to move away from family to get out of privately renting? Really confused :-(

[Worriedwoe]

Thanks for reading and will try and keep this as short as poss!
We currently live in littlehampton near my mum.
My brother also lives nearby in a village and my elderly nan lives here too so all close family are here.
We have been privately renting for 12 years and have moved 6 times until this last " long term let " where we have been here 3 years and no major issues apart from a £25 year increase per year which is a bit of a joke considering the state of the property when we took it as it was hubby who sorted the whole lot out.
Anyway, fast forward to now.
2 children aged 4 and 2 and mother has been quite unwell recently after suffering a minor stroke but she is now recovered.
Brother offers no support and sees her about once a month if that even though he lives up the road.
I've always worried about renting privately as find it so unstable for the kids and low and behold we have been offered a 3 bedroomed house in Reigate from a local housing association on a " market rent " scheme due to one becoming available and my husband works in the area in a government job so he comes high on the list.
The rent is a bit higher than here but is set rent and contract is renewed every 5 years as long as no breaches so security is obviously there.
My mum is in bits, she doesn't drive and still works Monday - Friday so realistically it will become once a week and sometimes less if the kids have bits on and all the travelling is going to fall on me :-(
I will miss my mum terribly but my husband says I need to think of the children who need a home not a shell that they keep moving from.
What would you do?
All opinions gratefully received x

OP - you really should grab this opportunity with both hands. It will be so much better for your DC. Your DM is being very selfish expecting you to live round the corner and you are only moving an hour away.

I agree with PP about the Irish properties. If your DM successfully turfs out those sitting tenants I will eat my hat.

This sounds ridiculous. Your gran was a Dr, obviously must have earned a huge amount has an amazing pension and 1/2 million pounds of property yet not only does she live in rented accommodation. Your mother does and you do.

Where did all the money go?

All we can see is you telling us how loaded your family are yet not one of you live in a home you own.

She inherited the property etc from her mother.
Her sisters sold all the other property, shared the money and enjoy a nice life.
It is all distorted loyalty I agree but this is what my nan chose, there have been many fallouts because of it but she just wouldn't dream of asking all these relatives to leave so this is what she does.
She never wanted to buy property, she used an awful lot of money when she retired to travel the road and then has been renting herself in littlehampton ever since.
I certainly wouldn't have dealt with things like she has, but my mum will inherit it at some point and then I hope my my will buy herself something to last her until she passes but she's insistent she will go into sheltered accomodation and I can buy outright.
The housing trust home seems far safer and allows her to choose whether to buy for herself instead of feeling like she has to help us I think.

Why is the grandmother paying all the bills and let her nieces and nephews live rent in a foreign country but not help her daughter or granddaughter?

If mum is looking at sheltered accommodation via a LA/HA she may well not be entitled to it as a she owns properties

If this is actually true, OP you are being manipulated and must move forward independent of these promises that for many reasons are unlikely to materialise. You mum just wants to keep you convenient so definitely isn't being 'great with the kids'. She is disregarding what is best for the kids for her own selfish reasons. I hope you make the right decision.

So did your mum grow up in a rented house?
Did your gran not buy a house on her salary. Surely it would have been more prudent to buy than to rent for 70 years.

This is getting more ridiculous. Your gran didn't want to own property yet when presented with property everyone else sells their share but your dgm refuses to sell.

The figures don't add up. How can your Gm have gone through the equivalent of hundreds, possibly millions of pounds.

To end up with a pension pot that allows you to run 4x4 bedroom houses and her own place she must have put in over the years more than 1/2 million pounds.
What she spent the money on you say doesn't add up to what she has now.
There doesn't seem to be any mention of where the money has gone. Or why she prefers to leave your dm with a whole host of problems (can't see the current residents of the 4 houses being agreeable to packing up their business and their homes and moving out without a fight)

Back to your questions about the local area Op, I would prefer to live on the Watercolours development than Woodhatch but you'll probably get more space in Woodhatch. As for going prices for rent, we pay £920 a month for a small two bed terrace not that far away from there, and that's mates rates as the house belongs to a friend. I'd love to live in a 3 bed but we just can't afford it round here.

No my nan did own until she sold to pay for grandads care before he passed
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