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To start a TWELFTH thread that nobody responds to?

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AverageGayLad · 31/08/2016 20:22

See that? A Twelfth. Not the.

Welcome to the twelfth (it DOES look a weird word Confused) thread that nobody responds to! We're a fun bunch, the most fun on mumsnet!! I cba to list everyone and who they are, but I'm sure newbies will get to know us through our posts Wink A couple of quotes from posters, which will have to do as opposed to me writing a description of everyone:

I'd like the words mysterious, mystical and endowed with supetnatural powers after my name please, AGL. says Bettercallsaul1

MyDressIsInferiorBlue adds:
Get a battery operated rabbit they are less trouble than a man but can still thrust (and always on demand too, unlike a man)

AGL I'd like the words 'hot', 'intellectual' and 'witty' after my name, please. No 'flouncing', 'dunno' or 'Co-Op Boy' (the latter is well and truly over). says ItShouldHaveBeenJess, as well as being quoted telling us:
I'd be happy with a thrust. Just one.

Let the insane posts, photos and pouting begin!

Grin
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HelenaDove · 02/09/2016 22:18

Where im situated it can take from 25 to 40 mins to drive to Chelmsford depending on traffic.

HelenaDove · 02/09/2016 22:19

Dress that DC was absolutely right Thanks

BeingATwatItsABingThing · 02/09/2016 22:29

Right, I really am home now.

ItShouldHaveBeenJess · 02/09/2016 22:34

blue. Absolutely agree. Had a very emotional and tearful conversation with my mum this morning because she just couldn't wrap her head around why I stayed for so long. It was actually really cathartic. I'd repeatedly lied to her and my sister about us being together, in order to 'protect' him. He did me a favour by cheating; am not sure I would have found the courage to leave otherwise.

Thank you for sharing.

BeingATwatItsABingThing · 02/09/2016 22:37

What have I missed?

VanillaSugar · 02/09/2016 22:41

We're pouring out hearts out Being Flowers to everyone.

VanillaSugar · 02/09/2016 22:43

Thank you Blue - I've been feeling guilty all day!

Helena shuffles sheepishly Somewhere round Danbury.

BeingATwatItsABingThing · 02/09/2016 22:51

About anything in particular. On this page is seems to be bastard exes.

MyDressIsInferiorBlue · 02/09/2016 22:52

being congrats on fb fame and jet brilliant meme.

Portia I'm astounded you took qualifications whilst living with DV&A you deserve a bloody medal (but I only have a Star). Thank you for sharing your experience.

I was lucky that drink and drugs didn't come into it for me. Ex's parents were "functioning alcoholics" so he was very anti-alcohol. A few of the things he did, in the eight years I was with him, included:

  • Regularly beating me up - I quickly learnt not to fight back. It only made him hurt me more.
  • Regularly smashing/throwing things and ripping down curtain poles.
  • Threw me across a room and repeatedly tried to kick me in the stomach, when 6w pregnant. I didn't realise at the time how lucky I was to have not lost the baby.
  • Moved us away from my family when I was pregnant because we "needed to prioritise his job and I didn't need one anymore"
  • Tried to hit me when holding newborn DS (I left him then and stupidly took him back because he had counselling)
  • Murdered his own pet rabbits - through starvation - despite going out to garden to "feed" them every night for 10-15mins. If I'd known I'd have bloody fed them. It was too late when I found out.
  • Became very controlling about me going out, even with things like taking DS swimming.
  • Regularly assaulted me in front of DC
  • Assaulted my mother (who I'm incredibly close to) - the only time I was brave enough to call the police. Then had to spend the whole night trying to get charges dropped and getting my mom to try too because i felt sorry for him - how bloody ludicrous is that!! Then I took him back - I can't believe I was that stupid.
  • He assaulted me in ways no woman should ever suffer. I can't type the words and I can't say the details but let's put it this way I don't know how I will ever, again, trust a man, "in the bedroom" so to speak. I still couldn't leave.
  • Then his aggression turned onto the DC. I finally got out but still don't feel truely free.

Ironically I cried today because it is his birthday and with the criminal proceedings hanging over him, I think he'll have had a bad birthday and I feel really guilty and sad about it.

carbcraver · 02/09/2016 22:52

Hello and goodnight all.

I have to actually socialise/host family tomorrow. Not looking forward to it.

And I haven't house worked yet so gotta get up and do that cuz I was too lazy to do it today

carbcraver · 02/09/2016 22:56

Oh god blue. Reading these makes me realise firstly how lucky I am and secondly how strong you all are to have gotten out. I hope none of you are still trapped in anything like what's being mentioned.

Makes you think.... How much do we really know about people

BeingATwatItsABingThing · 02/09/2016 22:56

I have FB fame?

VanillaSugar · 02/09/2016 22:57

Blue You're crying for the man you fell in love with. Not for the man he is now. It's OK. You did the right thing. And it shows what a kind person you are.

VanillaSugar · 02/09/2016 22:59

And you're still braver than me as you have opened up and I haven't.

BeingATwatItsABingThing · 02/09/2016 22:59

Oo. Just found it. Grin Oh the excitement.

To start a TWELFTH thread that nobody responds to?
BeingATwatItsABingThing · 02/09/2016 23:00

Flowers for all of you. I will work my way back through the pages I've missed but just letting you know that I love you all.

MyDressIsInferiorBlue · 02/09/2016 23:01

being the serious topic today has been shitty exes.

The fun topics include
+your thread making it on fb and a very nice meme from jet about it (I think that was page 22)

  • far too much talk of Pringles, pics of and talk of yummy cake - which have made me want both.
  • some xmassy stuff. Which would normally annoy me before Halloween but some how is nice on this thread.
VanillaSugar · 02/09/2016 23:05

And someone also said that she loved this thread because we flit with ease from heart rendering tales to total gob shite (not quite those words!)

We are awesome women on the most awesome girls night out EVER.

ItShouldHaveBeenJess · 02/09/2016 23:07

blue. You are a strong and courageous woman. You cried because you have a heart, of which your ex is completely undeserving.

Your posts are so intelligent, thoughtful and funny, that I never dreamt for a minute you have experienced what you have.

Ain't nothing inferior about Ms Blue.

carbcraver · 02/09/2016 23:07

That was me vanilla and yes - best (and longest!!) girls night ever!

HelenaDove · 02/09/2016 23:07

Dress Thanks

PortiaCastis · 02/09/2016 23:14

JeezBlue what a bastard ?
Trying to do this from the Ship Inn so will reply proper!y tomorrow. You're crying because he's the man you love(d)
Love doesn't go away in spite of the abuse
I am a determined madam and saw that course as a way out if that makes sense.
You will get over him it will take time.

My gran is on the sherry and singing oh God!
Will chat tomorrow as this phone has a mi d of its own, must be a male xxx

Original poster
AverageGayLad · 02/09/2016 23:15

Ahem.

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MyDressIsInferiorBlue · 02/09/2016 23:16

And you're still braver than me as you have opened up and I haven't.

Believe me its not bravery. I tried to lock it all away, never to be spoken of. That's what I wanted to do. It's what I had done to begin with. But Ex came back I was forced to start talking to protect the DC. I have never felt more broken than the day I did that police video interview.

VanillaSugar · 02/09/2016 23:18

Yay to carb !!!! Have some carbs 🍺🍪🍰🍔🍟🍕🍞

coughs Your round I think. I'll have a Dirty Martini. Lovely, thanks Grin