to ask what's the popular Mumsnet advice you think is bollocks? [edit: lighthearted added at OP's request]

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Game.

Yeah, another one for the double standards. It's atrocious! But then there's always one particular poster who then says something like 'I wondered how long it would take for someone to mention double standards' with a confused face.

Yes we mentioned it because it's true, Mumsnet can be very anti-men.

'Have you tried Lanisoh?' When your nipples are ripped to shreds after 6 weeks of poor latch/mastitis/thrush.

'Sleep when baby sleeps' - I know it's a classic but it still gets advised.

Yep. Restless. My favourite being a poster who'd spunked her months disposable income and then some on Jo Malone and a night out somewhere expensive with a girlfriend and wanted her DP to give her some of his share to pay her essentials for the rest of the month.

Was this financial abuse? Noooooo 'He should be happy you smell nice'

BillSykesDog

BUT there is a grey area where a poster A says 'can you provide examples of me doing that'? The other poster B does so and then poster A runs off and reports the links even though they asked for them in the first place!

Yep! Every time I get asked about "bias", I link threads and they are ALWAYS deleted. But somehow every single time it comes up, people who've been on mumsnet for years like to pretend that they don't know that TAATs/links are deleted...

MNHQ literally posted a message in this thread saying not to link. Yet posters who've been around for years will still indignantly ask for "links" on every thread.

Wonder where Lweji got to...

Working hard, would you believe?
Anyway, TAATs are not allowed, but I didn't report my post and it wasn't a TAAT.
Threads ARE linked to each other all the time. For all sorts of reasons.
In any case, I was unjustly accused of something here and MNHQ should have let the links stand or delete the posts with accusations as well (I haven't checked if they were). You're free to search, though.

In fact, MNHQ would do better to ban these threads or posts with made up accusations and misrepresentations. They are worse than TAATs.

Hear hear, Lweji.

Lweji

I don't get it. You know the links will be deleted unless they are lighthearted/support related. This isn't a new policy. It's always been the case. They always are deleted.

You're acting like MNHQ did something unexpected and so you have the right to be indignant. But you've been on mumsnet for years so you know what the policy is so...

But not surprised your response is to try to get the whole thread deleted though. Good call! If you get it deleted, in a few months if the same issue comes up, you can ask for links and be shocked when they are deleted. Good call!

Let's all report together! math, you too! Gotta wipe that slate clean for next time

The £50 "doctors'" gold standard for flu advice.

On the difference between male and female support, there was a thread earlier this year which was just awful - sneering at ex-husbands for having the temerity to "re-invent" themselves post-split or post-divorce, featuring such heinous crimes as going to the gym, getting new haircuts and red trousers, etc.

When this is exactly the advice given to women working on their self-esteem or wanting a boost after a break-up: get a "young" haircut, a new interest, dress sexily, etc.

Dad

Or the one a year or so back snearing at middle-aged men who've taken up cycling - a mid life crisis apparently - and have the afrontery to wear cycling gear to y'know cycle in.

I get cycling shorts aren't the most flattering gartment, but if comments like that were made about a woman in leggings or tight fitting running shorts they would be howled down as body shaming and misogynistic. (And rightly so)

Also, if it is a midlife crisis it is the most benign form of midlife crisis going. Fresh air, exercise, companionship and minimal impact on the environment.

her kids arenaughty theyre always misbehaving shall i say something"

dont be so horrible they prob have sn!

this

some kids are just bloody naughty not every kid in the world has sn issues

Gosh, a "bad advice" thread on MN full of people venting their spleen about the apparent double standards on the relationships board and using it as an opportunity to have a dig at other posters.

Who'd have thought it.

As others have said
"Have a cup of hot sweet tea "
In response to devestating life circumstances.

What utterly facile advice.

I think the hot sweet tea advice is trotted out because it's supposed to be good for shock and the physical effects on your body - similar to the effects of giving blood, where you're offered a drink and biscuits afterwards.

Not particularly helpful if you don't like it though!

Agree with flippinada about the tea... Its why I tend to go for the less biased "have something sugary to eat/drink" because you cant dictate to people what they enjoy!

Gosh, a "bad advice" thread on MN full of people venting their spleen about the apparent double standards on the relationships board and using it as an opportunity to have a dig at other posters.

Who'd have thought it.

Come on, aren't you too busy saving the world to worry about the likes of us? Quick! Look over there: a man is breathing!

flippinada Yes because bad advice is actually trotted out time and time again and some posters are so utterly vile that they deserve to be singled out. Get off your high horse.

Yes skye something to do with your blood sugar level dropping I think. When you give blood they offer squash or sweet tea.

My MIL was a nurse in the 50s. According to her part of the rationale behind hot sweet tea was that it would distract people from grabbing the booze!

You can't be sacked for being ill.
(Obviously there's laws around disability).

Totally by the by..but I hate hot sweet tea. I was in a pretty bad car crash once and some protesters were camping near by. One saw the accident and ran over a few minutes later with a mug of hot sweet tea - it totally helped my shock and was amazing!

I agree the worse advice was to the woman whose husband wanted to donate an inheritance to charity. I was agog at all the posters telling her to divorce him so she could get half of the money - so wrong on so many levels!!!

worst...not worse....

Oh and people urging others to 'press changes' when it's CPS who make the decision to change someone in England & Wales.

What's wrong with the loo brush?