Would you give up your surname of you got married?

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I'm so undecided

I often wonder what the next generation will do if this one is all double barrelled.

Quadruple barrelling will cause issues

I was happy to relinquish my name but would only have given my children his name if it was also my name.

I did but i did really think about it and discussed it with the husband who was fine with it though he wanted any kids to have his name and i didn't want to double barrel back then.

Didn't change straight away though and tried it out a bit to see if i liked it. My maiden name was common as and my married name isn't. I prefer my married name tbh.

I did and there was no doubt in my mind it was what I wanted to do.

He won't give up his name, but will happily double barrel his name.

So I think we're considering double barrelling our last names and then future children will have that too?

no I wouldn't.

You could also merge them together and create a whole new surname

Or the future children could just have one of your names, whichever is nicest!

I changed my name under pressure from DH and regret doing so.

I did, without question.

I will be changing. I never even thought about not taking his name. Although as the wedding draws near I am starting to feel...I want to say sad but that sounds a bit dramatic. It definitely feels weird I will be known as another name soon.

I wouldn't give my children just one, I think it would have to be both, so I think we would have to double barrel theirs. Unless I give in and take his?

No possible way of merging either!

No way.

I did, and like mummaaaah I still chastise myself in my unmarried name and I still covet the personalised registration plate in my unmarried name (think SM1 THY, but not that name).

I changed my name by deed poll anyway so it was a big step to change it again, but I liked the idea of us being a unit with the same surname, team Smith if you will.

I did - who cares? It's only a name, I hope my name is not my defining feature!

Only bad part of it for me is that idiots people struggle to pronounce it (it's not hard BTW!)

I absolutely totally and completely hated the idea of it. We are both feminists and felt uncomfortable with the patriarchal bullshit aspect of it.

And yet...we wanted the same name, and for our children to have the same name. Our two names would've sounded terrible double barrelled, and for career reasons DP couldn't take my name. He's known for his name and people being able to google him is important for business.

So I changed mine. I'm still Ms, and if it comes up in conversation I always feel I have to justify it somehow.

But feminism for me is about so much about equality of choices. I don't regret it.

My surname was totally patronymic anyway, as my dear old feminist dad pointed out.

I didn't. When deciding I almost flipped a coin but kept wanting it to be keep my own name which was telling me something!
So I kept it!

Reason was that I just wanted to remain as me when I married and not try to morph into a wife role. Yes, totally ridiculous, but I didn't want marriage to change my persona and keeping my name felt important.

I also didn't want to be a Mrs in paper. I use Ms if I have to and much rather it than Mrs. Although I can't see the point of a salutation in this age really. And what does my marriage status matter to my utility people?

In regards to children, they don't have my husband's name or my name. They have a sort of hybrid. When registering, the register said we can call them what we want, Mickey Mouse if we like, so we agreed on a new surname for them.

When my second was born, a different registrar caused some hassle saying it wasn't allowed and what about future generations tracing their ancestry, etc. She had a big objection to it. But as it was done on my first, their was not much she could do.
I love what we have done as a family. The children share a unique name but ours are different.
Not sure how I'd feel if I was the only one with the surname in the family.
Another idea, which we almost did, was to blend our two names on marriage to create a new shared one. Lovely idea and I've heard a few times since of couples that did it.

Personally I really dislike double barreled names. I think it looks pretentious and that it's a ridiculous precedent to set. Because eventually, someone of your descendants will need to give up a name or names.

also, changing my name did mean my mental ex couldn't find me online anymore, and the kids I teach couldn't google my writing work.

I'm not changing. No real attachment to my name I just didn't see why I had to take his, which isn't anything special either

So we're both double barrelling to be the same as our DD.

DH and I both double barrelled so we are now Mr and Mrs my maiden name- his maiden name. It may cause our children problems when they marry, but worked for us. He changed his name at work, but I kept mine, just because of my role and how many times a day I give my name- just to sav constantly spelling both names.

Double-barrelled mine. If I were getting married now, I don't think I would even do that. I don't see the point of changing it.

I did, had no qualms about doing it and don't regret it.

I didn't, although I married someone with the same surname as me so didn't have to make the choice

However if it had been different then no, I wouldn't have changed

My niece and all her friends have all gotten married in the past few years. I think all but one changed their names without giving it a second thought at all, which i was surprised about. I don't think they even realised they had a choice. My niece did say she wasn't overly attached to her maiden name - dodgy well know relatives.

I never thought I would but I did. Originally I wanted to double barrel, but my surname was the same as his brother's first name. So double barrelling would have resulted in me being called, for example, Heather Andrew-Jones, where his brother's name was Andrew Jones. We both decided it would have been too weird.