To want to do physical harm ...

[ZenMom]

Ok so in the queue at morrisons. Get to the end and realise oh shit I've left my bank card at home as had taken it out my phone case to order something and forgot to put it back in.

No harm, have another with me for my savings account so very nicely apologise to the cashier and explain I'm just going to do a quick bank transfer as left card at home.

Seemed pretty reasonable to me and wouldn't take but a moment.

Woman behind me starts tutting and tapping her foot. It's literally been seconds.

I turned and apologised for the two minute delay and she actually scowled and tutted again.

I said, in a moderate tone, we've all done it or something like it I suppose.

She replied - well no not me, I never go into a shop without being able to pay for my purchases.

Flabbergasted at that point and say - well I wish I were as perfect as you. And turned away.

Woman serving me says, to me, there's no need for that attitude.

So now I am not just mildly irritated by the sanctimonious wifey behind me but really wanting to bitch slap the woman serving me.

I asked her if she had actually heard the convo before what I said. She said yes and the woman hadn't deserved it - it wasn't her causing the delay after all.

I must add that by this point the transaction on my phone was long done and I had been ready to pay.

Yes I realise I made an error in the card but hell, kids, work, life, human error - when a) did people lose all tolerance and b) since when is it ok for a cashier (or any employee where you are the customer) to jump in on a conversation and side with one person.

I did go to the supervisor who had witnessed it and she smiled and said she knew I would be coming over and had heard to and agreed the cashier shouldn't have butted in. Then I'm thinking - if she bloody heard it why let me be out through the awkwardness.

Mystified :(

Where it goes I have no idea but I'm left feeling very angry and as if human error is no longer tolerated --and really really wanting to do physical harm to another person.

I don't think my feelings are unreasonable - no I'm a grown up and wouldn't act on my impulse to violence - maybe some will say I'm letting it get to me lol but my god I needed a rant.

Things I don't mind

• people paying for their shopping even if it takes 5 minutes.

Things I do mind

• people forgetting items then running off into the shop to find. No, pay for your food then go back around and use the 10 items or less checkout.

OR send your DP/DC to get items for you and carry on paying. If they're not back by the time you've paid then send them to the 10 items or less checkout and pay there. If thats too much hassle write a list and take your time instead so you remember everything.

-People who get snappy about it taking too long. I get this from people because I don't use veg bags. Sorry, bad for the environment and should be banned. It takes 10 seconds longer for checkout staff to weigh the veg. Sometimes I even bring my own cloth veg bags but tbh If I'm only buying 3 carrots I don't bother.

-generally Rude people.

-People who push in a queue because their basket of items will be faster than your trolley. These people, I push them back and pay for my shopping in a leisurely manner just to piss them off. Don't queue jump!

Side note. If you need to shop quickly or don't have time to wait go run your other errands before going shopping. Don't expect other people to fit to your schedule. Its fucking entitled.

Sure wish some moaning shopper was all I had to get worked up about. If I ever encounter stuff like this I then become overly nice, kill em with kindness as they say. You can't moan about someone else's tolerance level or lack of, when you have seen fit to come on here wanting to do physical harm at a few cross exchange of words, pick your battles well or forever be going to war.

Or shop on line, you can take as long as you like then and no one ever holds you up at the check up.

Nicki - you could be right lol. I couldn't believe it at first, the comments that is, and was a bit defensive but have since learned that this is actually making my point for me.

When did it happen that we have no tolerance for others? Is this teeny delay really something to have got so annoyed about - as I say it took longer for the interaction than my transfer which says it all.

I think I was tolerant of the woman's impatience, turning round to apologise to her individually when I realised she was so annoyed. I only became intolerant when she suggested I couldn't pay for my shopping. I had a glib jibe about being perfect. I was still calm though. And yes I Could have just let it go but again, I'm not perfect.

I'll continue to show tolerance at the checkout and realise people are human and not perfect. And if this is what being perfect is like (some of the comments on here) then I don't want it tbh.

Yanbu, life is stressful, its all about being tolerant. This wouldn't have pissed me off, it's the ones who are oblivious to queues and seem reluctant to pack their stuff, pay and clear off who do.

