If I ask my neighbors not to let their 2yo dd out into the garden naked anymore?

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My neighbors are lovely, but they often let their 2.5yo dd naked into the garden on a very regular basis. I have a 13 yo ds and it often embarrasses him and his friends especially when they are out playing in the garden. Do you think I should say something or just leave it? I personally am a bit paranoid about such things and I think if we can see her, who else could be intentionally looking. WIBU if I said something to them or should I leave them to it?

I think you may find your neighbours become less than "lovely" if you put this bizarre concern to them.

Have your son and his pals actually told you the sight of a naked 2.5 yr old embarrasses them??

I had a bunch of 13 year old girls here this weekend and had to explain to then that it was possible that they might see my DS2 who still occasionally heads to the bathroom naked from his bedroom in the evening. He's 19 but has SN and doesn't understand why it's a problem .

The girls were incredibly sensible and understanding and totally unfazed.
Your DS is being a bit childish TBH.

Dearie me, why on earth shouldn't they let their toddler run around naked in their own garden?
My DS still runs around naked and goes in his paddling pool and he's 7.

You have a strange sense of entitlement op.

You would have hate living next door to us

I had at one point 3 naked toddlers in my garden. Two boys and a girl. One of them wasn't even mine!

I hope she's got plenty of sunscreen on!

Ah, OP, YABU, she's only little. We only get a short time to be naked without any inhibitions, don't try and take this innocent time away from her.
It not that weird for a teenager to feel awkward about nudity, though. Bodies are gross and weird and awkward and hilarious and terrifying at that age, no matter who they belong to. And teenagers are embarrassed by everything and everyone. Anyway, don't say anything to the neighbours, and don't fret. The weather will be turning colder over the next few weeks, and in a year the little girl will probably be past the naked-at-all-times phase.

I don't understand why a teenager would be embarrassed by a naked 2 year old. Yabu to say something.

I could understand if it was one of the adults sunbathing naked (though your garden would most likely be the most popular place in the county), but a two year old? Surely your son wouldn't be embarrassed by that, would he?

Yabvvvvvu. She's two. Your son has picked up your strange attitude and you need to reverse that. No normal person of any age, male or female looks at a baby in that way unless they've been trained to view everybody in a sexual manner. That, not your neighbours child, is disturbing and could potentially lead to issues in his sexual development.

I agree with most posters - the problem is your ds not the naked toddler

YABU

I'm wondering if you're my neighbour OP as my 2.5 yr old is always running around naked in our garden.
If you are : don't come and talk to me as I'll think you are a complete are. My lovely little girl loves being naked and I enjoy every single day she isn't self conscious and body hating. That'll come soon enough I fear so let her enjoy her nakedness in peace and innocence.
Are you one of those people who thinks children shouldn't have sex education as it robs them of their childhood? Cos that's exactly what you're trying to do to this 2 year old - rob them of their innocence.
Shame

Yes, you would be unreasonable and if you came to me and told me that my toddler running around her own garden naked at the end of the summer was embarrassing your son and his friends you would be getting very short shrift to put it mildly.

You conveniently left out why your 13 year old DS has a problem with a naked toddler running about next door.

Suggest to your son that he sits facing your herbaceous border rather than the neighbours' garden. Anyway, school and Autumn start soon which together will help to solve the problem.

YANBU, I would go and have a word with them, what are they thinking?? She should have clothes on!

And yes if you came to me and told me a naked 2 year old was embarrassing your son and his friends and could I make sure they had clothes on at all times I would tell you where to go.

If they are busy playing in the garden, how are they even noticing her?

Higher fence?

Weird as.

Two and a half years old, still a baby. M may be trying to toilet train hence the nakedness. If son and his friends are embarrassed ask why and explain young children enjoy such modes of dress and he probably did the same at times though probably not outside given your paranoia. In a while the dear child will not want to be seen in such a state. Can though understand your concern about potential "snoopers" but that is the risk the M seems happy to take.

YABU

You're only innocent and little for so long.

My DD 3.5 often runs round naked before I smother her in sun cream. Her male friend came round to play before I'd done the cream and no one batted an eye lid.

Coconut why should she have clothes on?

YANBU, I would go and have a word with them, what are they thinking?? She should have clothes on!

Why, Coconut?

Surely your ds and his friends haven't actually said that they are embarrassed have they?

If so they are incredibly immature.

This can't be real, surely?
Nobody is embarrassed by a naked baby ffs!

I think you need to pop to the grip shop for you & your DS
She's a small child, leave her to be naked in her own bloody garden & teach your DS that there is nothing wrong with it.
If she's still naked in the garden at 14 then by all means have a word, she still won't have to put any clothes on though-it's her garden...