To only share my bed with DH

[rookiemere]

So for various reasons I am in a hotel room on my own as it is a family occasion and DH couldnt come as needed to stay at home with DS.

My cousin who I love dearly wanted to share for one night. I said sure as long as I can swap to a twin or get an extra bed added. Thankfully we've managed to get an extra bed so it will be fine. But she seemed to act like it was kind of weird that I would not sleep in the same bed then her sister made a remark about it as well.

AIBU ? To be honest I don't even enjoy sharing that much with DH we are both light sleepers and wake each other up going to the loo, plus I toss and turn a lot.

When Dsis and I went down to London due to a medical emergency with my parents we shared a room in a hotel. We walked in, saw the beds shoved together and promptly pulled them apart. They were seperate beds with seperate bedding but we still pulled them apart :o

I'd share a bed with my sisters, but it's a matter of personal choice.

I don't mind sharing bed with other folk other than my oh as long as they are female

I'd share if I got on really well with them. I think it is a cultural thing, some psychology studies have found that Americans have the largest personal space, twice that of the next country. Europeans tend to have a very small personal space.

Well said banana

Just DP for me. I've got used to sleeping on my own and we don't live together.

Oh yuck! I wouldn't share a bed. I am too flatulent for a start. There'd be no dignity in it at all. I'd be the source of pitying and disgusted gossip. Plus I am a duvet thief apparently. So much so that we have to have two separate duvets on the bed. And I still sometimes steal even then. Feel free to borrow my sad reasons if pressed. I am generous with those if not with the bedding.

In my experience (I have lots of American friends and family), Americans are more inclined to share rooms/beds when at hotels. It's not uncommon to do what my BIL and SIL do - share one room between two couples, with two double/king size beds in it. My aunts tend to expect me, if I'm travelling on my own without my DH, to share a bed with my female cousins.

I find it really strange, actually, because most Americans have enormous houses and not much vacation time - plus hotels are so cheap there - so I don't really understand why they insist on doing so much sharing for the sake of a few quid.

It's a personal space issue and should be respected. I totally agree. Family and close (very) friends only unless you're skint/drunk/lonely/swinging etc.