I haven't rtft but I work in a shop and this happens often. It's really fine! Shit happens. Nobody is perfect. I always apologise to the next customer if it's happened but they're usually fine. I think the woman behind you was just in a hurry or in a mood.
It's like people who are behind a learner at traffic lights and they stall so you have to wait an extra 10 seconds and there's people honking horns and getting irate. It's seconds. At the time if probably feels like a year but it's not.

Aww OP, I agree with you and feel bad you got such a slating!

Crunchymum what a load of bollocks your post is.

OP apologised, got on as quickly as she could. Woman was rude to her first, then cashier piped up which was totally unprofessional anyway.

Yet OP is in the wrong for replying?

The mind boggles.

If you don't want want to be held up by people in the supermarket, shop online.

When did it happen that we have no tolerance for others?

This from someone who refers to a woman as a sanctimonious wifey, would like to bitchslap the cashier & starts a thread with, To want to do physical harm.

I dont think yabu atall!!!

People who have no patience and who are rude about being held up an extra minute are the most annoying on earth. That woman needs to lighten up!!

It's all very good to preach patience, compassion, and kindness but in her original post the OP was talking about bitch slapping a stranger she started an argument with after delaying because of her own mistake

sorry x-post with Lordamighty who said it better

I think it's rather different to have an anonymous rant on a forum than to actually be foot stamping and whining over a minutes delay in RL. Do people really need that explaining? She didn't actually do it

No I didn't lol it was, as I've said many many times now, tongue in cheek and I'm sorry some haven't picked up on that initially or my statements since :)

I clearly don't know he etiquette of venting but hey ho.

Thank you for taking the time to clarify, none of us read that you actually started a physical fight with anyone!

However, I did read that you started an argument and were obviously in a terrible mood, at the point that you felt the need to start an internet thread about a non existent incident. Not so patient and kind then

Of course cherry you're right silly me lol ;) you were there and I wasn't. My actions clearly started an argument... Case in point thanks

I hate checkout faffers, but it can happen to anyone. I left my debit card in the car once, and all my shopping was already bagged up and ready to go. They did some sort of voiding that meant I could come back when I had my card and the shopping didn't need to be scanned through again, so I just rejoined the queue and paid the amount that had been pre-calculated. OP, you could have done the same, and let the person behind you go through while you did the transfer.

I get you harsh and if that would have been quicker then I absolutely would have done - I hate to inconvenience anyone - but the app transaction lasted less than 45 seconds. I don't see the people in the queue being happy to wait while the supervisor is called to park the transaction, my scanned items are moved etc.

And this is why I shop online. Lovely Sainsbo's drivers turn up on time, bring it all in and pop it on the kitchen table for me whilst having a nice chat

I'd've been a bit put out too if someone couldn't be bothered mustering up a bit of sympathy or humour, however insincere, when I'd forgotten my card and was sorting it out as soon as possible. You were doing the best you could as fast as you could. Nobbing about with parking the shopping, clearing it all off, whatever, would have taken so much longer. Perhaps queue woman was having a bad day. Mind you, I don't see why I should have to be polite if someone else isn't. High horses are so precarious.

Crunchymum what a load of bollocks your post is

So my post is bollocks when the OP is spouting this kind of nonsense

"but really wanting to bitch slap the woman serving me."

"I'm left feeling very angry and as if human error is no longer tolerated --and really really wanting to do physical harm to another person"

Alrighty then!!

I've noticed a theme on a lot of posts - how one or two comments are pounced on and clarifications ignored - ah well.

OP have you not learned to be perfect yet?!
You've had all night!

I think some people have missed the point of having a rant on the internet. Just because you wanted to bitch slap someone isn't really the same as actually doing it...

YANBU

The first half of replies you got are madness.

You made a mistake, you apologised twice and got rudeness back.

If the woman behind you can't put up with a minutes delay she needs to shop online.

It is also ridiculous to say that OP should have packed and let the cashier continue to serve the person behind. It takes seconds to transfer money, no time at all. If someone can't wait seconds for someone to transfer money then that is their problem.

Sadly not star - note to self - must improve ones perfectness I'll try but I fear I am doomed for failure before I even start hehe

this is brilliant. Anyone who doesn't agree with you is wrong. Fair enough, but please do your shopping online!