To think the whole family should all eat the same meals at dinner

[emodi]

I am a working mum to ds10 and dd7 . At present I cook one hot meal at night and have a pretty fixed time table for dinners . I was quite surprised yesterday when my DH started saying I don't cook specially for him and that after work I should be cooking him something separate as he is "older" at 45 so he needs more fish and white meat . Kids are allergic to fish . My job is quite busy with late nights and on calls and I usually cook in bulk I was wondering if that's what most people do . Growing up my mum cooked one meal for all of us and we all ate what we were given . I can't imagine cooking different meals for us. What do the rest of you do?

Well 'kids food' doesn't exist in my house because too many allergies means processed foods and takeaways don't feature in my house. Ds1 and ds3 can't eat nuggets, fish fingers or pizza. In all honesty though even if they could eat kids food I'm not sure I would buy it because I don't see the point in buying and cooking separate kids food. I probably don't have fussy eaters though as even ds3 who has just turned one will happily eat whatever we have (as long
as he can chew it), chilli is his favourite meal.
Our diet isn't all healthy though, we all eat chips and we always have cake and chocolate in the house (several types of chocolate due to those damn allergies).

Perhaps he's trying to drop the hint that he would like to eat dinner with just you sometimes - You know a grown up meal. But hes using this excuse so as to not offend the kids. Talk to him.. find out whats on his mind. If all this talk of a tailored diet is out of nowhere whats brought him to that conclusion? Has he been feeling ill, gained a little weight and so on & so on. Before you get peeved try to understand.

We occasionally eat with the kids in the week but mostly eat later together. Mostly because we like really spicy food that they wouldn't eat. But my husband does nearly all the cooking. I only cook for the kids and if he is really late.
My kids are younger though, so it might change as they get older.

Try to understand?

Understand what? His inability to cook a bit of fish or chicken?

We've changed our general diet to include more chicken and fish because DH is prone to gout and when he's having a flare up red meat will have him in agony. No big deal.

So that could be an "older man" thing.

One meal a night is more than enough work for this wife. Because it's every fucking night.

Look at all the 'DH is away tonight so I'm going to eat what I want' threads

To be fair, my DH is vegetarian so this totally happens for me

If he wants something different he should cook it himself. Dh and I sometimes eat differently from the kids, but I wouldn't cook separately for just him.

I do all the cooking in my house. That's just how it is. Constructive criticism I can handle. Like, "Please can we not have chili for a third night this week."
Generally speaking I feed them what they like and suits my schedule. I don't batch cook but when I cook from scratch all the time I always make a few extra for the freezer. This means if someone doesn't fancy what I'm making/heating up they have a choice from the freezer. Eg just now I have salmon and broccoli supreme, lentil curry, beef curry, shepherds pie, chicken and mushroom pie, quorn savoury mince ......nothing wrong with wanting to eat what you want....just as long as it's not causing a headache for someone else.
My adult son and OH LOVE kids food. Breaded haddock (homemade), potato wedges and baked beans is classed as proper food by my OH. He is my self confessed 3rd child.

Our rule is 1. Whoever gets in 1st cooks and 2. We eat the same unless we warm up a batch cooked thing for dd as we are having something v spicy. Which is served at the same time.

Want something else at a different time, cook it yourself.

The people waxing on about how "one meal" people are impractical and awful are being deliberately dense.

Child with allergies, diet need or psych issue = yes needs different food.
Adult on diet or veggie = yes needs different food.

OP's massively sexist man baby = WANTS different food. Doesn't need. Wants to make his wife do double double-shift by cooking dinner after a difficult job twice.

Not the same at all.

Don't shift the agenda so he's garnering sympathy like an allergic child. He's nothing of the sort.

I think it's pretty much what everyone else is saying. He wants a different dinner cuz he is older, he can cook it himself and wash up cuz he is older too. Bit insensitive to ask of a busy working mum. Don't tolerate it. You are in the right.