If I ask my neighbors not to let their 2yo dd out into the garden naked anymore?

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My neighbors are lovely, but they often let their 2.5yo dd naked into the garden on a very regular basis. I have a 13 yo ds and it often embarrasses him and his friends especially when they are out playing in the garden. Do you think I should say something or just leave it? I personally am a bit paranoid about such things and I think if we can see her, who else could be intentionally looking. WIBU if I said something to them or should I leave them to it?

Ah, so a load of nonsense and can't be arsed going on with it/answer real questions....

Is this for real??!!

YABVVU

My concern about this is that you even considered speaking to the neighbours about this.

It's not the neighbour's responsibility to alter their (perfectly normal) behaviour to make a group of boys more comfortable.

It's not your job to "fix"
their environment to make the boys feel more comfortable. It's your job to help them adjust their attitudes/preconceptions/assumptions to understand why their request was unreasonable.

That's why (IMO) you are getting a hard time here.

Hmmm you and your son are being unreasonable OBVIOUSLY.

I KIND of understand where your son might be coming from though as in there's so much stuff about paedophillia about, I bet he's kind of thinking "do I just not look? Or does that make me look weird..or do I glance and that makes me look like a perv? Or do I just try not to make eye contact"

Like he's worrying about other people monitoring his behaviour or something? I can't explain it.

Anyway regardless the little girl should not have to cover up, so YABU.

isnt this what you call a teachable moment for your son and his friends? That it's unreasonable to be weirded out by a naked toddler in the garden next door - and also, to consider whether it's appropriate to ask other people to make changes which affect their happiness because of your comfort level.

Why us your son embarrassed by a naked baby?

*is

Ywbu to speak to your neighbours but since you don't want your ds feeling uncomfortable in your garden why don't you put up some trellis to block the view?

Do you know why he and his friends feel uncomfortable? Might be worth seeing if he's worried about being caught looking when it's accidental. If not I would wonder why they were uncomfortable, what made you feel paranoid?

YABU.

In all honesty I would assume that your son had a problem along the lines of unacceptable thoughts about children if you asked me to do this.

Please note that I'm not in any way saying that he does, but you asked for advice and that would be my first thought. You would be crazy to do this.

Back off, all. The OP got the message.

I can understand why a 13 year old boy would be embarrassed - he's an age where they are conscious of things like that. However it is in their garden and she's only little so YABU.

What's wrong with your DSs friends that they are "embarrassed" if a baby is running about with no clothes on? I genuinely don't get it.

All the people implying OP's son is a paedophile can fuck right off tbh.

I dare you.

I have a13yo DS and I'm pretty sure he and his friends would find a naked toddler hilariously cute. He does find naked statues funny

You my feel the child is vulnerable but the parents obviously don't. It's their call, not yours.

Anyone got a feeling this might be in the fail tomorrow?

Ds and DH have been naked in our paddlng pool this summer Fortunately, the garden is not over-looked, it is screened by clematis and honeysuckle and roses which cover the fences.

Is you DS embarrassed because his friends noticed and he's worried they might take the piss in some way? So not embarrassed about a naked child but worried someone might use it as leverage to be unpleasant?

I don't think you can ask anyone to change how they behave in their own garden.

YABU I hate the way society is developing I'm such a way to suggest that there is something wrong with naked bodies. A two year old child is not a sexual object - if your son is embarrassed by a naked child he is the one with the problem not the child- maybe you need to address this with him - what if he has kids himself - will he be unable to look at them naked? This sort of thing makes me so angry grrrrr.

All the people implying OP's son is a paedophile can fuck right off tbh

^ this

I would ask them to put pants on the child. My neighbours do this up to the age of 12 and it makes a whole world of a difference if they have pants on.

Why should they genie?

I think is is disgusting that people have said that there may be something wrong with OP son, he is a 13 year old child a child which you don't know, so why does anyone here think it is ok to pass judgement.

I really cant believe there are people who think a 2yr old needs to 'cover up' in her own garden on a sunny day! What are you going to see anyway? A cute baby having a great time, end of.

I would say we were in a time warp and going backwards but I have photos of myself in the garden naked at the same age! And that was when god was a boy! Its natural and good for the child, its nothing to do with anyone else in the street nor visiting 'friends'!