If I ask my neighbors not to let their 2yo dd out into the garden naked anymore?

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My neighbors are lovely, but they often let their 2.5yo dd naked into the garden on a very regular basis. I have a 13 yo ds and it often embarrasses him and his friends especially when they are out playing in the garden. Do you think I should say something or just leave it? I personally am a bit paranoid about such things and I think if we can see her, who else could be intentionally looking. WIBU if I said something to them or should I leave them to it?

You have to say what the phase is- I have just read all of the OP's replies and can't figure out what you're on about.

There has been a few goady threads actually I wonder if it's the same person

surely your son and his friends should just come back inside if THEY feel embarrassed, why on earth would you want a little toddler not to be able to run free - probably even potty training in their own garden staggeringly cheeky IMO

Oh... I hope this isn't another troll thread, how could someone make this up, I don't understand!

Do you share a garden?

I've read OP's replies and a minority others with interest. Why post in AIBU to seek views then deliberately misunderstand people and rant at them, if you don't want to hear a raft of different views to your own? That's what AIBU mumsnet is for, to get a feel of majority views and to help you.

I posted Mon 5/9/16 at 1:14am (yup couldnt sleep after being woken up by DD) with a very valid point, begging OP to consider the repercussions of if she did say something to her neighbour. That she might accidentally start off a rumour about her DS that wasn't warranted nor intended!!! I know group dynamics and that's how these things start.

Because of course that neighbour Mum will mention to a few other people what OP's said to her, if only to get her own head round it. And they to their friends etc.. And likely it will take a life of it's own on... .. That process would be far more damaging and detrimental to OP's DS, when all OP is trying to do is deal with teenage son's discomfort. It needs to be dealt with by OP in a proportionate way, not involving others so it doesn't escalate horribly and become misunderstood.
That's what everyone is trying to say to OP but she can't hear our concern.

People are trying to suggest you talk quietly as a parent to your DS about his discomfort and deflate & deal quietly with his embarrassment or anxieties, listen to him.and help him get perspective, laugh off his friends silly comments (as that's where you later suggest it might have arisen), before you do something OP that you haven't thought through & is potentially publicly longer term damaging (i.e. that could start off any hint of an unitended rumour that your DS doesn't deserve). Surely you can listen OP to our genuine & heartfelt concern for you & DS that the overwhelming majority advise strongly against ?

Second paragraph, by 'she might accidentally start off an unintended rumour', I meant OP herself, not the neighbour Mum who would just be understandably seeking some others perspectives...

See OP, I don't think mumsnetters are trying to be mean at all, I think they are trying to HELP you by asking questions that your actions might trigger. Better they let you blithely & accidentally do something damaging to your sensitive DS in your local neighbourhood that you can't undo!

Better than they let you... Doh, DC distracted me!!

Pigeonpost, damsonin and all other posters who have insulted me, my ds and his friends - enough. It is a free forum there is no need to be so rude! Get the consensus but the rudeness is disgusting!

Its not a free forum, but you can't tell people how to post.
Yes, YABVU, and weird, and pretty nuts. Would anyone actually have the gall to knock on someones door and tell them to put clothes on their own little kid in their own garden? You'd be either laughed out of it or it would get around the neighbourhood that you need to cover up babies because your own kid stares at them.
Messed up question from start to finish really. People are weird.

What blows my mind is that the OP being naked in front of her teenage son is OK but a two-year old being naked in her own garden isn't OK.

In the OP's opinion I meant, of course.