If I ask my neighbors not to let their 2yo dd out into the garden naked anymore?

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My neighbors are lovely, but they often let their 2.5yo dd naked into the garden on a very regular basis. I have a 13 yo ds and it often embarrasses him and his friends especially when they are out playing in the garden. Do you think I should say something or just leave it? I personally am a bit paranoid about such things and I think if we can see her, who else could be intentionally looking. WIBU if I said something to them or should I leave them to it?

I'm in no way implying that he is a paedophile- I am implying that he is a bit immature and maybe his mum needs to have a chat with him about the fact that naked bodies are normal and nothing to be embarrased about. So back right off totallyspies17 who made you the online police?

Op I'm sorry I replied before realising what a hard time you had been given - I wouldn't have bothered if I had realised you'd had 8 pages of responses already. My kids spend many happy hours naked in the paddling pool and on the beach and I would be gutted if my neighbours took me to task over this.

Very unreasonable.

It's that standard about girls having having to appropriate their behaviour and cover their bodies so as not to offend boys.
Just sad to see attitudes can start this young.

I wouldn't even blink at seeing a toddler naked, even if it was in a public park or the beach or something.

But 13 year old boys get embarrassed by anything, so I don't think there's anything weird or worrisome about his reaction.

This reminds me of the hooha over the child with the topless passport photo. He was about 18mth and the passport office said they couldn't accept the photo as the topless child would offend some people of faith (implication being Muslims) Then the Muslim council spoke out saying 'what???, nowhere in Islam would anyone be offended by a topless baby whether boy or girl' The passport office no doubt making assumptions.

Flipping heck. YABU. I'd address your son's attitude to it. It's like when people worry whether it's wrong to let a father do bathtime with daughters. It's the thinking that's warped, not the act. You're seeing sexualisation where there is none.

I blame The Sun.

YANBU, I would go and have a word with them, what are they thinking?? She should have clothes on!

Cocunut. What are you thinking more like? At least the Op was questioning whether she should ask, yet you come straight out and advise to speak to them! Exactly what would you say? Not wanting your own child to play outside naked (which is rather paranoid imo) is very different from lecturing others on how they bring up their children!

Wtf? I wasn't rude. I said that the issue is not with your neighbour. If it's not your neighbour's issue then whose is it? You and your son are the ones turning something completely innocent into a drama. There is simply nothing to get bothered about.

Oh hang on, I missed OP's flounce. Gotta love an AIBU where the only answer the OP wants is YANBU hun and everyone who suggests anything otherwise is being rude. Sigh.

Out of interest, are adults allowed to walk around naked in their gardens? I'm not tempted by the way.

Would also like to know what it is about a 2yo's body that worries the boy. A naked 22yo and I could see the reason why the boys might be embarrassed but I'm totally not getting the issue here. And fwiw my 4yo spent most of the holidays running round naked in the garden. It's her garden, she was happily playing and anyone telling me to cover her up would get short shrift.

13 year olds are mature enough to see a naked toddler and not blink an eye. It's practically a bloody baby.

The whiny asses bleating about people being meeeean may enjoy netmums more than here. You're not in the playground anymore just grow up.

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We all have different ways of parenting; you think is fine I don't.

I prefer kids at beach etch to have some pants on but I know I'm a prude - she probably talks to your don which he may find awkward but it's their garden and she's a tiny toddler so I would put up and shut up but I do understand a bit.

I live abroad in a nudity-friendly sort of country, letting toddlers run around in nappy or nothing at all in the playpark (!) is totally acceptable. This is basically British prudishness taken too far.

Wow. Of course yabvvu.

She's' still a baby!! Of course it's fine for her to be naked in her own garden!

I don't understand how anyone could think a naked 2 year old is awkward, or innappropriate! They are still infants ffs.

You need to spend time in Scandinavia, they are far less prudish and don't get at all concerned about nakedness. They would be utterly baffled by all this handwringing.

SideEye I'm pretty sure that's technically "indecent exposure of one's person". Depends if they meant to flash someone or not basically.

louis cross post! My point exactly!

We went paddling the other day and then my 2 year old daughter suddenly decided she wanted to actually swim, so just peeled off all her clothes. Didn't even occur to me to think about what was "appropriate". I had to go in with her in my shorts and t- shirt though

I really cannot see why even boys in their early teens would be upset by a naked baby running around in her own home.

Tell him and his friends to go hang out somewhere else if they are still upset by it after you have pointed this out.

YABU!

I think I might have found a bunch of missing socks 😁

Jesus christ, some nasty fuckers have crawled out of the woodwork and straight onto this thread by the looks of it.

Op, obviously YWBU to say anything, she's a toddler. It's what they do.

Your ds is 13, feeling awkward and uncomfortable is what they do too. Given the current hysteria around paedophiles he's probably paranoid about being accused of looking, more so if she tries to talk to him through the fence. Having read some of the disgusting comments on this thread implying your son 'has a problem' I can't say I blame him tbh. Id get some of that cheap, bamboo screen stuff and staple it along the fence. My friends garden is a similar set up (( knee high fence )) and it really is more like one big garden. No privacy at all.

If he's always seem the toddler and not been bothered, then maybe a friend has made a silly teasing comment about it and now your ds feels self conscious himself. My ds (14) probably doesn't even realise we have two toddlers next door at all, lol, he's a bit oblivious to the world around him.

YABU. Have you had a chat to your son about why he feels uncomfortable?

Badtothebone I had the same thought as you. One of DS's friends making a joke at school about DS watching naked girls next door..?
My 3 year olds love to run round the garden shouting "look at me, I'm naked"..they seem to love the freedom of it!