Why post online a photo of your ill child when you check in to the local hospital??

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Just why??? If you need help, your phone obviously works, text someone FGS

I don't understand it, my (older, preteen) DC would be mortified.

AIBU to think it is all about mummy getting attention, not the ill child.

Flame away

My sister has a child with a rare and life threatening heart condition .,I have some insight into what she goes through, granted it's not my own child but Iv spent many hours in hospitals being her support

Incidentally the people on my Facebook with the sickest children, like chronically ill, are those who actually post the least, when they do post they are generally quite informative and respond to the concern of their friends and family

I never said it was the same .,i said I have some insight ..didn't say it was the same at all I think you're focusing on me when I'm clearly not the only person with this opinion

Just to say dd2 was fine and asking for food as soon as she came back from recovery so we are safely home. And she's still demanding food!

I rarely post about Ds problems on FB. But when he is admitted I often do.

When he has been st his worse he has been on life support, with me unable to do anything for him, just sit by the bed 24/7 waiting and praying. Sometimes you need to do something to escape from it and if an update post on FB is what that is then why is that wrong?

Fab mini

Wow ..so you want to police my opinion and run roughshod over every thing I said but I'm narky? Lol
Are you a vague booker by any chance?

Glitter that's out of order. Did you not read that Mrs DeVere has suffered a huge loss yet you carry on with comments like Are you a vague booker.... Words fail me. No your not the only one with this judgemental stance, as I said others have said worse but they haven't come back over and over defending their opinion.

I'd rather see a picture of a sick kid than one of someone's fucking dinner! Or their sickly holiday snaps! Or a pathetic duck face selfie!
You try being stuck in a hospital ward in a hard chair for weeks on end, when every little thing your kid does is a major achievement, and social media is your only link to any kind of normality.
MrsDevere has it exactly right!

That's great mini, so pleased for you. DS4 is always starving when he comes round. I always go and raid the hospital shop while he is in theatre because he always seems to wake up just after they have cleared away a meal and the only thing on offer is 2 pieces of toast.

MrsDeVere as always I agree with everything you've said. There have been so many threads like this, telling us mums of chronically ill dc's about what we should be thinking, feeling or doing. But despite the death of your lovely DD you are always on these threads supporting those of us still going through it. Thankyou so much for that, it's really appreciated. It's posters like you who taught me in the early days with DS4 that it was ok not to be some kind of virtuous hair stroking saint. That it was ok to watch dvd's, go to costa etc while he was in theatre without being a selfish person (apparently I should have been stood in the way of the recovery room doors for 3 hours, waiting for news ).

When DS4 has had operations we have been actively encouraged to take photos and save things like hospital bracelets, heart monitor stickers etc. Because he won't remember the early operations when he is older and it will help him to understand. Some of these photos I post on facebook, others not. Any photos taken are of him asleep or having fun, none are of him either upset or needing me. I think the phrase walk a mile in my shoes is very relevant here. Because so many people think they know what they'd do if it was them. But they don't know what it's like until they've lived it themselves.

Does same person post things like:

Worst day ever I'm so sooo upset

And wait for lots of, 'what's up Hun' ?

I must point out that a child who is genuinely long term I think is completely different.

The only thing I worry about in all Facebook posts with kids on- mine and others - is if it's ok without their say so? Still haven't decided what I even think on that one!

I'd rather see a picture of a sick kid than one of someone's fucking dinner! Or their sickly holiday snaps! Or a pathetic duck face selfie!

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Unfortunately in the majority of cases, the sick child is accompanied by a duckfaced selfie, on with the child looking on miserably in the background. These are the ones I cannot stand. It is way different to parents updating others on their childs treatment, and is all about attention. No denying it.

I understand MrsDevere and I agree with you a whole lot, social media is a massive thing and I'm one who shares a lot too. A few months ago there was a thread slagging off people who wrote about themselves 'feeling blessed' on facebook, as though they'd committed the crime of the century for posting how they feel happy and lucky, and I really disliked it. Sharing has become a big part of our culture, and I see no harm in it, except in certain situations like the one I've described. Of course there's plenty of people who post photos of their children and updates to make sure family and friends are aware, and I have facebook friends who do so, so I can see the difference between them and someone who is just using their child for attention like the woman in my scenario.

There's a very very poorly child who lives in my town and his mother created a facebook page, something akin to 'calebs journey', and you can tell how helpful it is to the parents and it's allowed them to recieve all sorts of support they might have missed out on. So I understand those completely! But there's differences IYSWIM?

I see it as a way to say the child is in hospital and lets people know, then you can get some support. Considering the wait you to be seen even before treatment is given it kind of makes sense. I have never seen it as attention seeking.