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If I ask my neighbors not to let their 2yo dd out into the garden naked anymore?

263 replies

Restingbuttface · 04/09/2016 19:01

My neighbors are lovely, but they often let their 2.5yo dd naked into the garden on a very regular basis. I have a 13 yo ds and it often embarrasses him and his friends especially when they are out playing in the garden. Do you think I should say something or just leave it? I personally am a bit paranoid about such things and I think if we can see her, who else could be intentionally looking. WIBU if I said something to them or should I leave them to it?

OP posts:
Boundaries · 04/09/2016 19:07

Tell your 13 year not to look, if he is embarrassed. Why should the small baby be the one to change her entirely acceptable behaviour?

panad317 · 04/09/2016 19:08

Yes you would be. Their garden, their daughter! Maybe your DS could go to his friend's garden unless you want to put a fence up.

MrsBungle · 04/09/2016 19:08

Yabvu. A naked toddler playing in their own garden should not be a cause of 'embarrassment' for your son.

Discobabe · 04/09/2016 19:08

I think yabu to ask them. I don't think it's strange your teenage son finds it awkward though. Some teenagers get embarrassed by body related things easily.

Pigeonpost · 04/09/2016 19:08

This is their own private garden right? Attached to their house? How on earth do you think you or you son have any sway over what people choose to wear/not wear in their garden. The child's mother could choose to sunbathe naked if she wanted. Her garden... The issue is with your son. And you for facilitating his attitude.

DamsonInDistress · 04/09/2016 19:08

Surely no one is this stupid? Of course you can't ask them. How is your son even aware of her in the garden, why is he staring in the first place? YABtotallyU and you know it.

MaudGonneMad · 04/09/2016 19:09

Weird

Munstermonchgirl · 04/09/2016 19:09

YABU in that it's not your business. But let's hope they see sense because it must be very restricting for her. At that age mine were toddling through flower beds, sitting in earth, bouncing on their toddler trampoline, sliding down their slide, helping with their mini gardening tools.... All activities which are safer and more comfortable with clothes and footwear. When really hot they'd wear pants and a big baggy tee to protect from the sun

Feel sorry for the little girl, but don't ask the parents to do anything different

wombattoo · 04/09/2016 19:09

Are you serious? She's 2 and should be able to play naked in her own garden.
Have a word with ds. What is his issue?

quicklydecides · 04/09/2016 19:10

Unless they send their naked toddler into your garden, you would be outrageously wrong to say anything to them.
If you are worried about your teenager, keep him the fuck indoors.

PurpleDaisies · 04/09/2016 19:10

Its nice to see a thread with such a consensus.

YABU.

John4703 · 04/09/2016 19:10

What's the problem with a naked child? Cool it and let the wee baby enjoy the sunshine.

Cherrysoup · 04/09/2016 19:10

Ffs, a 2 yr old? YABVU, utterly ridiculous.

IveAlreadyPaid · 04/09/2016 19:11

I can see why your ds is embarrassed because it is the type of thing that teenagers get embarrassed about (I have teens and toddlers!) However you cannot ask your neighbours to cover up their 2 year old!

Spice22 · 04/09/2016 19:11

Op it would make me feel very uncomfortable too and my little brother (around the same age as you DS ) would also be embarrassed.

If it was the start of summer I'd say something, but no point now as its getting cooler.

foursillybeans · 04/09/2016 19:12

YABU. In fact very unreasonable since it's their child in their private garden.

Also - this is a genuine question - how low is your fence? I'm very surprised you can see that clearly in to their garden.

AnUtterIdiot · 04/09/2016 19:12

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M00nUnit · 04/09/2016 19:13

You're being utterly ridiculous OP.

EvansAndThePrince · 04/09/2016 19:13

She's two years old. Wtf have you been teaching your son for him to even notice that there's a naked baby wandering about in the next garden?

AgentProvocateur · 04/09/2016 19:13

YABU - it's your son's problem, not the neighbour's.

eurochick · 04/09/2016 19:14

Ywbu to say anything. It's your son's issue. Unselfconscious naked toddlers are delightful!

Sirzy · 04/09/2016 19:14

I am struggling with the idea that a child can't happily play naked too. Why can't they jump on a trampoline, or sit in mud, without clothes on?

Mypurplecaravan · 04/09/2016 19:15

Blimey. Mines 18 months and has spent practically the whole summer starters playing with various water tables and paddling pools.

I have fences but garden is overlooked

She has had a whale of a time

Screen your side and explore with your son why he is embarrassed. Has he never seen a vulva? Is it hidden and therefore exciting to him? He should know that children are different to adults and are prone to be naked but not sexualised.

Lindy2 · 04/09/2016 19:15

Sorry OP. I would find your request very odd and unreasonable if I were your neighbours. It's their garden.

insancerre · 04/09/2016 19:20

yabu
And ridiculous
The problem is your son, not the neighbours child