To want to do physical harm ...

[ZenMom]

Ok so in the queue at morrisons. Get to the end and realise oh shit I've left my bank card at home as had taken it out my phone case to order something and forgot to put it back in.

No harm, have another with me for my savings account so very nicely apologise to the cashier and explain I'm just going to do a quick bank transfer as left card at home.

Seemed pretty reasonable to me and wouldn't take but a moment.

Woman behind me starts tutting and tapping her foot. It's literally been seconds.

I turned and apologised for the two minute delay and she actually scowled and tutted again.

I said, in a moderate tone, we've all done it or something like it I suppose.

She replied - well no not me, I never go into a shop without being able to pay for my purchases.

Flabbergasted at that point and say - well I wish I were as perfect as you. And turned away.

Woman serving me says, to me, there's no need for that attitude.

So now I am not just mildly irritated by the sanctimonious wifey behind me but really wanting to bitch slap the woman serving me.

I asked her if she had actually heard the convo before what I said. She said yes and the woman hadn't deserved it - it wasn't her causing the delay after all.

I must add that by this point the transaction on my phone was long done and I had been ready to pay.

Yes I realise I made an error in the card but hell, kids, work, life, human error - when a) did people lose all tolerance and b) since when is it ok for a cashier (or any employee where you are the customer) to jump in on a conversation and side with one person.

I did go to the supervisor who had witnessed it and she smiled and said she knew I would be coming over and had heard to and agreed the cashier shouldn't have butted in. Then I'm thinking - if she bloody heard it why let me be out through the awkwardness.

Mystified :(

Where it goes I have no idea but I'm left feeling very angry and as if human error is no longer tolerated --and really really wanting to do physical harm to another person.

I don't think my feelings are unreasonable - no I'm a grown up and wouldn't act on my impulse to violence - maybe some will say I'm letting it get to me lol but my god I needed a rant.

I've got that Lloyds app and it really doesn't take seconds.

YABU. Can't stand people farting about at tills.

I would have not paid, walked out and left all the shopping at the till, that would show them a delay.

terribly mature attitude, so you end up with empty shopping bags and you have to waste your time doing the whole thing all over again?

OP, you made a mistake, but you also appeared extremely unpleasant and confrontational in your first posts which would have rightly irritated people. Now that you've calmed down, you seem much more friendly.
So YABU.

Judy - as already stated and picked up on by others - it was tongue in cheek and a vent. I would not actually do bodily harm to anyone. I don't think the post is being read by everyone - it wasn't a couple of comments by a checkout person but hey ho:)

I would have probably walked out and left the shopping behind at the point the checkout assistant said about attitude.

It takes about a minute for me to log in and move money on my Lloyds app from one account to another. One minute. If you can't wait one minute there's something seriously wrong with you.

When did it become ok to tap your foot in impatience at folk? Why scowl when someone apologises? The woman behind you was a dick, no question.

As an aside, last time I took the DCs to the supermarket the youngest needed the loo at the exact moment the shopping started to come through the checkout. I was solo, and had a little "argh" moment before the cashier said "take him, I'll pack the stuff up and wait for you". And that's why I continue to shop there, because if the staff were asshats I'd take my money elsewhere.

I live in old people ville and 45 second delay is nothing. Actually, 2 minutes delay is pretty bog standard with lots of people, not just the oldies. I didn't know about the fast bank transfer app, so presumably it was expectation of 10 minute delay that made the customer find her Inner Cow.

Delays are one reason I quite like self-service :).

Sorry you've had such a hard time on thread, Zen.

Also, we live quite close to a lovely little garden centre popular with older folk. We nipped in yesterday for some lunch and in front of us was an older couple buying lunches/teas. She was struggling to hold the tray and keep her DH by her side so I asked DS1 if he could hold their tray while they went to the till. He did, took it to their table and even went and got them little teaspoons and napkins. I'm sure a 10 year old boy doesn't want to spend a few minutes of his day helping old folk. I'm sure plenty wouldn't. But I'm also sure that he needs to learn to help and be patient, and that it made their day having a kid offer to help them rather than being impatient at them taking a while to get through the till.

People need to think how their attitudes are going to impact on their DCs, too; I don't want mine growing up into those dickheads who are in such a rush they are openly rude to anyone in their way.

Hold on! The OP apologised all round her for the delay, got some nasty attitude off the woman behind and responded sharply to an insult she received. Then the check out lady got a dig in too.

OP I'm with you on this.

