Would you give up your surname of you got married?

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I'm so undecided

I didn't, it never occurred to me to do so. It's a total mystery to me why so many women do. We have one child with his surname and one with mine. Some people think it's confusing. I don't care.

I changed mine. It was important to me that we all had the same name as a family and I wasn't attached to my surname. I have had 2 surnames and neither fill me with happy memories. I love my married surname.

I did. My maiden name wouldn't suit being double barrelled with another . But at the same time, I know I'll always be a '[insert maidenname]', that's my blood. But now I'm also a big part of DH family too, and my surname proves it.

I did. I wanted everyone in the family to have the same name.

I would but mainly because i don't like my surname. I think it's becoming more common to keep it now though. 2 of my close friends have kept their names, and one has gone double barrelled.

The 2 of my friends who kept their names have double barrelled their kids names

Double barreled but really wish I had simply kept mine, and double barreled just the kids. Never use DH's name for anything. I saw absolutely no reason to give my name up. If DH would have said it's a deal breaker then I we probably would not have been compatible anyway.

I don't like my surname that much but I still wouldn't give it up, on principle. Then again, I wouldn't ever get married, on principle. I would also find changing my name on bills, bank cards etc too much of a PITA.

I have a different surname to my children and it has never once been an issue. No one has ever questioned it.

No i didn't. I'm not a huge fan of my surname (spelt and pronoubced in umpteen ways) but DH's is a comedy German surname (not quite Kuntz quality!) and there was no way I was going to have that following me around everywhere!

I'm Ms Conyo. He is Mr Kuntz. DS is Kuntz Conyo, no hyphen. No middle name.

I did, mainly because I wanted to have the same name as my children but also because it was a better name than my incredibly common maiden name. Double barrelled wasn't an option either.
Ultimately it's down to personal preference though.

I gave mine up, I wanted the whole family the be "The Ludways",(not real name). I sort of regret it now, I wish I'd kept my name, I had my original name for nearly 40 years and I miss it. I've since added it as a second middle.

In addition my DH was absolutely astonished that i took his name. It was possibly more a deal relaxer that I did than I didn't. He was completely taken by surprise and took a long time to get used to it.

I did, it was so much more practical for so many reasons.
I also did it because my surname was clearly of foreign origin and I suspected that my CV was being binned because I didn't have a British surname. I also hail from a country where changing your surname is not possible after marriage so I thought it was beautiful to have that choice!

My maiden name was horrible and married name is lovely, so yeah, I did.

Nope but I gave my husband mine, I'm so generous .

I did, it was so much more practical for so many reasons.
I also did it because my surname was clearly of foreign origin and I suspected that my CV was being binned because I didn't have a British surname. I also hail from a country where changing your surname is not possible after marriage so I thought it was beautiful to have that choice!

Didn't change mine. DD has both our surnames, no hyphen. She can make her own choice about whether to use either, both or neither. Any sons we have can do the same.

I did, I went from having the third most popular surname in the UK to having one that I share with less than 400 in the UK

I have two friends (female) who have the same first name. (Let's say Jane) they got married and we laughed about one of them taking the other's surname as then they would have had the same first and second names.

Yes, I did. Twice.

I wouldn't do it again though if I was to ever remarry.

It reminds me that my housing association still has my first married name down. I was going to change it but MIL got in a huff when she realised I was still using my first married name for that and went on about how I should have left that name well behind and I'm married to her son now. I never changed it because I'm immature and it gives me a small sense of satisfaction

I use both. More often the new one, but I prefer it as a name.

My friend has hyphenated hers Her Name - His Name and her DH has kept the same name. Their DC are also Her Name - His Name.

I couldn't wait to change mine as I am not keen on my old name or my family!

Nah.

I'm more likely to fly to the moon.

There's something I always find puzzling in these threads. You know all these 'horrible' or 'boring' surnames people have, and they are glad to see the back of them when they marry? Do all males in the family happen to like those same names, or do they take their wives' 'nicer' surnames upon marriage?

My DC's middle name is my surname. He actually has two. My DM maiden name and my surname.

I'm thinking of changing his surname to mine and my DP's though so it's double barrelled. I like my surname and I intend to keep it. I might double barrel as well, but I'm not sure yet.