyJack · 27/09/2016 17:16

I hope you don't have a cat flap.

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