Would you give up your surname of you got married?

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I'm so undecided

No. I find it hilarious that I would need a new name! I have one already.
Our dcs are my husband's name because he wanted it that way. Doesn't bother me that I have a different name to them. They are most definitely my kids!

Yes.

No reason not to.

Nope. My son has both my name and his dad's. Never been a problem.

I'd consider allowing any future spouse to change their name to mine, though, if they wanted. But I'm not giving up mine for anyone, and I hate that it's automatically expected that women will.

I changed my name. It wasn't a deal breaker, it just felt like the right thing to do - we're Team Shoes. I suppose DH could have changed his name to my name.

I love having the same surname as DH, pees me off a little bit that I have to have the same surname as MIL!

It's totally personal choice though.

No. I kept my name when I married. It's my name.

And I don't think much of men like Toga who think a woman must give up her name, her identity, so a man will marry her. Yick. You either love each other and want to make a lifelong commitment or you don't; why does her name have to change to match yours to prove her love and commitment? If it means so much to a man to have the same name as his wife, the man should change his.

I did. I chose to, nobody made me, it's our family name now.

I didnt change my name initially. Finally got round to it after a couple of decades. By this point I realised it really didnt matter.

It's so much more than 'just a name'. It's who I am. My identity. My heritage.

And of those who changed so you would have the same name as your DC, why not your DH take your name instead? Because it's not traditional? Not the done thing?

Time's a changing folks!

Yes, and was happy to do so.

I wanted our children and us to all have the same surname.

Agree, that is a personal choice though.

Changed mine, never had any doubt of it. I actually don't know a single person who has kept their maiden name

Does anyone else dislike the term 'maiden name'. Seems so prissy and outdated to me.

I didn't, and my daughter has my surname.

My reasons were:

1. I like my surname. It's short, well-known, easy to spell and pronounce, and "goes" with just about everything

1. I'm the last person in my family who is able to pass it on, and if I don't, it'll die with me

1. It's something I still "have" from my dad, who passed when I was very young

My husband understood that and was more than happy for our daughter to have my surname, although I do like his too and it's also very well known, easy to spell and pronounce.

DH changed his to mine. People really struggle with it, seems so odd to me.

I had two DC from my first marriage and we all took my maiden name post divorce (they were tiny and didn't know their names when XH walked. He signed an agreement to change their names.) I didn't want future children to have a different surname so it seamed quite logical for DH to change his.

I wanted to have the same name as my children so I gave them my surname! I love my name, I wouldn't feel right calling myself something different.

I did. It wasn't a huge angst driven decision either. My maiden name will die out in our branch of the family now although I have cousins overseas who can continue it. However that's how life goes, isn't it?

Does anyone else dislike the term 'maiden name'. Seems so prissy and outdated to me

I sort of agree, but then I think bridesmaids and matrons of honour are a bit twee as well.

Yes there wasn't any hesitation. I wanted any future children to have our family name.

All the people saying "it's a personal choice". Well, perhaps it is, individually. But it isn't a choice made in a vacuum. It's made in a situation where people expect women to automatically give up their own names and identities, and women who don't do this have to defend their choices, and where men are viewed as "henpecked" or peculiar if they consider taking on their wife's name so that the family can have a "team" name.

I'm still Ms Originalname after 16 years of marriage. Dc were both born before the wedding and are double-barrelled. DH kept his own name too. Our door sign has the double-barrelled version on it to help the postman!

I have.
I like the idea of us all having the same name.
Each to their own though

No chance. Hell would freeze over before I'd change my name.

I did. The DC already had DH's name (they were born before we got married) and then I changed mine. I had no sentimental attachment to my previous name so it really wasn't a big decision for me.

I didn't change mine. My DD has my surname as I had her as a single mum before I married DH, I don't have children with DH so having the same name as my children has never been an issue.

My parents come from a country where women retain their surnames on marriage so it's not been seen as a big deal to keep my name (although DH and I have always lived in the UK).

I might consider using DH's surname in future for work purposes, if I end up working in a field that requires me to be searchable online - that is mainly for personal security so that I couldn't be Googled by certain people from my past. I suppose I could use any random surname for that though, although I like the fact that women are able to switch between married/maiden names for work/personal reasons.

I kept my name and our child has a double-barrelled surname. One of my BILs is refusing to accept that and always calls both me and our baby by my husband's surname (eg when he sends birthday cards etc). Annoys me no end.

No - I've been Porridge for all my life, it's me, I like it, and I'm not mucking about changing all my bank accounts etc.

Plus, DS2 has my surname (DP and I parents of 2 kids - one has his surname, one has mine)