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To think this mum could make a tiny effort

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Nicpem1982 · 24/09/2016 17:40

It's my dds birthday party next weekend at our local soft play centre it's the whole shabang food play frame disco character face painting etc.

Invites went out and rsvps came back no problem one of the children has a dairy allergy so i spoke to the mom and arranged that she can call the centre and they will go through the allergy book and mom can tell them what dd can eat and play centre will do her separate food but she can eat at the same time as other children, I'm making her dairy free cupcakes in place of birthday cake and non dairy sweets in party bag.

This conversation took place 2 weeks ago when she rsvpd and today the play centre called and informed me that she still hasn't called Aibu to be a bit annoyed that she hasn't?

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takemetomars · 25/09/2016 20:39

Utterly bonkers!!
Pretty much everything you have said about parties, birthday months and the way you parent sounds bonkers.
Laughing at Maui

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Nicpem1982 · 25/09/2016 20:41

Well, when I asked her if she's like her friends here for a party and they dress up and play she said no thank you mommy, she was then given the option of just mommy and daddy and we have spooky dinner she said yes please

We asked twice the answer is the same, it's not a difficult concept - she doesn't want a Halloween party

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Nicpem1982 · 25/09/2016 20:42

Takemetomars - how incredibly rude you are about the way we chose to parent it's hardly bonkers that we give our daughter choices and respect them

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Ausernotanumber · 25/09/2016 20:43

Are you in the uk?

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Nicpem1982 · 25/09/2016 20:44

Yes why

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OhTheRoses · 25/09/2016 20:45

Oh FGS. Hello neighbour soft play called to say you haven't been in touch about your dd's diet. I know it's struggle, but if you don't have a minute, could you please send her with a lunch box. Otherwise she might be hungry. End of. Nothing else necessary x

Ausernotanumber · 25/09/2016 20:45

Mommy seemed American to me.

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Nicpem1982 · 25/09/2016 20:47

Auser - how can someone "seem" American?

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Ausernotanumber · 25/09/2016 20:48

Mommy is an American term, or it seemed it to me.

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Nicpem1982 · 25/09/2016 20:48

Oh the roses - they won't allow outside food and she's calling tomorrow

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Ausernotanumber · 25/09/2016 20:49

Someone's phraseology the language they use can seem American. mommy being a case in point.

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Nicpem1982 · 25/09/2016 20:50

No my dd calls me mommy/mom mom/ stinky mom/ smelly feet/princess mommy/ my mommy/ dd's mom mom depends on her mood but the common one is mommy

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Ausernotanumber · 25/09/2016 20:51

Gosh her language is advanced, isn't it? For not yet two. You must be so proud.

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Nicpem1982 · 25/09/2016 20:53

Even though your attempting sarcasm badly I'll answe you , yes it is she started talking early and we read with her a lot not anything we've done just how she is

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WhateverWillBe · 25/09/2016 20:56

You lost me at booking your dc's party a year in advance Grin

Seriously op, that's crazy. Way OTT.

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Nicpem1982 · 25/09/2016 20:58

whatever - it's not for everyone I get that Smile

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schbittery · 25/09/2016 20:59

Please trust me when i tell you that when she is 7 or 8 you will not want, and she wouldnt enjoy, a party with 50 kids at it. You either need to do 2 parties - school and outside friends/family or pick 15 or so kids from all she knows.

But she's 2, dont plan all this stuff until shes at school. Enjoy this year while shes young but see how it goes going forward. What youre planning is probably perfectly feasable with one pre school child and a part time job. Its not with 2/3/4 children, some of whom require help with homework and driving to activities and a full time job.

leopardgecko · 25/09/2016 21:01

Talking about booking a birthday party a year in advance....

When my grandson was about two and a half I saw some Thomas and Friends toys on sale, and later some birthday party plates/cups/decorations etc. So I asked my daughter and got them all. I was rather pleased with myself with presents and party sorted.

Of course six months later he was totally bored with Thomas and it all about Paw Patrol.

A lesson was learned.

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Nicpem1982 · 25/09/2016 21:01

Schbittery - I agree :) I'm not planning her school parties it's up to her what she wants

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Nicpem1982 · 25/09/2016 21:03

Leopard - what a nightmare.

We book the venue but the theme is flexible it's literally only securing our spot on the day and time we want.

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leopardgecko · 25/09/2016 21:07

We book the venue but the theme is flexible it's literally only securing our spot on the day and time we want.

Very wise!!!

Hope your daughter has a lovely party, and you can find the time to relax and enjoy it too. (I'd rather like Mickey and Minnie and I'm 52!!) x

Obliviated · 25/09/2016 21:08

We easily end up with 50 children or so at each of my DC's birthday parties. Once you've invited the whole class, some bring siblings, outside of school friends, my friends children - the more the merrier. We hire a hall, bouncy castles, entertainers and pay for someone to do the buffet. We have to book it months in advance because the time of year means all the hire equipment is snapped up pretty quickly

Hope you have a lovely party, even if your child doesn't remember it, you will and it'll be a lovely memory.

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