To only share my bed with DH

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So for various reasons I am in a hotel room on my own as it is a family occasion and DH couldnt come as needed to stay at home with DS.

My cousin who I love dearly wanted to share for one night. I said sure as long as I can swap to a twin or get an extra bed added. Thankfully we've managed to get an extra bed so it will be fine. But she seemed to act like it was kind of weird that I would not sleep in the same bed then her sister made a remark about it as well.

AIBU ? To be honest I don't even enjoy sharing that much with DH we are both light sleepers and wake each other up going to the loo, plus I toss and turn a lot.

I've never understood why when we get married we have to share a room and a bed.....I prefer my own space..I have suggested single beds to husband,as you can imagin it didn't go down well.....I mean why though...I would be a much more attentive wife / mother with my own space...sigh

Used too with my best friend all the time (nothing sexual) she stopped over my
House the night before my wedding.

DH got a shock when she climbed in bed the next morning with us

I don't mind, although would prefer my own bed rather than to share with someone i wasn't close to.
Happy to share with my closest friends.
Although I don't sleep well because I have to wear clothes and my preference is naked!
I absolutely hate sharing a bed with any of my DC though, they are the worst! Fidget fidget, toss, turn, mutter, mutter. FFS JUST GO AWAY

Having read your explanation OP, YANBU. But I can imagine that your cousin felt offended at your unwillingness to share a bed, because on the face of it it sounds more like you are squeamish at the idea (for hygiene reasons etc) than the effect it will have on your actual sleep.

I'm not entirely sure I'd share with DH if I had a choice...

youarenotprepared I agree with you. Given a choice... Anyway, OP YANBU.

YANBU there are lots of studies about how bed sharing negatively affects your sleep. I can barely tolerate DH (especially if he's snoring).

Unless it is a question of money, I'd have my own room. Definitely would not share a bed though.

YANBU OP.

I wouldn't share a bed with anyone other than DH or DS (although he is 18 so he would probably rather sleep on a bed of nails rather than with his old mum!)

Shared a twin room with different friends on a few recent occasions - and that took enough getting used to tbh.

I'm very private and like my own space

I don't share rooms with anyone other than DH and DS, and I don't go on hen weekends and the like where the only option is a shared room. I need my own space to decompress in social situations, and sharing a bed, even with a close friend, is way too much.

I don't think it's weird. If you couldn't get another bed would you have shared? Maybe if you'd refused to share in those circumstances I'd have thought 'Oh calm down, it's only one night', but nothing wrong with asking to swap to a twin or get another bed.

It wouldn't bother me in the slightest.

YANBU I wouldn't have wanted to share a room, let alone a bed.

YANBU. I only share with DH. The thought of sharing with anyone else turns my stomach.

Of course I would share with a dear cousin in a king sized bed. It is just one night. Hardly a hardship. It is puzzling how people can get so precious when it comes to sleep. I won't go on about refugees.

"It is puzzling how people can get so precious when it comes to sleep."

It is puzzling how some people really cannot understand why other people really need their own space for sleeping.

Refugees has nothing to do with it. We are talking about hotel rooms here, not desperate situations.

I have "slept" on crowded trains, boats and planes, also in a crowded refuge on top of a mountain. But when presented with the idea of sharing a hotel bed with someone I barely know then no, I won't.

I would feel a bit weird about bed sharing with anyone other than DH or dc. Sharing a room I would be fine with.

At my dsis's wedding a guest (elderly uncle) asked if she would mind him "bunking in" with them that night. He reassured her he would sleep on the floor and not disturb them

Nope, can't share a bed and would prefer not to share a room. Can't stand it!

Took me years to get used to sharing with DH - no way would I share with anyone else.

We've all shared single beds/one man tents/sleeping bags with (sometimes several) friends of both sexes at some point, I'm sure, when relative poverty/disorganisation was an issue, or when the alternative was sleeping on a railway platform in December. But I don't share hotel rooms these days, whatever the number of beds, because I don't want to. Getting ready for bed, reading till 3 am if I feel like it, and sleeping and waking up are private as far as I'm concerned, and I don't think there's anything precious about not wanting to share a hotel room.

It's a side issue, but I also think this is in part an extrovert/introvert issue. I'm reasonably extroverted in company, but after a family occasion that involves socialising, I desperately need time and space to myself to decompress.

for one night i'd share.

I've learned to accept twin beds and sharing with DSis's again through various hen weekends (the first involved sharing a twin with DSIL! Interesting!!).

But no way would I share a bed with anyone other than DH (and DD crawling in with us at times - but if it's just DD and I , we get a twin room).

No one should question why an adult wants to decide who they share a room with, let alone a bed.

It is puzzling how people can get so precious when it comes to sleep

Puzzling that people want to sleep at night?
Someone asking me to share my bed might as well be asking me to give up my bed to them. Is that reasonable? Because I literally might as well spend the night sitting in an armchair because I'd get as much sleep

Unless you're DP or I gave birth to you there's bloody no chance I'm sharing a bed with you.

Doesnt bother me but I understand why others would mind.