I know I am unreasonable (Wedding related)

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DP's best mate is getting married next year and we have just been filled in on all the details. I am so horrified by what they have planned I don't want to go but I know it is their day and I am being VVU but I really need to vent about this as it is so ridiculous I am not sure how any one could take seriously as a "real" wedding.

For the record they are not well off and I wasn't expecting the Ritz more like, registery office, social club, buffet and disco or similar.

What they have planned is the following;
A registry office ceremony - full tails for the gents, hats etc for the women are expected by the bride for photos.
A 2hr slot in a pan-asian buffet style restaurant - speeches are banned.
A club night out on the local strip.

For the amount they are paying for the restaurant - buying meals for all guests - they could have had a private room in a social club with a buffet and a disco! I am upset for DP as it is his first time as best man and he has been banned from making any speeches.

I don't understand how this will feel any different from any other Friday night for this couple, there is low key but this is silly! Why go for the big princess dress just to take it to the local Chinese!

Any way I know it is unreasonable but this wedding will be VV weird... can anyone suggest an outfit I can wear to this monstrosity... Must have a hat.
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I just dont get why you would want to spend your wedding day the same place you spend every Friday

Thankfully you dont need to "get" anything. Sounds like you have a problem with understanding everyone is different, people can think differently from us and act accordingly.

It sounds fantastic, and good on them for doing what they want rather than whats expected.

Of course those that are not well off should know their place and stick with their lot in the working mens club ...................FFS

This is probably one of the only threads I wish the Daily Mail would get hold of - if only for the bride and groom to have great pleasure in uninviting you OP.

I imagine you'll go, eat the food and drink the wine, being fake and air kissing whilst secretly judging the entire time and wishing the bride (who you dislike) and the groom (who you feel sorry for) many years of happiness that you absolutely do not mean in any way shape or form.

How sad.

Personally, I'd do the ceremony and the meal then maybe duck out of the clubbing early doors if I wasn't enjoying it.

Also why am I a snob for saying chinese and club is grim but you lot are happy to slag off social club buffets all day, been to loads weddings christenings, wakes in them and they are always fine. How is slagging them off any better?

I haven't seen any threads slagging off social clubs.

We are not well off, the social club point was just to give an idea of budget... Jesus, why don't you just decide you don't like someone and then bend all the facts to give you the outcome you want....

PurpleDaisies I meant in this thread - lots of people saying they are grotty, grim etc.

I didn't slag off social club buffets...I think they're fine too.

Classic AIBU thread.

OP - 'I know I'm U but... (Insert judgey, passive aggressive remarks and insults like 'monstrosity')
MN - 'You're U and rude to boot (aka home truths)'
OP - 'How dare you say I'm U and rude and you're all twisting my words.....'

YAWN

"I've heard they make removable hats now."

OP: "I don't like the bride which is probably why I'm making everything sound so bad."

OP: "JESUS just decide you don't like me and make me sound bad why don't you!!!"

So out of the 3 best friends, this is the first friend to get married? Are you and the other gf jealous? I just can not work out why you would be so bitter tbh.

I've never been to Cosmo but it sounds like Jimmy's World Kitchen which I quite like. It's not fine dining - far from it - but it's a laugh and the desserts are nice.

I did say I knew I was being unreasonable... I just think a lot of people have got their knickers in a twist over something that wasn't meant to be taken particularly seriously...

So they aren't having your idea of the 'right' wedding? I would far rather go to the Chinese than a social club.

If it's beneath you to go, then do the happy couple a favour and don't!

And why is it weird?

You don't need to 'get it' they're doing it this way because that's what they want. It will be awful for you because you seem determined to make it so. Don't like it? Don't go.

Sorry but nothing you've said has the least humour in it.

just think a lot of people have got their knickers in a twist over something that wasn't meant to be taken particularly seriously...

I didn't get the impression that you were joking about any of it. I think you think you're better than them and/or you're jealous.

Why don't you just go to the ceremony and fuck off home? Then you can have a little laugh about everyone's outfits but not get stared at in the restaurant.

Tis ok the other best mans GF agrees with me too so we can just snigger about it together...

You sound like a peach! How nasty of you to want to snigger at someones wedding day just because it differs to your idea of how a wedding should be.

And they are paying for everyone's meal? Seriously, don't go, why should they pay for you to attend and look down your nose because they didn't have the type of wedding you approve of

Not jealous just don't like what they have planned.

Yes it is like Jimmy's world, it's not a Cosmos but similar.

I am just surprised to find I am the only person in the whole world to have ever bitched about a wedding... equally as surprised to find that I am the only person in the world planning on going to a wedding they weren't especially keen on.

People don't get what you are bitching about... I think that's the point.

I am just surprised to find I am the only person in the whole world to have ever bitched about a wedding

Really? You think the awful way you have spoken about someone else's wedding and their choices is normal?