I've been called a prostitute!!

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Group of friends, 4 couples, known each other for years, the guys went to school together and we're all in our late 40's

We recently all went away renting a house in France for a long weekend. Some of us manage to see each other fairly often, but it's only generally every couple of years that we all manage to get together at the same

One of the chaps has a new girlfriend who we were all meeting for the first time. I know it's horrid coming into formed friendships, but over the years first wives have come and gone and we're certainly not cliquey.

Now DH and I have a very good standard of living, I don't work, we take several holidays a every year blah blah. On the first evening, the new gf asked what I did for a living and someone laughed and said 'shopping', which we all agreed sounded about right! It was all very light hearted, however the new gf said that in her opinion that was the same as being a legal prostitute ... WTF !! No one knew really what to say, so there was an embarrassed laugh and we changed the subject.

She clearly didn't approve of me being a 'kept woman' and she kept having snipes and digs the whole weekend. I was looking at some shoes in a shop window and she asked if I should ask my husband if I could buy them!

Now I don't have to justify myself to her, but she knows absolutely zero about me or my life ... DH and I started a business together, from absolutely nothing, when our kids were babies. I was actually sat at my desk when I went into labour and I was back there 2 weeks later, baby by my side. We both worked incredibly hard and we sold the business 12 years ago for a sum of money which would enable me to give up work.

Our kids were 11 and 12 and it was a good time for us as a family for me to be a sahm. Fast forward 12 years, the kids have graduated and I'm still here ... We love our life and I know I am very very fortunate ... BUT what a horrid thing to say to someone the first time they've met you ... we were going to invite them all to ours for NY but I'm really not keen any more.

Fwiw any money I spent and will continue to spend will be the money that we earned together!!

AIBU to not want this woman in my home??

Argh, I thought I was posting a private message - will ask to remove!

User- don't leave, no harm done, just a misunderstanding, all cleared up now :) stay and get the support you want :)

Blimey there is nothing to forgive. Please dont leave over this. It is no ones fault at all.

Its a discussion about a very emotive subject that got out of hand.

user or alice I didn't see your apology so I'm apologising but if you read the rest of my post I have said I also made a cock up yesterday which was a real corker. So thank god for MNHQ who got rid of my cock up pronto.
Anyway I apologise ok.

Oh gosh. Ailli, don't you leave either.

How did this thread get so derailed ????

FWIW, I am fond of Helena so would always make sure she is OK first. But I think you meant no harm and hope you will stay too. Sounds like you might be in need of some good old fashioned MN straight talking support. Stick around.

I agree with AF And looking back at my posts i can see that i did overreact.

Im sorry Please stay on here.

A 10 year membership is quite impressive.

AF I dont quite know but I missed the apology so have apologised myself. I too was on a phone and out but now back home again on a tablet so can see.
I also apologise to anyone else if I have upset them with my post I'll own it and so I should

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So thank god for MNHQ

Well quite.

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Peace and love everyone

Ha!
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I shall expect my cut of your wages in the post

The person who made assumptions is in the wrong.

Jealousy comes out in different forms, cheeky cow!!
I would say to her boyfriend that you don't like her and yr sorry but he can come to the party but not her. Don't tell him why, coz he will just brush it off as its 'Just her'
It will ruin yr whole evening if she is there.
I know, coz I've just spent a very expensive evening with a foul mouthed bitch and all we wanted to do was go home, totally ruined our night.
Be strong, don't let anyone bully you into doing something that you really don't want to do.
Good luck!

PS I haven't worked for 20 yrs 👏👏

So, no-one is leaving? I feel I don't know enough posters around here anymore as it is! It's getting weird when af is giving x's and Helena is getting upset.
Everyone still loves everyone, yes?

Yes Buzzard.

Thank you Helena :)

spend your day blowing bubbles its nobody elses business

I met a lady the other day who does spend her day blowing bubbles.

It's a very important and seriously underrated job you know.

she does it in a hospital where small children are having blood tests and canulas fitted. It works they don't scream and don't get distressed

Cab in your shoes I would speak to her personally, not hubby speak to friend.

I'd say how offensive her comments were. I'd say no one said anything at the time because they were so shocked and embarrassed for her!

I personally do not believe prostitution is 'sex work' - it's prostitution. It is a serious subject. It's not a joke. The comment is offensive but really it is totally ignorant too! She is showing her disdain for other woman! A woman who is married is not prostitute, whether she works, or earns a lot or less than her husband. End of.

I would not look down on others anyway and I think she is just showing her jealously and ignorance by doing this.

All you need to know is can she keep her ignorant and rude (use your own words!) Comments to herself. if so she will be invited (if you decide yes), if not, not.

Because I am someone who hates confrontation I would probably invite her and her boyfriend out to pub /coffee and have the talk with him there and because I like to try to be conciliatory I'd tell him what I was planning to do!

That way she will know and will be suitably able to act like a normal person. One would hope!

If that is all too much I'd call or email.

I'd not be sure my husband would tackle this well, but your husband might!

Good luck.

I'm still trying to work out how SAHM who likes to shop = prostitute

Oh I get it now!! In my defense it's late

Oh god OP, I've had this kind of thing loads. The most recent was about 6 months ago when we had about 5 of DH's clients for dinner and some random girlfriend said to me, "Oh so your job is to look beautiful and keep keep him (DH) happy - good for you". This was someone I was hosting in our home! DH just gave her one of his looks and said, "No sctially it's my job to keep my wife happy'". If I were you I would just have her over for New Year, go all out, be extra-gracious and hospitable and rub her face in whatever it is she has the issue with.

I am disgusted at all the bitch and cow comments on here. Why do people still feel the need to use such mysogynistic insults.

I agree with that Truck.

What Truck said...

ALSO - I'm a bit at some of the negativity expressed here about prostitutes. For the record I'm not a prostitute and have never done sex work. But a very bright and beautiful friend of mine did while we were students. In fact she earned enough to pay her way through college and came out with no debt and a First. The oldest profession and all that...

OP I would be going for a very robust private chat with the 'lady' herself, telling her that her previous rudeness was insufferable. You are inviting her for NYE out of respect for her DP, but one more comment like her previous insults and she can sling her jealous hook.