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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

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To only share my bed with DH

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rookiemere · 26/09/2016 05:19

So for various reasons I am in a hotel room on my own as it is a family occasion and DH couldnt come as needed to stay at home with DS.

My cousin who I love dearly wanted to share for one night. I said sure as long as I can swap to a twin or get an extra bed added. Thankfully we've managed to get an extra bed so it will be fine. But she seemed to act like it was kind of weird that I would not sleep in the same bed then her sister made a remark about it as well.

AIBU ? To be honest I don't even enjoy sharing that much with DH we are both light sleepers and wake each other up going to the loo, plus I toss and turn a lot.

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blueshoes · 26/09/2016 11:11

Still don't understand why one night of broken sleep is such a big deal. I am very introverted and don't find it an issue to share with a close friend for one night. Must be quite restrictive if that is a problem. Camping, anyone?

Soubriquet · 26/09/2016 11:12

I don't even share a bed with Dh

I love him to bits but I hate sharing a bed with anyone

ThroughThickAndThin01 · 26/09/2016 11:14

I couldnt share a room, let alone a bed.

YANBU.

YelloDraw · 26/09/2016 11:15

I don't like to share but I will - I don't sleep as well because I am worried about tossing and turning and waking the other person up.

CockacidalManiac · 26/09/2016 11:19

It is puzzling how people can get so precious when it comes to sleep. I won't go on about refugees.

What the fuck have refugees got to do with this? how weird.

NewPotatoes · 26/09/2016 11:19

But blue, surely you can see it's a big deal for other people who have different priorities to you? I can entirely grasp it's not an issue for some people, maybe even the majority, but it's not something I do at all, because I don't have to.

I would happily buy the OP's cousin her own hotel room if money were a problem, but I certainly wouldn't be sharing, short of some kind of emergency scenario where we were snowbound or something.

PoldarksBreeches · 26/09/2016 11:36

It's not broken sleep its no sleep
Seriously. You think I'm exaggerating. I will literally lie in bed all night. Might drop off at 5 if I'm lucky but awake again by 7.
When I go camping I take sleeping pills

OliviaBensonOnAGoodDay · 26/09/2016 11:38

When I was younger I didn't care at all - happily shared with friends all the time to save money on hotels etc. Now I can't think of anything worse. YANBU!

blueshoes · 26/09/2016 13:16

But blue, surely you can see it's a big deal for other people who have different priorities to you?

Yes, but this is AIBU and IMO you, the OP and others are BU. That's it, I guess.

PoldarksBreeches · 26/09/2016 13:16

BU for having insomnia? Or BU for not wanting to have a night with no sleep? I'm curious

NicknameUsed · 26/09/2016 13:42

"Still don't understand why one night of broken sleep is such a big deal."

I don't understand why you don't understand why sleep is so important to some of us. If I don't sleep I get a migraine. I am literally no use to anyone after a sleepless night.

When my cousin's car wouldn't start after a family get together we paid for her to have her own room at the place we were staying at.

Ans, no I haven't camped for nearly 40 years. Wild horses wouldn't drag me camping again.

heron98 · 26/09/2016 13:57

You are being a bit weird.

I go away with my friends every year and we always share beds to save money.

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rookiemere · 26/09/2016 15:12

Ok so have just woken up after a nice nights sleep.

I don't function well without sleep and funnily enough am not fond of camping.

If the hotel hadn't been able to sort out an extra bed I probably would have offered to pay for another room.

I fly back on Tuesday and I will be flying over night so keen not to miss any sleep before then

Interesting that it's such a divided subject.

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NerrSnerr · 26/09/2016 15:23

I agree OP. I hate sharing beds. I love staying in hotels by myself so I can chill out by myself and watch telly until late in bed. I'm not sure what that has to do about refugees.

RhodaBorrocks · 26/09/2016 15:33

I'd share a bed with family or a close friend, but my sister would refuse to share with me.

When my Dad used to go away on business when I was a teenager I'd sleep in my parent's bed with mum to keep her company. Again, my sister wouldn't have dreamed of it (pun not intended!). One of my cousins would share a bed with her Mum even though they were in their 40s and 70s respectively (Auntie has now passed).

It's whatever your preference is, really.

lynniep · 26/09/2016 16:10

I would prefer NOT to share a bed with anyone (including DH), but in circumstances where its necessary (example - girls weekend at centreparcs) then I would but only with a good friend. Or a sibling.

Duckafuck · 26/09/2016 16:10

It's just preference so yanbu but neither was she in not minding sharing the bed. Maybe she took it a bit personally hence the comments to your sister.

TransformersRobotsInDaSky · 26/09/2016 16:22

A company I used to work for made me share bedrooms with work colleagues of the same sex in order to save money. One time me and a colleague checked in to find we'd been allocated a double bed and no alternatives were available, absolutely awful night and I refused to do work trips without my own room from then on.

elh1605 · 26/09/2016 16:24

I've shared a bed many a time with by bffs whilst on girly weekends or just for a night and find nothing wrong with it-makes it more fun in my opinion.

CheesyWeez · 26/09/2016 16:32

Ick no I'd hate to do that. shudder. I don't always like it with DH to be honest, we constantly wake each other up.
Transformers What the hell? For WORK?

MistressMolecules · 26/09/2016 16:43

Nooo I couldn't share, DH is lucky I share with him and don't make him sleep on the floor! (although I will share with the baby - she doesn't take up a lot of room and it is the only bloody way the child will sleep most nights hence the only way I get some sleep )

PageStillNotFound404 · 26/09/2016 16:48

YANBU OP. I only share a bed with DH when I absolutely have to. And as for camping...I've managed to avoid it so far and have no intention of starting now. I'd rather not have a holiday at all than go camping.

WankersHacksandThieves · 26/09/2016 16:51

i'd prefer not to but would if there was no alternative.

It sort of reminds me of this though - and we never used to bat an eyelid :o

Purple52 · 26/09/2016 16:52

I really wouldn't care! As long as I know the person. Pjs on. Head on pillow & sleep! Female friends I'd share a bed no probs. & often do on girlie weekends.
I'd share a room (prob not a bed!) with male friends too. It's just sleep!

Branleuse · 26/09/2016 16:54

I would if I could have a sleeping pill, otherwise I just wouldnt sleep.

If youre not a bad sleeper, you wouldnt understand

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