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Original poster

If I ask my neighbors not to let their 2yo dd out into the garden naked anymore?

263 replies

Restingbuttface · 04/09/2016 19:01

My neighbors are lovely, but they often let their 2.5yo dd naked into the garden on a very regular basis. I have a 13 yo ds and it often embarrasses him and his friends especially when they are out playing in the garden. Do you think I should say something or just leave it? I personally am a bit paranoid about such things and I think if we can see her, who else could be intentionally looking. WIBU if I said something to them or should I leave them to it?

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Metalguru · 04/09/2016 20:16

What a lot of nasty comments and assumptions about a 13 year old child, extending to what a terrible upbringing he must have had. op yabu to mention this to neighbours but ignore the personal attacks on your son and parenting. He feels awkward about something natural, same as he might if a breastfeeding woman sat next to him. That's teenagers. But talk to him, your neighbours are doing nothing wrong.

phoenix1973 · 04/09/2016 20:16

Yabu
Tell your son to grow up, stop looking over the fence with his mates and let this little girl be herself in her own back yard.

witsender · 04/09/2016 20:16

She's a baby. Would it bother them if it was a boy baby?

MumOnTheRunCatchingUp · 04/09/2016 20:18

Why are you only responding to the negativity surrounding this op?

Laiste · 04/09/2016 20:20

It's not about teaching him not to look. It's about teaching him there's nothing to see.

property you're right. But i meant i just don't understand how someone goes from what sounds like an off the cuff 'if you don't like it don't bloomin look' sort of answer, to then think about going round to ask their neighbor to cover up their toddler!

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Restingbuttface · 04/09/2016 20:21

Pigeonpost, Damsonin - same goes for you. No insults to my ds please. Free forum no need to insult me or my family. That goes for all posters who have insulted me, my ds and his friends. Thank you.

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AnUtterIdiot · 04/09/2016 20:21

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Buttwing · 04/09/2016 20:22

This has got to be a wind up?!

Odd very fucking odd. Yab hugely u.

Zombieswillreign · 04/09/2016 20:23

My neighbours behinned would let their 6 yr old dd naked on the trampoline ,she would escape after a bath,next door to us was a rented house of single males from Poland ,always seemed to be having a ciggie in the garden at the same time....

SoupDragon · 04/09/2016 20:25

it's a half fence so you can't help but look.

It's really quite easy not to look. I imagine there 3 other sides to your garden.

pleasemothermay1 · 04/09/2016 20:26

I think you need to have a word with your son he's embrassed by a naked baby

Behave

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Restingbuttface · 04/09/2016 20:26

Pigeonpost, damsonin and all other posters who have insulted me, my ds and his friends - enough. It is a free forum there is no need to be so rude! Get the consensus but the rudeness is disgusting!

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BackforGood · 04/09/2016 20:28

Agree with everyone else. YABVVVVVVU, ridiculously so.
If your ds really feels awkward seeing a baby without clothes, then I think that is the issue you need to be addressing.

Laiste · 04/09/2016 20:28

What have you taken from this thread then OP? It is a free forum and it's the public you've asked. People will post with a gut reaction. Sifting through the more balanced posts the consensus is that it's a bit odd to be concerned about this.

You did say I personally am a bit paranoid about such things in your OP. Could you have passed your attitude on to your son a bit, do you think?

SoupDragon · 04/09/2016 20:29

...always seemed to be having a ciggie in the garden at the same time....

And you were clearly always staring out of the window at the same time, so...

MumOnTheRunCatchingUp · 04/09/2016 20:29

Well, this is weird!

riceuten · 04/09/2016 20:30

YABU. Leave it be.

Sillybillybonker · 04/09/2016 20:31

Please stop making ridiculous and nasty comments about a 13 year old boy who you know nothing about. What is wrong with people? OP - ignore these idiots.

Wolpertinger · 04/09/2016 20:31

I'm sorry I've upset you and I'm sure you DS is lovely - I'm just afraid if you spoke to the neighbours and said it was because of your son, you would give entirely the wrong impression of him.

I'm sorry that wasn't clear from my post. And I think you should tell him that 2 year olds are allowed to run around naked and no-one gets embarrassed by it.

Propertyquandry · 04/09/2016 20:31

I haven't insulted your son at all. In fact I've made a point of saying he's still a child himself. But you must take responsibility for ensuring that he does not grow up being prudish. And fwiw, not all teenagers are like this. My 14yr old would barely blink if a woman sat down to BF next to him. He has seen me do it with 3 other babies and seen many of my friends do it too.

CoconutAndVanilla · 04/09/2016 20:31

Restingbuttface

A lot of people do become very horrible on this site like I said I don't think you're being unreasonable, and I also don't think your DS is the one with the problem, ignore these horrible people.

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Restingbuttface · 04/09/2016 20:32

Mum on the run - just thought I should say something as i do find that because it's an anonymous forum people think they can and do hide behind the anonymity but..............

THANK YOU TO ALL POSITIVE PIECES OF ADVICE!

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everybodysang · 04/09/2016 20:32

This is repellent.

Though I imagine you've got that by now.
People are being rude because they more disgusted by you. HTH.

allsfairinlove · 04/09/2016 20:33

adding to the chorus of YANBUs.
sorry.

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Restingbuttface · 04/09/2016 20:33

Quandry and Coconut you have been extremely positive! Thanks.

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