But SpaceUnicorn OP asked if she WA being unreasonable wanting to hurt someone.
Not if she WA U for forgetting her cards etc. Which of course she wasn't, We all make mistakes.
And Zen OP doesn't sound very light and frothy and tongue in cheek, all that angst of where does this go, I'm so angry etc. But maybe when I read it I made a simple human error that should be tolerated to paraphrase.
I'm not usually a nitpicking misery guts

I'm on your side OP.
No idea why you're getting such a hard time. You made a mistake, rectified it as quickly as possible.

People are impatient twats. That woman behind was delayed by all of 3 minutes.

The only time I got impatient was when I manged to end up behind a trolley full, then as she was unloading, the husband turns up with a another trolley full, got arsey when I said I wouldn't move my stuff (had unloaded most of the trolley at this point), he could go after me. Then the lady did the whole, waiting for the assistant to tell her the amount before rummaging around for her purse. She then handed over a wad of coupons. Then faffed around trying to find payment method. paid some cash. Some cheque. Then wouldn't move out of the way for me and my shopping. All with the man muttering and puttering about how I was being a knob, and how rude I had been etc.

And the ungrateful fucker never said thank you when I put the separator on the belt for him!

YABU. You were fucking about in the checkout line and you are complaining about others!

I don't think what you did was that bad, I think the woman was rude to huff and puff and the cashier was rude to join in.

I do think you were silly to get involved in an exchange with them both. It would have been better to just do the bank transfer and pack your shopping as quickly as possible. It all makes you sound like a stress head.

To be honest though we all have done things like this, perhaps not exactly forgotten their card but forgotten something, held someone up, made a mistake, been arsey with someone.

Anyone who hasn't can just bugger off and polish their halo.

Yanbu, it sounds like you handled the situation pretty well, maybe not perfectly but then who is perfect when they're flustered and embarrassed? So easy to be impatient with people and not try to put yourself in their shoes.

Don't worry about the rude posters, some people on here like to be rude and pick on people who post in AIBU. Really no need for some of these personal comments.

I always get stuck behind someone dithering about with 100's of coupons that don't work. It annoys me but I just wait quietly.

Then when it's my turn the cashier throws all my shopping at me and I can't pack it quickly enough.

Bloody hate shopping.

I hate checkout faffers with a passion, although I'm sure it didn't even take a minute to transfer the money so I don't think I would have minded.
Bus stop faffers are the worse, they stand there for 15/20 mins and then when the bus pulls up and they get on, it is only then that they start getting their bus fare out
Drives.me.insane!

YABU. You should have let the cashier continue serving others while you transferred your money.,

YABU. You were fucking about in the checkout line and you are complaining about others!

Well she wasn't was she? She forgot her card, it wasn't done on purpose, it wasn't done to annoy people, it wasn't done because she thinks she's more important than others.

Honestly I am shocked by just how nasty and judgmental people are being on this thread. Clearly you would have been huffing and puffing and getting angry in the queue too, I would be embarrassed to admit that I was like that. Personally I think if you view a simple human error like this then you need to take a good look at the kind of person you are.

The folks who are whining about a short delay better not visit rural Ireland then.
Here, the cashiers in the local major supermarket will LEAVE the till to get a few purchases for the old lady who's put 3 things on the belt and then handed her a list.
Or the customers that stop for a chat with the cashier to enquire about the health of various family members and who's had a good death recently.
Tutting and eye rolling wouldn't make a jot of difference.
It's grand. Everyone is chilled and happy.

Was the delay 2 minutes or 45 seconds? Make up your mind OP.

Your predisposition towards violence (thread title and wanting to "bitchslap" staff members) doesn't paint you in a very flattering light to be honest.

Look your 2 minutes might not seem like much but I often have to nip to the supermarket on my way home from work / on route to picking up my kids to then do dinner, bath, bed, and chores so faffers fuck me right off.

Rude, entitled faffers need to be told. Well done to the other customer and the cashier.

Human error is fine. Being rude is not.

I'm going against the grain and saying that it was just 'one of those things' that everyone in the scenario could have improved their behaviour.
The cash transfer thing isn't a big deal and the person behind you should have been grateful you didn't put each item back one by one until you had the right change for example (or any number of other requests that take forever). It can be annoying when there's a delay but hey shit happens put on a fake smile and get on with it.
The cashier should not have got involved at all unless to offer you any assistance or apologise for the delay to the customer behind.
I think you should move on. You seem quite stressed by this. Try to forget it.

Indeed. If only all concerned had been understanding and kept their mouths shut it would never have escalated would it?

"sanctimonious wifey"

Wow.

Crunchymum, why are you pick pick picking at the OPs details. It's a bit over the top.

The only thing you did wrong was post in here OP. The attacks and abuse you've received in here are far worse than anything you said or thought during the original incident.