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To hate it when men 'joke' like this.

647 replies

KindergartenKop · 17/09/2016 19:29

Maybe it's not always men but I've never experienced a woman who has done this.

So today I took DS1 to a charity shop. He picked two books at 50p each. I gave Ds a pound coin. The man at the till took the books and said, 'That's four pounds please'. Ds looked worried and the man said 'Only joking, it's one pound'. We paid and left.
I've had people say this sort of thing to me so often and it always beffuddles me and makes me feel stupid. Am I the only person who attracts this form of idiocy? Aibu to be pissed off that this man worried my son? It's not fucking funny!

OP posts:
Ego147 · 19/09/2016 19:58

sceptical

You said that at 18:12.

Are you set to repeat?

Lweji · 19/09/2016 20:01

I'm new to mumsnet

This reminds me of when men come along and feel the need to point out they are men.

I'm coining noobsplaining. Wink

PinkyOfPie · 19/09/2016 20:02

See - when I ask someone the price, I am one of those strange people who expect the actual answer.

Me too Ego, what miserable cahs we are!

Domino20 · 19/09/2016 20:18

I run a Cafe with my Mum and she is always doing this to people. It fucks me right off. Just be polite and nice, no one needs a side order of sarcasm or challenging banter with their service.

Serialweightwatcher · 19/09/2016 20:40

I can't see why it warrants a thread or people getting upset about it .... what's wrong with this world where someone can have a little joke which okay isn't funny, but at least isn't rude ... why are people so het up so easily ... this is hardly one of life's terrible things and there are plenty - chill out people

Ego147 · 19/09/2016 20:47

I can't see why it warrants a thread or people getting upset about it

What threads are acceptable on here? There's loads of threads on MN about all sorts of life incidents. Some big. Some small. People can post what they like.

hazebaze87 · 19/09/2016 20:59

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IcedVanillaLatte · 19/09/2016 21:00

I love "noobsplaining". Fantastic. I'm nicking it.

blinkowl · 19/09/2016 21:10

hazebaze87 there was a young lad doing community service in my local charity shop a while back.

I knew he was doing community service as he was telling his mate LOUDLY all about it on his mobile while behind the till, as well as inviting him to come to the charity shop to get "some green" and quoting him the price for "a Henry".

It was only me and him in the shop but still FFS - no wonder he got caught!

I suspect I just looked like a middle-aged woman to him and therefore someone who couldn't possibly know what he was on about, especially as he was using clever and original code words Hmm.

I thanked him for my purchases and suggested, politely, that he be more fucking subtle in future if he didn't want to end up behind bars.

chinlo · 19/09/2016 21:10

What else are they trying to do? What is the joke? I know lots of people, myself included, that would be panicked in that situation.

They're just trying to make a little joke, it's clearly an attempt to be friendly. I'm sorry for those with anxiety problems who struggle to deal with that, but I do think they're in the minority.

Lweji · 19/09/2016 21:11

What threads are acceptable on here?

It's amazing how people get so upset about how long a thread is in relation to its subject. Grin

hazebaze87 · 19/09/2016 21:28

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monkeymamma · 19/09/2016 21:35

Yanbu X 1000 OP. There's a certain type of man who loves to make fairly cruel jokes at the expense of a child. It's always just to say on the right side of unpleasant so that it's hard to call them out on it. My ds was in a furniture shop recently when a bunch of four bored salesmen called out to him and asked him about his hat. It has a well know tractor brand on it. They were all 'oh I bet you don't have a tractor', 'I bet your dad doesn't have one' and when this didn't get a reaction 'Bet he doesn't even know what it means'. I was like: he's FOUR. And there are four of you and one of him. They were virtually circling us by the end. Not nice.

gemma19846 · 19/09/2016 21:36

Even if he wasnt 'funny' he was being friendly!!!! Crikey

chinlo · 19/09/2016 21:41

cruel jokes at the expense of a child

Wow. I am speechless.

WhatamessIgotinto · 19/09/2016 21:42

*Purposefully panicking a person will never be funny.

This, 100 times over, people who do are pathetic bullies*

Oh dear god, I've heard it all now. The OP says this fella told a (bad) joke and now people who weren't even there have decided that he was purposely 'panicking' the child and is a bully.

I'm on a different planet from some of you lot. Grin

NotInScotlandAnymore · 19/09/2016 21:50

YANBU
Took my 4 year old son to the chip shop (big treat, not usual for us), he was so excited, went to the counter and politely asked for fish n chips, the lady said they only sold vegetables, his little face fell and he was really confused and upset. She kept it up, despite me telling him it wasn't true and it ruined a nice special treat. She said something to me about him not liking vegetables and I had to explain that he does but this is a special treat that he was looking forward to. It was horrible and it was cruel, hated seeing him upset over someone's stupid idea of a "joke"

LoisWilkersonsLastNerve · 19/09/2016 21:50

It's amazing how people get so upset about how long a thread is in relation to its subject

Not upset, more agog lweji. Agog!

FullTimeYummy · 19/09/2016 21:51

"Can somebody please explain what is funny about it?"

To the people posting this type of comment: nobody can ever successively explain what is funny about it to you Grin

You are unusually uptight and don't know how much you are missing out on.

spabbygirl · 19/09/2016 21:56

I went into a local pub once and asked what time they closed, the landlord laughed and laughed and laughed 'do you hear this,' he bellowed, 'what time do we close!!' I went redder and redder and redder until someone put me out of my misery & told me. It was a great pub, unchanged since victorian times so I couldn't not go, but I steered clear of the landlord. He died young not long ago. I totally agree, having a laugh at others expense is crap.

ToothFaerie · 19/09/2016 21:57

WOW! Are you all so ill at ease with yourselves you have to find this abusive? Grow up, geez. Pathetic.

CasanovaFrankenstein · 19/09/2016 21:58

notinscotland that nails it really doesn't it? It's only a joke if the person it's aimed at understands it's a joke, (however crappy a joke it may be).

LoisWilkersonsLastNerve · 19/09/2016 22:00

In all this commotion has nobody noticed the op hasn't returned? Even she is sick of this thread now or she's laughing at us Grin

FullTimeYummy · 19/09/2016 22:13

I've just realised how unimaginably cruel playing peekaboo with a toddler is.

What sort of sick fuck thinks tricking a baby into thinking they're carer has vanished is funny?

Can anybody explain why this is funny? It's just making a baby think they have been abandoned, ha fucking ha.

It's just another example of classic bullying, confusing a child to exert power over them and it's always done by MEN (urgh)

bsbabas · 19/09/2016 22:28

Its kinda of awful when your anxious or not very social