to ask what's the popular Mumsnet advice you think is bollocks? [edit: lighthearted added at OP's request]

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Game.

SmallThings I agree there is bias, but at the same time I can understand it. Women face abuse at male hands far more than vice versa - everyday we see and hear of women being murdered and abused by men on an horrific scale. So I think it is only human nature to be biased when we know women face a torrent of male abuse all the time in a way men will never experience at the hands of women.

Sorry for not making much sense...have had a horrible day with a horrible headache.

"Like in the old days when schools rated as satisfactory were considered failing."

What old days? This has been the case since the charmless Gove changed the "Satisfactory" rating to "Requires Improvement".

I think "Unmumsnetty hugs" dates back to an influx of Netmums posters coming over to post. Regulars were a bit disconcerted to see touchy-feely posts littered with "hun" and, concerned it would damage the site's hard-as-nails, vipers-nest image, they responded accordingly.

There's always exaggeration and bonkers ideas at either end of the spectrum.

But to keep it in perspective, most posters don't operate within the extremes.

Onto lighter subjects, taking in ironing is the go-to for all money problems... Which is a tad surprising given the ubiquitousness of non iron materials in modern clothing :)

'Tell / ask him to leave'

Yeah right. So he is being a terrible partner/ husband, who no longer respects you/ loves you and is giving you grief and he will just walk out of his home, causing no hassle, on your say so.

I think not.

Anybody telling an anonymous woman on the internet that her bra size is wrong.

The bra "interventionists" in general.

"Get a free hour with a solicitor." Hardly any of them offer that.

Anyone with neighbour problems "should have bought a detached house."

Oh you reminded me, the bra revolutionists are amazing :)

My whole shape looks better in the right size bra, and I'd never have found my way to the right bras and size as its so different from the way M&S measure. They even advised on specific brands and styles when I had problems with my specific breast shape and type!

Perhaps it's a need based type of thing... If you're wearing very much the wrong size and the bra experts help you, the change is so big that you can't help becoming a bit of an evangelist. Whereas if you're happy with your current bras, you don't get the same joy!

It's fair enough if you seek out advice, Misc. It's the arrogance of them informing anonymous women on the internet that their bra size is wrong, followed by all the ridiculous advice about making it as tight as bearable and scooping back fat into the cup.

Not forgetting partial mastectomies

'Someone made a U-turn in my drive and drove over an inch of my front lawn!'

Call the police and the local council, lay boards with nails in on your lawn, shout at the driver if you see them are apparently reasonable responses and not at all unhinged.

'My [debilitating illness] is causing problems at work. I'm exhausted. I'm a single parent. Any advice?'

'I have [only vaguely similar illness], work a thousand hours a week, find time for lots of rest and relaxation, with only a nanny, helpful husband and a shit ton of money. You're lazy and need to pull yourself together.' Or even a pithy 'can't you just get on with it?'

Reporting any thread you think is 'not quaite naice' - then turning around and tearing the OP to bits on another thread and justifying it with 'this is AIBU, deal with it'.

This is a classic example. www.mumsnet.com/Talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/a2737960-To-be-annoyed-MIL-bought-us-a-TV

The op is looking for an opinion on to speak to mil about the to, sneakily try and exchange it, accept it even though it's not what they want.

What do they get from half the thread? How dare you ask your family for short term help, you can't afford it so you shouldn't have it followed currently with divergence from the topic itself to telling the op they can do without other things. None of which is what was asked.

Or tater starting a thread and then wailing that other posters are 'vile' and 'bullies' because the op didn't get the answer they wanted. Then running off to MNHQ to get the thread pulled on spurious privacy grounds.

"I feel awful, I had a 3 month emotional affair with a man at work and it turned physical last week, what have I done, my DH will be devastated"

OP, everyone makes mistakes, don't tell your DH and concentrate on your marriage

OP, you are clearly unhappy in your marriage for you have to have done something like this, is your DH abusive?

Pan My advice to that one would be keep your knickers on that's probably somebody else's husband

That loo brushes are the work of the devil.
That fanjos self clean.

I really don't understand the loo brush thing?
I've never known anyone who doesn't use one. I don't know how you can clean a toilet properly without one. I don't know why it's so bad if they're full of germs as they are only used in the toilet which I expect to be germ-y too, it's not like you also wash the dishes with a loo brush.
Can anyone enlighten me because I'm genuinely interested?!

Well you see Down, the germs might decide to jump off the toilet brush and be all germy all over the place. Also children might touch it. And people who visit the house will know that you poo.

CandODad

Don't link threads. You're not supposed to and they delete your post.

Since when A11?
I've been hear forever and never had a problem linking to threads... or are you giving an example of bad MN advice?

Eh?? You can't link threads?

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/2734577-to-ask-whats-the-popular-Mumsnet-advice-you-think-is-bollocks-edit-lighthearted-added-at-OPs-request

People who sneer at 'log it with the police'.
You can have things logged with the police. You're given an incident number, its not the same as a crime number.
The front desk in every station keeps a log. As an example, people who go pot holing log it with the local police station then let them know when they are safely out. That way if they dont come out the next officer on duty will check the log and know to get help.

"Change the locks"

When it's their husband or a jointly owned property.

As though one person leaving the house to go to work or the shops and the other person basically shouting "dibs the house " is an adult solution.

Followed by "if he tries to break in call the police and have him arrested" when the police will just tell you he has a legal right of access.

It depends with linking threads. If you're linking threads where you're giving an example of something funny (e.g. T-Rex) or directing someone who had a similar problem with relevant advice that's okay.

If a poster comes on and presents themselves in a completely different way to how they have done on another thread and gets unwarranted sympathy as a result or similar it's supposed to be bad form. For example if a poster is posting about what an awful parent her DP is and how much he upsets their children, but on another thread has posted about how they have deliberately driven a wedge between him and the children so he's never had a chance to parent you're supposed to report rather than link between threads.

Or for example you mention that one poster always takes a certain position on a particular issue and they deny it, it's bad form to link to examples of them taking that position.

BUT there is a grey area where a poster A says 'can you provide examples of me doing that'? The other poster B does so and then poster A runs off and reports the links even though they asked for them in the first place!

Mentioning no names eh A11