To not want to pick up 14 year old DD from XH's holiday

[AbbottLeguarda]

Name changed as this is very identifying.

On Sunday, XH took DD (14) and DS's (16 year old twins) to Wales, along with his wife and her 2 daughters (13 and 11) It's the first time they've all gone away together, DD was really excited, it was the boys who were dragging their feet and now 3 days into the trip and the boys are loving it and DD is crying down the phone, asking me to come pick her up.

Her complaints:

No one talks to her, which I'm sure is an exaggeration, their are 6 other people there, but she said that they've all paired off, step siblings go off without inviting her, DSs' tell her to get lost whenever she's near, XH only spent 10 mins playing cards with her when she'd waited half an hour for him to finish up a game with DSs.

The cottage they're staying in has 4 bedrooms, DS's are sharing, step daughters are sharing, DD gets her own room and I think that's just made her feel more lonely. She says everyone stays up really late in their rooms, playing games, talking and she has no one.

I spoke to XH this morning about how she felt and asked if he could spend more time with her but I've just got off the phone with her begging me to come pick her up.

XH spent an hour watching a show with her and then went fishing for the rest of the day, step siblings were playing some hide and seek game with the other kids around and when she asked to play, one of the kids, not either of her step siblings who were I presume hiding at the time, told her that she wouldn't understand the rules, so she went back inside.

DS's are wrapped up in their own lives, I feel awful for her but their's only 3 more days left.

[SvalbardianPenguin]

I'd go and get her. I went on children's holiday camps year after year and hated them because I was lonely. My parents still talk about how much I loved them, they didn't know that I mainly found a quiet room and sat on my own with a book.

[ConkersDontScareSpiders]

Matthew Wright is an arse >>waves at tv researcher, then sticks jacks up at them

[Italiangreyhound]

Tv presenter sounds a knob!

[milliemolliemou]

Sorry, just a belated word. It's the curse/blessing of the mobile phone. Had a young European visitor to stay (11ish) who was having a good time. I spoke their language, they spoke mine and got on with my DC. But on their mobile they were always breaking down. On the other hand, if she had been appalling miserable it was good to know they could be in contact.

[Swordofthespirit]

How well does OP's DD actually know the step sisters prior to the holiday? Because it sounds like this might be the real problem.

[DiegeticMuch]

Saves the "researchers" having to do any graft, I suppose.

[HeCantBeSerious]

He also completely dismissed Oliver James' points about your 14 yr old DD. That's Oliver James, the child clinical psychologist. Because he (MW) as a childless 50-year-old-self-confessed-child-hater obviously knows more than a man who has spent his career working with them.

I thought it an awful segment. They took one call (which was in line with his view) and dismissed OJ's extremely valid points out of hand.

[AndYourBirdCanSing]

What a prick!! How fucking rude.

Does make you think twice about starting threads on here

[AndYourBirdCanSing]

Good job you did namechange as well

[HeartsTrumpDiamonds]

What a jerk! MW I mean.

[donajimena]

Cheeky MW!
Went away for the weekend and there was a minor disagreement.. my son sent an SOS text to my parents.. half an hour later amongst MUCH laughing and merriment my parents were ringing demanding to know what had happened!
I wasn't even aware that he had messaged them.